How to stop a child from throwing temper tantrums

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Temper tantrums can be frustrating for any parent. But instead of looking at them as disasters, treat tantrums as opportunities for education.

Why Do Kids Have Tantrums?

Temper tantrums range from whining and crying to screaming, kicking, hitting, and breath-holding spells. They're equally common in boys and girls and usually happen between the ages of 1 to 3.

Some kids may have tantrums often, and others have them rarely. Tantrums are a normal part of child development. They're how young children show that they're upset or frustrated.

Tantrums may happen when kids are tired, hungry, or uncomfortable. They can have a meltdown because they can't have something they want (like a toy or candy) or can’t get someone to do what they want (like getting a parent to pay attention to them immediately or getting a sibling to give up the tablet). Learning to deal with frustration is a skill that children gain over time.

Tantrums are common during the second year of life, when language skills are developing. Because toddlers can't always say what they want or need, and because words describing feelings are more complicated and develop later, a frustrating experience may cause a tantrum. As language skills improve, tantrums tend to decrease.

Toddlers want independence and control over their environment — more than they can actually handle. This can lead to power struggles as a child thinks "I can do it myself" or "I want it, give it to me." When kids discover that they can't do it and can't have everything they want, they may have a tantrum.

How Can We Avoid Tantrums?

Try to prevent tantrums from happening in the first place, whenever possible. Here are some ideas that may help:

Give plenty of positive attention. Get in the habit of catching your child being good. Reward your little one with praise and attention for positive behavior. Be specific about praising behaviors you want to see happen more often (such as, “I like the way you said please and waited for your milk” or “Thank you for sharing the blocks with your sister. ”)
Try to give toddlers some control over little things. Offer minor choices such as "Do you want orange juice or apple juice?" or "Do you want to brush your teeth before or after taking a bath?" This way, you aren't asking "Do you want to brush your teeth now?" — which of course will be answered "no." Allow control when it doesn’t really matter. Instead of struggling over an outfit your child puts on that doesn’t match, for example, consider whether this may be an opportunity to allow self-expression and independence and if it really makes a difference given the day's schedule.
Keep off-limits objects out of sight and out of reach. This makes struggles less likely. Obviously, this isn't always possible, especially outside of the home where the environment can't be controlled.
Distract your child. Try offering something else in place of what they can't have. Start a new activity to replace the frustrating or forbidden one (for example, if your child is jumping on the couch, ask them to come help you “cook” by offering a plastic container and wooden spoon. Then you can praise them for helping or following directions, rather than having them start a tantrum or refuse to get down). Or simply change the environment. Take your toddler outside or inside or move to a different room.
Help kids learn new skills and succeed. Help kids learn to do things. Praise them to help them feel proud of what they can do. Also, start with something simple before moving on to more challenging tasks.
Consider the request carefully when your child wants something. Is it outrageous? Maybe it isn't. Choose your battles. It's even OK to change your mind if you originally said no — but find a way to allow the desired treat as a reward for good behavior.
Know your child's limits. If you know your toddler is tired, it's not the best time to go grocery shopping or try to squeeze in one more errand. Hungry kids are more likely to demand food in the store than children who have just had a meal (just like adults!).

What Should I Do During a Tantrum?

Keep your cool when responding to a tantrum. Don't complicate the problem with your own frustration or anger. Remind yourself that your job is helping your child learn to calm down. So you need to be calm too.

Tantrums should be handled differently depending on why your child is upset. Sometimes, you may need to provide comfort. If your child is tired or hungry, it's time for a nap or a snack. Other times, its best to ignore an outburst or distract your child with a new activity.

If a tantrum is happening to get attention from parents, one of the best ways to reduce this behavior is to ignore it. If a tantrum happens after your child is refused something, stay calm and don't give a lot of explanations for why your child can't have what they want. Move on to another activity with your child.

If a tantrum happens after your child is told to do something they don't want to do, it's best to ignore the tantrum. But be sure that you follow through on having your child complete the task after they're calm.

Kids who are in danger of hurting themselves or others during a tantrum should be taken to a quiet, safe place to calm down. This also applies to tantrums in public places.

If a safety issue is involved and a toddler repeats the forbidden behavior after being told to stop, use a time-out by sitting the child on a designated chair or in the corner for just a few minutes. Be nearby so that you can supervise, but do not interact until they are calm. Be consistent. Don't give in on safety issues.

Preschoolers and older kids are more likely to use tantrums to get their way if they've learned that this behavior works. For school-age kids, it's appropriate to send them to their rooms to cool off while paying little attention to the behavior.

Let your child know that you will tell them when the time-out is over and that the sooner they are calm and quiet, the sooner it will end. This is empowering — kids can affect the outcome by their own actions, and thus gain a sense of control that was lost during the tantrum.

Do not reward your child's tantrum by giving in. This will only prove to your little one that the tantrum was effective.

Consider making a “chill out” or “calm down” spot in your home (some teachers use this in preschool, as well). Use a soft cushion and provide books, a stuffed animal, some soft music, and other calming activities in a place where others won’t disturb the child. Encourage your child to go to the spot when angry or upset — not as a punishment, but as a choice and an opportunity to learn to calm down and control frustration.

What Should I Do After a Tantrum?

Praise your child for regaining control — for example, "I like how you calmed down."

Kids may be especially vulnerable after a tantrum when they know they've been less than adorable. Now (when your child is calm) is the time for a hug and reassurance that your child is loved, no matter what. If your child is old enough to discuss the problem, help them come up with some other ways they might have expressed their frustration.

Make sure your child gets enough sleep. With too little sleep, kids can become hyper, disagreeable, and have extremes in behavior. Getting enough sleep can greatly reduce tantrums. Find out how much sleep is needed at your child’s age. Most kids' sleep needs fall within a set range of hours based on their age, but each child is unique.

When Should I Call the Doctor?

Talk to your doctor if:

You often feel angry or out of control when you respond to tantrums.
You keep giving in to try to avoid your child acting out.
The tantrums cause a lot of bad feelings between you and your child or you and your partner.
The tantrums happen more often, are more intense, or last longer.
Your child often self-harms or hurts others.
Your child seems very disagreeable, argues a lot, and hardly ever cooperates.

Your doctor also can check for any health problems that may add to the tantrums, although this is not common. Sometimes, hearing or vision problems, a chronic illness, language delays, or a learning disability can make kids more likely to have tantrums.

Remember, tantrums usually aren't cause for concern and generally stop on their own. As kids mature, they gain self-control. They learn to cooperate, communicate, and cope with frustration. Less frustration and more control will mean fewer tantrums — and happier parents.

Strategies & Tips for Parents

Written by Stephanie Watson

You're standing in the snack aisle of the supermarket. Lying at your feet is your toddler, who has just been informed (by you) that, no, they cannot have the Cinderella fruit snacks. Their face has turned a shade somewhere between red and purple. Their fists are pounding the floor in fury as they emit a shriek that can be heard in the farthest reaches of the parking lot. The other shoppers are gaping at this spectacle as you wish desperately for a hole to open in the floor and swallow you up.

Many a parent has been through a scenario like this, although the tantrum might have taken a slightly different form; crying, hitting, kicking, stomping, throwing things, and breath holding are all popular tantrum techniques.

Temper tantrums are exceedingly common in children, especially between ages 1 and 4 -- the early part of which is sometimes called the "terrible 2s" -- when kids are still learning how to communicate effectively. More than half of young children will have one or more tantrums a week as they vent their frustrations and protest their lack of control.

Although they are a normal part of the toddler repertoire, temper tantrums can be distressing to parents. When they occur infrequently, tantrums aren't a big deal and are best ignored. It's when they become regular or intense that parents need to look into what's causing them and find ways to stop them.

Tantrum Triggers

Some children are more prone to tantrums, particularly kids who are intense, hyperactive, or moody, or kids who don't adapt well to new environments. For most toddlers, tantrums are simply a way of getting out their frustration and testing limits (Will mommy buy me that toy if I scream really loud?).

The smallest things, from asking them to take a bath while they're in the middle of watching Sesame Street to requesting that they share a favorite stuffed animal with a younger sibling, can set off young children. Any situation that involves change may spawn a tantrum. Add fatigue or hunger to the equation and children, their threshold for tolerance even lower, are even more likely to throw a tantrum.

How to Stop the Screaming

The easiest way to stop a temper tantrum is to give the child what they want. Obviously, that strategy won't do you any good in the long run, because your child will constantly go into tantrum mode whenever they want something.

The first step in defusing a temper tantrum is to keep your own temper in check. You're not going to get anywhere with your child if both of you are screaming at each other. Spanking your child is also not a good option, and it will only make the tantrum worse. Take a deep breath, gain control over your emotions, and then discipline your child by calmly but firmly letting them know that tantrums are not acceptable behavior.

If your child still won't calm down and you know the tantrum is just a ploy to get your attention, don't give in. Even if you have to walk through the supermarket dragging your screaming toddler, just ignore the tantrum. It is easier said than done, but stick to your guns and eventually the duration will lessen and they will know you are serious and this is not going to work. Once your child realizes the temper tantrum isn't getting them anywhere, they'll stop screaming.

If your child is upset to the point of being inconsolable or out of control, hold them tightly to calm them down. Tell them gently that you love them but that you're not going to give them what they want. If that doesn't work, remove them from the situation and put them in a time-out for a minute or two to give them time to calm down. The general guideline for the length of a time-out is one minute per year of the child's age.

It’s also OK for you to take a break if you feel like you’re losing control. Put your baby in a safe spot, like a crib or playpen, and take a few minutes to regroup. Go into another room and listen to music, call a friend, or do something relaxing.

Tantrum Prevention Tactics

Instead of having to stop a temper tantrum after it starts, prevent it by following these tips:

Avoid situations in which tantrums are likely to erupt. Try to keep your daily routines as consistent as possible and give your child a five-minute warning before changing activities.
Communicate with your toddler. Don't underestimate their ability to understand what you are saying. Tell them the plan for the day and stick to your routine to minimize surprises.
Allow your child to take a toy or food item with them while you run errands. It may help them stay occupied.
Make sure your child is well rested and fed before you go out so they don't blow up at the slightest provocation.
Put away off-limit temptations (for example, don't leave candy bars lying on the kitchen counter close to dinnertime) so they don't lead to battles.
Give your toddler a little bit of control. Let your child choose which book to bring in the car or whether they want grilled cheese or peanut butter and jelly for lunch. These little choices won't make much of a difference to you, but they'll make your child feel as though they have at least some control over their own life.
Pick your battles. Sometimes you can give in a little, especially when it comes to small things. Would you rather let your child watch 15 extra minutes of television or listen them scream for 30 minutes?
Distract. A young child's attention is fleeting and easy to divert. When your child's face starts to crinkle and redden in that telltale way, open a book or offer to go on a walk to the park before it can escalate into a full-blown tantrum. Sometimes, humor is the best way to distract. Make a funny face, tell a joke, or start a pillow fight to get your child's mind off what's upsetting them.
Teach your child other ways of dealing with frustration. Children who are old enough to talk can be reminded to use their words instead of screaming.

Praise your child for getting it right. When they stay cool in a situation that would normally have triggered a tantrum, tell them they did a good job of controlling their temper. Even when you discipline your baby, be sure to let them know that you love them no matter what. Positive comments help boost self-esteem.

If temper tantrums are becoming more frequent, they haven't stopped by around age 4, or your child is in danger of hurting them or others, it's time to call your child's health care provider.

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The network of city portals continues the project “You will give birth - you will understand”, in which we discuss everything that hurts young parents. And today, perhaps, one of the most painful topics is children's tantrums. Yes, yes, the very ones when a child does not want to go home from a walk and yells, lying on the sidewalk, when he squeals at the whole store, demanding to buy another toy, and generally rolls up scandals for any reason. Okay, let's be honest: a small child does not always need a reason for a tantrum, it can start out of the blue.

How do you avoid yelling back in these situations? Not to spank on the ass in the hope of calming down, and then not torturing yourself with guilt? How to raise a child with a personality with his own opinion and at the same time not go crazy? We asked psychologist Yuliana Maksutova to answer these questions.

Closer to three years, all of a sudden, children begin to rebel, argue with their parents and throw tantrums. Yes, this is the same crisis of three years. He says that the child's psyche and brain develop as they should. Self-awareness emerges.

He used to be in such a merger with his mother. But he grows, his needs expand, his opinion appears. And of course, the child does not like the fact that he and his mother may want something different.

This is a completely normal stage of separation from parents. First childbirth, then weaning, and here it is - the crisis of three years. Of course, there are algorithms on how to get through this period easier, but the main advice is to be patient and understanding. This crisis will surely pass.

But you have to understand that this is a very important stage. The crisis of three years must be passed if you later want to see your child independent.

A parent is like a coach for his child. As the child grows up, it will inevitably face some kind of prohibitions, conflicts in society. The clash of “I want” and “I can’t” is called frustration in psychological language. If you do not get stuck in this state, experience it in a dosed manner and with the support of an adult, then in the end the child develops a strategy for coping with stress. A parent in some situation may give in, may find a compromise, and in some situations - express a strict prohibition.

Just like in a fairy tale. Gingerbread man came up with a strategy for himself, and it worked successfully for him many times, but then the Fox met, and Gingerbread Man made a mistake. In the same way, a child learns to use different strategies in communication with a parent.

When a child is not allowed to do a lot of things, this is also bad. Bans should be only on what is really impossible: run through red lights, eat foods that you are allergic to. In other situations, you can agree - this is how the child learns to communicate.

It is natural for a small child to seek approval from his parents. An unfamiliar grandmother will approach a child on the street, offer a candy, and he looks at his mother, whether she nods approvingly or not, and only then takes it. The same situation can be in the circle of acquaintances. First, the child sees the world through the eyes of parents. When by adolescence a child is saturated with these ideas, he makes a reassessment of values: I will take this into my life, but this, thank you, I don’t want to, leave it to yourself.

If you brought up such an obedient child who extends this obedience to all adults, then he himself may suffer from this. Leave with someone else's adult, for example.

A child wants to grow obedient from birth, but in adulthood it will be of little use to him

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Share let it be uncomfortable. Stop worrying about what they will think of me if my child is lying on the floor in the store and screaming? If you do not care about the opinions of others, then only you and your child will remain, and this will immediately alleviate the situation.

I myself have three children with a small difference of 2 years. When my third child was born, I realized that all the magic phrases that I know simply do not work. Because there is not always a resource for it.

You can not swear because the child does not want to tidy up the toys, but outwit him, say “let’s not tidy up the toys, but save the toys from the socks that attacked them”, we won’t have lunch, but “we will try on vegetables for Queen Fork. Therefore, it is very important for mothers to take care of themselves first.

Children, at least before school, are simply incapable of manipulation - the brain has not yet matured. To manipulate, you must be able to put yourself in the place of another person and understand how he will behave. To say at 3 years old that a child manipulates a parent when he asks for another typewriter is wrong. There is another principle at work here. I'll give you an example. Here the child demands a typewriter, knocks with his legs, the mother refuses. Then he sits on the pavement, cries loudly - and mom gives up. And if this story is repeated several times, then the child builds a causal relationship. This again means that the child's thinking is working, which is good. But this is not manipulation. If this causal chain is broken, then the behavior of the child will change.

It is necessary to look at the condition of the child, maybe he is tired, he has not had enough sleep. Maybe just a general disturbing background when mom is immersed in her experiences. The child reads this and begins to check with his whims: “Mom, are you definitely with me?”

We grow up with attitudes such as “men don't cry”, “good girls don't cry”, “you can't get angry”, “you're already big”, “you can't argue with adults”. All this to the fact that their emotions can not be shown. And we transfer our emotions to the child: if I can’t, then the child can’t either. You need to become the most uncomfortable, understand that all emotions are normal and there is a reason for them. And do not drive yourself into this vicious circle: "And the child screams in public, so I'm a bad mother. " In general, emotions are very contagious.

The psychologist advises mothers to give a damn about the opinions of others, and they will immediately notice that they have become easier to relate to the next whims

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There is such a trick as getting out of the emotions of another person. Step out of your child's emotions, mentally draw a circle, and step out of it. Remember that among you the adult is you. Then use the “mirroring” method: speak out loud all the emotions of the child. “Yes, I understand that you are upset now, but I can’t buy what you ask because we came to the store for another.” These are not magic phrases that will calm the child, but show him that you are there.

Here again it is a matter of state. If mom caught herself thinking that that’s it, the lid is full and she’ll tear it off now, then there are several ways to help yourself.

And you can, on the contrary, sympathize and, as it were, hug yourself, and calm down.

But do not ignore, do not put on a mask of indifference - this will not save either you or the child. It is better to say that you are so angry that you cannot help yourself, and you need to leave the room for 5 minutes and calm down. So the child also understands that the mother is tired and can be angry.

And that's okay. This means that mom can praise herself, it means that she was able to create a safe space for the child to express her emotions, that mom will accept me in any way.

If a mother feels guilty because she yelled at her child, then the first thing to think about is that this thought is unproductive. From the fact that you will self-flagellate, only a hole is formed into which your resource will go.

You can also apologize in different ways. Or just say: "Here, you are my bunny, I'm sorry." And you can explain from an adult position: “I was very upset about work and fell on you. Forgive me, I got angry and could not restrain myself. The child also needs this experience to understand that the world is not perfect. And this is an example of how to get out of the conflict.

If the mother slams the door all the time, and then the child goes to make peace on his own, he will not know that the conflict can be resolved in another way.

A mother has the right to take it out on her child. But apologies are needed only if they are sincere. You can sit and lament that here, you are such and such, brought the mother ... This will be outweighing the blame on the child, such a message that you are bad.

Another situation is when a mother cries and explains that she is very sorry that she did everything, but she is not in her power to change the situation, that it is difficult for her and that she is learning to be a mother for her child.

The crisis of three years is not eternal, and a wonderful period of 5-6 years will come, when children will turn their care to their parents. But, again, they themselves will not learn this if there is no care for each other in the family. When you suddenly hear from a child not just a tantrum, but an explanation of his emotions: “Mom, I feel so uncomfortable because ...”, then you can safely rejoice and praise yourself - these are the fruits of your labors.

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Children's tantrums are a violent outburst of uncontrollable emotions, which manifests itself at the moment when the child does not get what he wants. Sometimes it can be accompanied by bouts of aggression. Daily bouts of hysteria sometimes become more and more difficult to stop. What should parents do in such a situation?

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Causes of tantrums
Types of Tantrums
How to deal with children's whims
How temperament affects tantrums
What to do if tantrums do not go away
FAQ
Expert opinion

Causes of tantrums

There are many etiological factors of children's whims. It is sometimes quite difficult to identify what exactly caused a storm of emotions. Children's tantrums happen as a result of:

mother's alienation;
constant criticism of adults;
lack of parental attention
inaction of parents to the whims, tantrums and aggressive behavior of the child;
humiliation of the child, physical punishment;
limiting the independence of the baby;
compliant behavior of parents;
increased excitability of the child.

The child throws tantrums, which are manifested by a heart-rending cry, can throw objects, beat his head on the floor.

This behavior begins at 9 months, but is more common at 1.5 years. Until the age of three, it is difficult for a child to control his emotions. In addition, the baby's vocabulary is not enough to express in words what he feels, wants, what does not suit him. The older the child becomes, the less often he resorts to tantrums.

Tantrums for any reason can pursue the following goals:

the desire to achieve what you want;
drawing attention to oneself;
limit checking.

The child does not know how to control his emotions until the age of three. Our doctors at a remote consultation will explain to parents the rules of behavior in such a situation, provide psychological assistance, and will be in touch at any time of the day.

Types of tantrums

There are two types of tantrums: temper tantrum, manipulative. The purpose of the first type is to defuse the situation. The second is aimed at manipulation, achieving the desired goal.

Tantrums always start the same way. There are three successive stages:

Stage	Description
scream	The child screams, while he does not see, does not hear anyone and does not demand anything
motor excitation	The kid throws everything, stomps his feet, waves his arms
Sobs	The child cries, looks with a suffering look at adults

Example

A woman with a small son was choosing products in a store. At the checkout, the kid saw various sweets, chocolates. He began to ask his mother to buy, but was refused. As a result, the baby fell to the floor in front of the cash register, began to scream and demand what he wanted. The eyes of the people were riveted on the hysterical baby. In order to quickly stop the child's tantrums, the mother took a chocolate bar from the shelf and gave it to the baby. The hysteria is over. The child got what he wanted. Instead of choosing a different tactic for solving the problem, mommy went on about her child. responded to manipulation. now the kid knows that if he throws a tantrum, he will get what he wants.

How to cope with children's whims

Quite often, children's screams take parents by surprise in public places. The reason for the tragedy can be anything - from losing in competitions to beautiful toys that are needed from death. The right strategy chosen by parents will solve a large number of problems in the future. How to prevent hysteria?

it is important to disengage from the dissatisfied looks, comments of others. Remember that you should not be ashamed. This is a common ordinary situation;
do not intimidate the child. You can often hear the words: “You are behaving badly, now the grandmother will take you away.” Anyone can be in the place of the babayka. This does not work, it will only develop fear in the baby;
do not follow the crumbs. The child must understand that the parent is not going to succumb to provocation and firmly adheres to one line of behavior;
children under three years old can quickly switch to something, draw his attention to a dog, car, etc.;
hug and explain. It is important not to tell the baby how wrong he is and how he behaves badly. At the moment of hysteria, he will not hear it. But hugs can calm him down.

Important! You can not devalue the feelings of the child. For an adult, what is happening is nonsense, for a child it is important. It is necessary to pronounce the emotions of the baby aloud, comment on them.

How temperament affects tantrums

Each temperament has its own characteristics of behavior. Thanks to a set of characteristics, you can find out what temperament the child belongs to.

sanguine. This is a balanced, mobile character. Sanguine children are characterized by a good mood, well-developed communication skills. The kid knows how to quickly adapt to different situations. In cases of constant violation of the regime, he behaves like a baby with a weak type of nervous system. To avoid tantrums in such children, it is necessary to strictly observe the daily routine, avoid noisy and crowded places, find a hobby for the baby;
choleric is distinguished by the predominance of excitatory processes over inhibition. These children are very sensitive, nervous. Such children must be brought up patiently, calmly, unobtrusively. It is important for parents to determine in time the moment when the child enters into a confrontation and quickly change the topic, switch the child to another;
phlegmatic - inhibition processes prevail over excitation. Parents need to teach the child to overcome internal inertia, to involve him in noisy games and activities. You don’t need to do everything for the child because you need to do it faster, and he is slow. Do not scold for slowness;
melancholic children - unbalanced, inert. The processes of excitation and inhibition are slow. Such children are impressionable, vulnerable, closed. In education, focus on frequent breaks between classes. In order not to provoke whims, parents should avoid noisy, crowded places.

Phlegmatic and choleric people are more prone to tantrums than others. Phlegmatic children “mature” for a long time before a splash of emotions. In terms of the strength of the reaction and the outburst of emotions, they surpass the choleric.

What to do if tantrums don't go away

In cases where a child becomes hysterical after 4 years, emotional whims, have serious consequences in the form of fainting, seizures, a neurologist's consultation is necessary.

To stop a tantrum in a child, you must:

observe the daily routine;
clearly build boundaries in the family, at home;
if the tantrums have become regular, then there are enough spectators, which means there may be material incentives;
one should not succumb to the manipulation of hysteria;
do not focus on actions that are undesirable in the child's behavior;
do not overload the baby with mental, physical stress.

It is important for parents to remain calm, not to shout or scold the baby.

FAQ

How to calm a child with a tantrum?

If a child is naughty, freaks out, whines, cries, falls, yells, squeals - it is useless to calm down, during a tantrum he will not hear anything. Parents need to be calm, but not indifferent, calmly respond to what is happening. As soon as the storm of emotions subsides, it is necessary to move on to discussing the situation, emotions.

How to wean a one-year-old child from tantrums?

It is possible to stop a tantrum in a child of the first year of life if his attention is diverted. At this age, babies quickly switch from one to another. You can interest the baby in passing vehicles, balloons, etc.

What does a two-year-old child achieve by spontaneous tantrums?

Sudden tantrums of two-year-olds may indicate a crisis of two years. Until that moment, the child understood that he was “God”, everyone revolved around him. Now he is a separate person with his Wishlist. And then the parents forbid him to do what he wants. Rage is accompanied by whims, tantrums. This is the inability to cope with emotions, the struggle for power.

How to distinguish psychoses from tantrums?

There is such a thing as hysterical psychosis. Occurs as a result of strong shocks, psychotraumas. Manifested by stupor, false dementia, depression, seizures. Tantrums in a child occur at a certain moment and are often predictable.

Expert opinion

It is important to understand that hysteria is not a manifestation of the crumbs' bad character. This is a symptom of a hidden problem that needs to be found and fixed. Weaning a child from such a manner of behavior will not work completely. If you treat a capricious child with understanding, attention to his feelings, then in the future you can achieve complete mutual understanding. The task of the parent is to teach the baby to pronounce emotions, learn to express them correctly, and cope with them.

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