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"Americans are more accepting of gays when they're in a clear-cut gender role relationship. Like Ellen and Portia."
— Seth, The Boys, "We Gotta Go Now"
When it comes to gay couples in media, this is the most common setup for them. Whichever gender they are, one is very feminine while the other is very masculine.
For gay male pairings, this means a Manly Gay or Straight Gay character and a Camp Gay or Macho Camp one. For lesbian pairings, a Butch Lesbian and a Lipstick Lesbian. This usually also shows itself in their character designs, with one being shorter and daintier (sometimes even twinky if male) than their One Head Taller, and often more muscular, lover.
This trope goes back to the idea that there must be a "man" and a "woman" in a same-sex relationship, and often invokes Opposites Attract. Because this trope is often based on this misconception, it's less common in works written by actual queer people. In real life, a Camp Gay man and a Manly Gay man are unlikely to be each other's type, and any exceptions would be noteworthy because they're exceptions. However, fiction only cares about averting this trope when it means pairing two Manly Gays or Lipstick Lesbians (especially for fanservice reasons regarding the latter). Two Butch Lesbians or Camp Gays in a relationship are all but unheard of where the media is concerned.
For more platonic versions see Tomboy and Girly Girl and Sensitive Guy and Manly Man. Also, see uke and seme for Japanese tropes heavily associated with this concept. See also Gay Guy Seeks Popular Jock, where the gay guy is generally less conventionally masculine than the popular athlete. Depending on what sort of story we're watching, there may be a wedding with a Gay Groom in a White Tux. See also Lover and Beloved, which focuses on age difference but usually has the older partner (the Lover) as being more masculine while the younger partner (the Beloved) is usually more feminine.
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In Akuma no Riddle, Tokaku and Haru become a couple at the end of the manga. Tokaku is a stoic Bifauxnen and assassin, while Haru is a sweet Girlish Pigtails-wearing Pollyanna.
Ymir from Attack on Titan is a tall, muscular young woman who usually wears trousers and is The Lad-ette. Ymir's in love with the shorter and more feminine Krista.
A Hide Your Lesbians variation occurs in Canaan with Canaan and Maria. They never make the full leap to romance but their relationship is heavy on the subtext. They're also a Starcrossed Lovers example, with Canaan's life as an Action Girl not meshing well with Maria's civilian life.
Citrus: Mei has a more masculine personality (aggressive, dominant, emotionally cold) while Yuzu is much more feminine (energetic, fashion-obsessed, stereotypically girly).
Played with in Gunbured × Sisters. Maria, a dhampir who grew up fighting to survive on the streets, seems at first glance like a Butch Lesbian, with a short fuse, foul mouth, and more boyish taste in clothing, not to mention being much more of a physical fighter than Dorothy. Dorothy, a nun who is seemingly the Lipstick Lesbian of the two and passes herself off as a proper lady and prefers long gowns, is actually the more dominant and sexually rapacious partner between them (Maria is a Reluctant Fanservice Girl at best).
Hetalia: Axis Powers: Chibitalia and Holy Roman Empire are a Puppy Love example. Chibitalia is a meek artist who wore female clothes while HRE is a bold warrior who wears boy's clothes. Played with as HRE actually mistook Chibitalia for a girl. As an adult, Italy became a keet and started wearing men's attire.
The Island of Giant Insects: Lesbian Jock Matsuoka and Lipstick Lesbian Mami.
In Kase-san, Yamada is a sweet, shy girl who loves flowers, while her girlfriend Kase is an outgoing athlete with Boyish Short Hair.
Lonely Wolf, Lonely Sheep is about two women named Kakimoto Imari who fall in love and bond. Big Imari is tall and tomboyish while Little Imari is petite and girly.
Love Gene XX: Enforced by law in-universe. Women are split into two demographics: Adams, who take traditionally masculine roles such as breadwinning or fighting, and Eves, who take traditionally feminine roles such as homemaking and bearing children. It's shown multiple times in-story that when a pair of Adams tries to get together, the law states one of them has to become an Eve for it to go through.
Suzu from Love Me For Who I Am is a Long-Haired Pretty Boy who likes crossdressing. He has a more boyish-looking and overprotective boyfriend named Haruto.
Subverted with cousins Rei and Yoshino from Maria Watches Over Us. Rei is a tall girl with Boyish Short Hair who is into kendo, while Yoshino is a short ill girl with Girlish Pigtails. When it comes to their actual personalities, however, Yoshino is the loud and more tomboyish one of the two.
Miss Kobayashi's Dragon Maid: Kobayashi is sufficiently androgynous that she is often mistaken for a man, Tohru has a large bust and wears conventionally feminine clothes. Kobayashi goes to work, Tohru stays home and keeps house.
Averted and discussed in My Brother's Husband. Mike and his late husband Ryoji are both very masculine, and when Ryoji's Innocently Insensitive pre-teen niece Kana asks Mike which of them was the "husband" and which the "wife" Mike explains to her that they were both husbands.
My-Otome and to a far lesser degree My-HiME have Natsuki and Shizuru. Natsuki is a Badass Biker Action Girl while Shizuru is Ojou Lady of War. In My Hime they only have Ship Tease which after a lot of trouble from Shizuru turns into a Relationship Upgrade at the end, but My Otome has the two clearly as a couple.
Konoka and Setsuna from Negima! Magister Negi Magi. Konoka is a very girly and cheery Ojou with healing powers while Setsuna is a serious swordswoman with some Bifauxnen looks who is determined to protect Konoka from anything. This aspect of their relationship is emphasized on some occasions when they dress up and Setsuna ends up wearing male clothing to contrast Konoka's elegant dresses.
Revolutionary Girl Utena has the butch Utena and femme Anthy, who are also Lady and Knight. Both are bisexual as well. This is pronounced even more in The Movie as Utena crops her hair short and turns into a bifauxnen while Anthy grows her hair.
Flum and Milkit from Roll Over and Die. Flum takes on the profession of Adventurer, which effectively make her the breadwinner of their relationship, on top of being a Short Tank and an Action Girl, Flum is obviously the masculine side. Meanwhile Milkit takes on the role of the housewife in all but name.
Haruka and Michiru from Sailor Moon are one of the most iconic examples in manga. Haruka is a cool bifauxnen who always wears the boy's school uniform and Michiru is her Ojou girlfriend who plays the violin. This is somewhat an example of Character Exaggeration in the '90s anime. In the manga, Haruka is still butch but has her feminine moments and even occasionally wears girly clothes. In the '90s anime, she is much more masculine and is even a Bokukko (in the manga she uses the girly pronoun "atashi"). In the manga, Haruka actively disguises herself as male while in the 1990s anime, she's a tomboy who just gets mistaken for male.
Subverted in Sweet Blue Flowers. Yasuko is Fumi's first girlfriend. She's a tall, boyish-looking girl who prefers masculine clothes outside of school and is the captain of the basketball team. Yasuko, however, doesn't enjoy being forced into a masculine role in order to fit people's expectations and is actually bisexual, not lesbian. Yasuko and Fumi break up, and after being Put on the Bus Yasuko grows her hair out and undergoes a Girliness Upgrade. Fumi's girlfriend at the end of the manga is her short, girly childhood friend Akira.
Tetsuo and Taichi from Yuureitou become this in the epilogue. Tetsuo is a cool-headed Byronic Hero transgender guy and Taichi is a sensitive Lovable Coward Distressed Dude that Tetsuo meets. The two start out with an Odd Friendship that quickly ends up romantic. This aspect of their relationship is emphasized when Taichi is forced to be Disguised in Drag and pretends to be Tetsuo's wife. He initially loathes it but soon finds it comfortable and notes that he wouldn't mind being Tetsuo's cross-dressing lover.
Batwoman comics contain several variations:
Downplayed with Kate Kane and Sophie Moore. Kate was more masculine in appearance than Sophie, but both were skilled Army cadets.
Played straight when the earlier relationship between Kate and Renee Montoya is depicted in flashbacks, with Renee being definitely butch. This evens out and becomes downplayed when they reconnect years later, with Kate being more butch than previously.
Subverted with Kate and Maggie Sawyer. At first glance they fit the archetype, with Kate being femme and Maggie being butch, however, they are both in fact butch. The versions of the characters in DC Comics Bombshells are both femmes.
Blue Is the Warmest Color: Emma is masculine in comparison with Clémentine, who's more feminine, though it's a mild example.
Buffy the Vampire Slayer: The femme Willow has a brief relationship with the butch Lake.
Future Foundation: Julie and Rikki are both bisexual, getting into a relationship over the course of the series. In Julie's case, she's more feminine, long-haired, girly and her superhero outfit emphasizes her figure. Rikki is a short-haired tomboy and her outfit's far more utilitarian, akin to a Wrench Wench getup.
The Girl From the Sea: Morgan is short-haired and slightly tomboyish. Kelpie has long hair and more of a feminine look while in human form. It's not that big of a contrast though, making it downplayed.
Her level of butchness has varied over the years, but during Gotham Central, in which her lesbianism was revealed to the readers and then the other characters, Renee Montoya definitely fit into this dynamic with her much more feminine girlfriend of the era.
On-off lovers and central characters Maggie (femme) and Hopey (butch) in Love and Rockets. Maggie was feminine even in her most punk period during her youth, while Hopey went back and forth as a young woman but got very butch when she was older.
The Sandman (1989): Subverted with lesbian couple Hazel and Foxglove who are both butch, then played straight as Hazel starts dressing in a more conventionally feminine way after she gets pregnant.
Shortcomings: Sasha is rather feminine and she describes an ex-girlfriend of hers who looked like a handsome young man. Ben questions why a woman who likes women would date someone boyish since to him it seems like it defeats the purpose.
Another Day in Bluffington Duology: Patti and Beebe play with this trope. As kids, they were almost polar opposites of each other: Beebe loved shopping for clothes, while Patti was more into playing sports. As adults, the roles are reversed: Beebe owned a construction company and occasionally played softball, while Patti became a housewife.
Becoming Free is a Frozen (2013) fanfic where The High Queen Elsa falls for a pants-wearing stable-worker she hires named Freya.
Camellias emphasizes this in Blake and Weiss' relationship by portraying Blake in a masculine, borderline bifauxnen formal getup while Weiss wears her standard dresses.
Codex Equus has a zigzagged example in Prince Stoltur Skjöldur and his husband, Blue Suede Heartstrings (now Prince Caerulus Melodia Equestria). Being a god of Pride, Stoltur is vain, bold, and assertive, while Caerulus, a god of Humility, is more empathetic, sensitive, and merciful. However, while Stoltur is the dominant partner, he has been helping Caerulus build his self-esteem by taking turns in being dominant/submissive during sex and encouraging him to take lead in general. This is extremely beneficial for Caerulus, who went through a particularly bad Trauma Conga Line that all but destroyed his sense of self-worth by the time he got out of it.
Hetalia: Axis Powers fanfic Gankona, Unnachgiebig, Unità: Germany is the manly one while Italy and Japan are the feminine ones. Yes, ones.
The Horsewomen Of Las Vegas portrays Bayley (masculine) and Sasha Banks (feminine) like this, as Bayley is a cop and Sasha is a nurse.
In the Plan B fanfic Interpretive Steps for a New Tango, neither Bruno nor Pablo is particularly feminine but the heteronormative Argentinian culture they grew up in causes them to assume that they have to conform to masculine/feminine roles if they try out things like dancing, and Pablo's fear that he's being forced to play the submissive "woman" role to Bruno causes him to temporarily break up with him until he realizes that they don't need to follow this trope to be happy together.
Ryuko and Mako are this in Natural Selection in regards to their personalities since both have similar dress codes. Ryuko is an aggressive, temperamental tomboy on her best days while Mako is chirpy, bright, and a total sweetheart.
Soda at 70 Proof has a Puppy Love example with Fanny as a Tomboy with a Girly Streak and Rachel as a Girly Girl, which they both note during a conversation prior to their Relationship Upgrade.
Total Drama Legacy: Storm Jackson-Wilkins and Serena McGrady are a textbook example. Storm is a tomboyish Passionate Sports Girl, while Serena is a hyper-feminine Kawaiiko. Simply put, they're on opposite ends of the futch scale◊. And wouldn't you know it, they're an Official Couple.
Wicked Wiles: Dwarfs gender the world differently from humans. But, in human terms, Grumpy would be a butch he/him lesbian. He falls for a more feminine dwarf who uses she/her pronouns.
Films — Live-Action
100 Girls: Tomboyish Arlene and Girly Girl Wendy become a couple after both turn out to be lesbians near the end of the film.
Gillian is pretty feminine but wore a tuxedo while going to the prom with her girlfriend who had on a dress, as seen in a past photo.
Casey likes butch women and trans men, whom we see her dating, while she's more feminine.
Alena: Alena and Josefin. While it's a milder example than many, Josefin's style was fairly masculine, and Alena's is feminine.
Anna: Anna has long hair with a more feminine look, while her girlfriend Maude always has short hair and looks pretty tomboyish. In terms of other things though, it's ironically reversed, as Anna shows no interest toward most traditionally female things (she models, but only as cover for her being a KGB assassin), while Maude enjoys it along with partying and decorating.
Below Her Mouth: Dallas is very butch, while Jasmine's quite feminine (although her sexuality is left ambiguous).
The Birdcage (based on La Cage aux Folles): Albert is a Drag Queen while Armand is a stage director who can act out camp direction to actors but is generally much "straighter" than Albert.
Blue Is the Warmest Color: Emma and Adèle. Emma is the more masculine, and Adèle the more feminine.
Bonnie & Bonnie: Kiki is short-haired and somewhat tomboyish. Yara is long-haired and more girly.
Bound: Corky is a leather jacket-wearing thief who now works as a contractor and gets mistaken for a man in dim light. Violet is a Femme Fatale. They become a couple.
Downplayed in But I'm a Cheerleader. Megan is a very feminine closet case while Graham is an Aloof Dark-Haired Girl with shorter hair who acts as her Closet Key. The most butch girl at the Cure Your Gays camp actually turns out to be straight.
Cassanova Was A Woman: Cassanova hallucinates a couple of women, with one more butch and the other feminine, quite unlike her with her girlfriend, who are both average.
Chasing Amy: Amy's girlfriend is very much butch, while she's a girly Lipstick Lesbian (or rather lipstick bisexual/pansexual, as is soon revealed).
Colette: Colette and Missy, though the former experiments with masculine styles at times and the latter is more of an elegant bifauxnen transvestite than a Butch Lesbian (all assuming you even see Missy as a woman).
Deadpool 2 reveals that the stoic, snarky Butch Lesbian Ellie/Negasonic Teenage Warhead has a girlfriend in the peppy, more feminine Yukio.
Duck Butter: A mild example as neither is that extreme, but for the day which they spend together Nima (a short-haired tomboy who likes slightly masculine clothing) and Sergio (who's long-haired with a more feminine style).
Fear Street gives us Deena and Sam. The former is a Tomboy and Action Girl, while the latter is a more feminine cheerleader. The third film 1666 reveals their relationship parallels the supposed villain Sarah Fier's with Hannah Miller. Sarah was an unconventional farmhand who was "raised like a boy" and Hannah more traditionally feminine.
Forbidden Love: The Unashamed Stories of Lesbian Lives: One woman, Stephanie, was butch but remade herself as femme when involved with another butch lesbian, a form of abuse as her girlfriend was also very controlling.
Ellen is more masculine and Jill is more feminine in The Fox.
Future World (2018): Ash, a very feminine-looking female android with long hair and revealing clothing, becomes a couple with tomboyish mechanic Lei by the end.
Gia: Gia is more butch as she's pretty tomboyish when not working as a model, in comparison with her lover Linda, who has a feminine look and manner.
Girls Like Magic: Jamie and Maggie become lovers during the film.
The Guest House: Tomboyish goth girl Rachel gets in a relationship with the very feminine Amy.
I Now Pronounce You Chuck & Larry has a scene where Alex and her gay brother are guessing who of the titular duo is Femme and who is the Butch, which for them apparently is the same as Bottom and Top.
The Incredibly True Adventure of Two Girls in Love: Butch Lesbian Randy and feminine girl Evie get into a relationship.
Jack & Diane: Jack, who's a mildly butch lesbian, is drawn to girly Diane. They fall for each other and date, although it's a very bumpy ride.
Renato, the Manly Gay and Albin, the drag queen in La Cage aux folles (1978).
The Kids Are All Right. Short-haired and abrasive Nic is clearly the "man" in the relationship, right down to her Tomboyish Name, the fact that she's the primary breadwinner in the family, and that her partner Jules frequently complains about feeling neglected by her. Jules, conversely, is long-haired, slightly flaky—Nic cites six jobs or endeavors that she's taken on over the years—and as the neglected "woman" eventually has an affair.
The Killing of Sister George features the butch June "George" Buckridge with the femme Alice 'Childie' McNaught and Mercy Croft, the butch trying to break them up.
Legend (2015): Ronnie is very much a manly gay man, while his lover Mad Teddy has quite the camp manner, though both are no one to mess with as they're crazed gangsters. The other men he sleeps with are also more effeminate pretty boys.
Lost and Delirious: Paulie and Tori, respectively.
Love Is Not Perfect: Elena is an elegant feminine bisexual. Adriana, who is bisexual as well, has a mild goth style and tomboy air. They become lovers.
Maggie & Annie: Maggie is a Butch Lesbian and Annie's initially got more conventional looks, getting into a relationship with her. Annie eventually copies her short haircut, though she never becomes butch to this degree.
Margarita: Margarita has long hair and wears more feminine clothing. Her girlfriend (later fiancée) Jane has short hair and more masculine clothing. Otherwise however they aren't very different.
The New Mutants: There's a mild example with Dani and Rahne. Dani has long hair and a pretty average style, Rahne's short-haired with boyish clothes. Otherwise though neither is that butch or femme.
Out at the Wedding has a woman pretending to be a lesbian because she's afraid her family won't accept her boyfriend because he's black. Alex ends up invoking this when she pays a butch lesbian to act like her girlfriend. The true example is Risa and Alex's sister, Jeannie. Her recently-married sister turns out to be in the closet and is using her husband as a beard. Jeannie ends up falling for her sister's "girlfriend" and Risa, in turn, falls for her back.
Princess Cyd: Katie is a mildly butch lesbian, with the feminine Cyd (though she's bi).
Riot Girls: Scratch and Nat are both punk girls, with differing styles/personalities despite that. The first is a mohawk-wearing, aggressive butch lesbian, while Nat has a slightly more femme look (e.g. her long hair) and milder personality.
Room in Rome: The video we see of Alba's partner indicates she has a more feminine style, while Alba dresses fairly masculine.
The Stepford Wives: The 2004 remake introduces the gay couple made up of Straight Gay Jerry and Camp Gay Roger. In contrast to the Stepford program giving the wives a Girliness Upgrade, it makes Roger more conformist.
Butch bisexual Veronica and Lipstick Lesbian Kim become a couple.
In their final scene, Manly Gay Stu and Camp Gay Toby have some Ship Tease.
Tomboy is about a boyish girl named Laure who moves to a new town and pretends to be a boy. She falls for a girl named Lisa and they hit it off. The ending is ambiguous. Laure's gender gets revealed and Lisa is initially upset, however, they appear to start a friendship afterward. It's also possible that Laure may be transgender, subverting the trope if so.
V for Vendetta: Valerie and Ruth, the sole queer couple shown in the film, are a slight example of this. The latter cross-dresses when we first see her while having short hair later and more masculine clothing. Valerie is highly feminine, dressing mostly in dresses with long hair.
What Keeps You Alive: In a downplayed example, Jules is masculine in her style, with short hair and men's tops. Jackie on the other hand wears her hair long and has slightly more feminine clothing. However, aside from that, they don't fall into this very heavily.
When Evil Calls: Kirsty is a short-haired tomboy who's basically The Lad-ette, while her girlfriend Molly has quite classically feminine looks with the mannerisms to match.
The World Unseen: Amina is a tomboy who always wears shirts and trousers (when not pressured into wearing feminine clothing by family) while being an independent, bold woman. She's also running a business, which was considered a male activity when it's set. Miriam, her secret lover, is a dutiful housewife who is submissive and shy, only ever wearing dresses.
Yves Saint Laurent is a biopic focusing on the love affair between effete fashion designer Yves and his Straight Gay lover and business partner Pierre.
The first novel in Katherine V. Forrest's Kate Delafield detective series, Amateur City, has the very Butch Lesbian Kate starting a relationship with Lipstick Lesbian Aimee, and feeling some genuine identity disorientation when she finds herself bottoming to Aimee in bed and enjoying it.
Black Dogs: Short-haired, leather-clad elven swordswoman Sinai is in a relationship with Jacyl, also an elf, who has her hair long, wears dresses, and likes to buy clothes, among other pursuits more traditionally feminine.
The Day of the Jackal: (written in the 1970s, set in the 1960s). One scene is in a gay bar in Paris, where "nances" sit at the bar and wait to be cruised by "butches."
In the Emberverse, Tiphaine d'Ath, who as a leading knight of the Portland Protective Association favors short hair and masculine-style clothing, is partnered with the exceedingly feminine style-setter and noted beauty Delia.
Girls Don't Hit: Joss pegs one half of a female couple early on as the butch one (there isn't much explicit about them to support it though). She also presents herself in a slightly more butch manner at one point when out with Echo while seducing a target.
Hani and Ishu's Guide to Fake Dating: Ishu is short-haired and doesn't really care about her appearance, dressing casually (though she will dress up on special occasions) while showing no interest in feminine things. Hani on the other hand has long hair, dresses in a fashionable girly way, and shows many feminine interests. They get together, first in a fake relationship but then for real.
Last Night at the Telegraph Club: Drag king Tommy Andrews and femme Lana Jackson live together, Lily finds out. She meets several other butch-femme couples too. Lily (femme) at the end is indicated to maybe get together again with Kath who's become butch as well.
Minority Monsters: Baroness Camp Von Glamor the Lesbian Harpy and Gondul the Gay Valkyrie.
Though it's not explicitly stated, housemates Misses Murgatroyd and Hinchcliffe from A Murder Is Announced fit this trope, with Hinchcliffe being the butch and Murgatroyd being the femme.
Patience and Sarah is a historical novel about two women in 19th century America who fall in love. Patience is a traditionally feminine well-to-do woman and her lover Sarah is a scandalous figure who wears men's clothes and does men's work. The two play around with the gender roles associated with this dynamic. Patience is a few years older than Sarah and is more assertive, while Sarah is naive and sensitive. Patience is the one who usually takes the lead and she's prone to getting a rise out of Sarah. Near the end of the novel, Sarah is the one that has an unfortunate encounter with a handsy man, with Patience being the one to rescue her before it gets more aggressive.
A Song of Ice and Fire: Renly Baratheon is a very manly-looking guy who acts quite masculinely aside from a taste in fine clothing, while his lover Loras Tyrell is a fey Pretty Boy. However, this is toyed with a bit. Loras is more reckless, impulsive and the better fighter of the two. Renly, on the other hand, is more diplomatic and cerebral.
Malazan Book of the Fallen: Adjunct Tavore Paran, who is described as short-haired, plainly dressed, and plain looking, and her tawny-haired lover T'amber, described as the World's Most Beautiful Woman and who is literally the goddess Eres'al. Played With, in that of the two, T'amber is the better fighter.
Tell Me How You Really Feel: Tomboy Rachel and Girly Girl Sana have a mutual attraction all throughout the book, until at last the pair act on their feelings, indicating they become a couple at the end.
The Teresa Knight Trilogy: Straight Gay Carl was with Camp Gay Andre, whom Teresa explicitly identifies as the "feminine" partner in the relationship.
The 1928 novel The Well of Loneliness is about a woman named Stephen who is diagnosed with "gender inversion" (an outdated 'disorder' that theorized gay people are mentally the opposite gender). Stephen falls in love with a nurse named Mary while working together during The Great War.
13 Reasons Why: Tony, a greaser with a leather jacket, violent past, and anger issues (although he's a Nice Guy), used to date Ryan, a vain Camp Gay guy who likes poetry.
Batwoman (2019): Kate and Sophie were an example during their relationship. The former is quite butch in her looks, while Sophie's very feminine. The same goes for Kate with Julia and Reagan, who are both very feminine too.
Betty: Kirt dates a very femme girl, while she's a Butch Lesbian herself.
The Boys (2019): "We Gotta Go Now" has this enforced In-Universe by the marketing team of Vought that, for PR reasons, think Queen Maeve and her ex-girlfriend Elena should be respectively portrayed as a Lipstick Lesbian and a Butch Lesbian, "like Ellen and Portia". Even though Queen Maeve is not even a lesbian. That goes without mentioning Vought's decision to switch Maeve's so far largely tomboyish image into that of a Lipstick Lesbian, rather than simply handing that role off to Elena and at least avoid a jarring shift in their marketing. Instead it's proposed for Elena to make herself over as a Butch Lesbian, who is more of a Lipstick Lesbian, and she refuses of course.
Cold Case: In "Best Friends" Butch Lesbian Billie and Lipstick Lesbian Rose become a couple.
Control Z: Alex has a slightly masculine look. Her girlfriend is more feminine.
Conversations With Friends: It's downplayed, but tomboy lesbian Bobby and femme bisexual Francis used to date before becoming just friends. They rekindle their relationship later in the finale.
Das Boot (2018): Carla is a bit butch, and her lover Simone classically feminine.
Dates: Erica is quite feminine while Kate's mildly butch in their clothing and mannerisms. The pair hit it off and become a couple.
Degrassi: The Next Generation:
Marco (a short Pretty Boy who loves pop music, fashion, and musicals) and his boyfriend Dylan (a well-built athlete).
Another prominent romantic relationship was between fashionable Lovable Alpha Bitch Paige and tough-as-nails delinquent/bad girl Alex.
Euphoria: Rue is pretty tomboyish, compared with Jules's highly feminine attire and looks.
Feel Good: Conventionally feminine George and really boyish Mae.
Gentleman Jack pairs the outrageously masculine (for the time period) Anne Lister with the very feminine Ann Walker.
Subverted on Glee with Kurt and Blaine. It would seem at first glance that Kurt is the fem partner and Blaine the masc. Kurt may be more outwardly flamboyant, but Blaine isn't quite Straight Gay himself, and their personalities, mannerisms, and interests ultimately have more similarities than differences.
In a The Golden Girls episode in which Blanche and Dorothy are mistaken for a lesbian couple, Blanche is all too happy to declare that she handles the cooking and cleaning, while Dorothy "takes out the garbage."
Gossip Girl (2021): Max's dads are an example before breaking up. Roy is a Straight Gay average guy, and Gideon's a Camp Gay crossdresser with long hair.
The Haunting of Bly Manor: The feminine Dani falls in love with and ultimately marries Jamie, the more masculine gardener of Bly Manor (both are lesbians).
Hightown: Jackie is quite butch, and her ex-girlfriend was very feminine. She also knows another female couple who have this dynamic. Later she's also with Leslie, who's more feminine as well (although the contrast isn't as strong).
In the Dark: Jess, who's feminine, and her second girlfriend Sterling, who has very butch looks in comparison.
Intergalactic: Butch Lesbian Verona and Ash, who's a more feminine bisexual woman, get involved over the course of the first season.
It's Always Sunny in Philadelphia parodies the idea in "Mac Fights Gay Marriage." Charlie and Frank are considering entering a domestic partnership for health benefits, but neither wants to be "the woman" in the relationship. They decide to consult Mac's ex Carmen (the only LGBT person they know), who frustratedly explains to them that neither of them would be "the woman" because they're both men.
Frank: Two dudes getting married? That doesn't seem very gay.
Jupiter's Legacy: Jacinda is a short-haired tomboy, her girlfriend Gabriella has long hair and more of a feminine look.
Kröd Mändoon and the Flaming Sword of Fire: Arcadius (Manly Gay) and Bruce (Camp Gay), before the former was killed.
Law & Order: The episode "Married With Children" involves a woman being tried for the murder of her ex-wife, who had sole custody of their daughter after their divorce. When it's mentioned that the defendant was a stay-at-home mom and the victim the family breadwinner, the judge makes a snide comment about not expecting a gay couple to fit such a "traditional" dynamic.
A League of Their Own (2022):
Butch Lesbian Vi, the gay bar's owner, is married to Edie, a Lipstick Lesbian (unofficially, this being the 1940s).
After adopting her butch style, Max begins a relationship with the more feminine lesbian S (Esther).
Lupe, a Butch Lesbian, dates the pitcher of the Comets, a Lipstick Lesbian.
Cat, a Lipstick Lesbian, seems to prefer soft butch women, dating Sam and Frankie (who both qualify).
Tess, also a Lipstick Lesbian, dates Fin (a proud Lesbian Jock).
The L Word:
Shane is bifauxnen and always dates more feminine women.
Jenny is pretty girly and thus had this dynamic with the very butch Moira (before his transition to Max anyway).
Mostly girlish Alice has a relationship with tough soldier Tasha.
Elegant, high-class femme Helena hooks up with her intimidating butch cellmate Dusty while in jail.
The Mick: Sabrina (a girl with long hair who likes to wear blouses, skirts, or dresses pretty often, while having traditionally feminine interests) is with Alexis, a short-haired lesbian jock in "The Juice" who's only shown wearing her uniform and workout clothing. They don't last long, however.
Motherland: Fort Salem: Raelle is a short-haired, taciturn tomboy. Scylla is long-haired, having a more average feminine appearance. They become lovers at Fort Salem during basic training.
The O.C.: Marissa, a privileged rich girl, had a relationship with Alex, a bad girl bartender.
Only Murders in the Building:
Mabel, who favors a feminine style, is revealed to be bisexual as she dates tomboy lesbian Alice in season 2.
Camp Gay Howard and more Straight Gay Jonathan get together in Season 2.
Orange Is the New Black:
Nicky and Lorna are Friends with Benefits (though Lorna later cuts off the benefits). The former is a loudmouthed Lad-ette with Messy Hair and the personality of a frat boy, the latter is a sweet, cheerful, idealistic, always dolled-up Girly Girl.
A downplayed example with Piper, a privileged, somewhat naive, self-described WASP, and her regular Love Interest Alex, a street-smart Aloof Dark-Haired Girl and former drug dealer who grew up poor.
Piper also serves as the feminine to her Love Interest in season 3, Stella, an androgynous girl with Boyish Short Hair and many tattoos.
Poussey Washington is a Sassy Black Woman who keeps her hair buzzed. Her looks and mannerisms are conventionally unfeminine. Her German girlfriend who we see in flashbacks, however, was very feminine. She later dates Brook Soso, a bubbly, insecure Granola Girl.
Season 5 has Big Boo, a Brawn Hilda who is by far the most butch character on the show, having a sexual relationship with Linda, a very elegant businesswoman (who is pretending to be an inmate.)
Season 6 has the long-haired, conventionally feminine Daya romantically involved with the short-haired pimp/drug dealer Daddy who is clearly a Butch Lesbian (although for Daya it's Situational Sexuality, and Daddy may be transgender).
Nicky briefly has a relationship with Egyptian ICE detainee Shani, who's very feminine.
The Pact: The Butch Lesbian Cat (who has short hair, masculine dress sense, and an Ambiguous Criminal History) enters a relationship with the feminine bisexual Tish.
Pandora: Jax and Cordelia, her ex, are a mild example. The former has long hair and is more prone to wear stylish dresses. Cordelia has short hair and is more tomboyish in her clothing style. She'll wear a dress at formal affairs though.
Discussed and defied in the first episode of Queer Eye (2018), where the heterosexual Tom asks the gay Bobby if he's the husband or the wife in his marriage. Jonathan and Bobby point out that it's a misconception, a little sexist, and that lines between masculinity and femininity are becoming increasingly blurred, even with straight couples.
Bobby: We both wear the pants.
Tony and Steve from Reaper are two gay demons who have been together since before they fell from Heaven. While both are pretty campy, Tony is the more aggressive of the two and is more traditionally masculine, while Steve wears bright pastels and is the more effeminate and levelheaded of the two sticking with the original plan of simply being good when Tony and the other reformed demons instead try to violently slay the Devil, ascending back to angelhood in the process.
Riverdale: Kevin plays up the Camp Gay and Gay Best Friend stereotypes. So far his main love interests were Moose (a macho Armored Closet Gay football player) and Joaquin (a member of a biker gang).
Roswell, New Mexico: Season 2 sees Isobel, who's fairly feminine (with long hair, wearing makeup, jewelry, skirts, etc often) date a more butch female bartender who has short hair and more masculine attire.
Averted on Rupauls Drag Race, where several contestants have been romantically involved with other drag queens (including other contestants), or someone else more on the Camp Gay side. For instance, the husband of season 4 contestant Chad Michaels is a costume designer who created most of Chad's dresses on the runway. From what we've seen of the queens' partners, either on the show or on social media, the majority aren't without some level of camp.
Schitt's Creek: The effete, style-obsessed, high-strung, and woefully nonathletic David is paired with the Straight Gay Patrick, who was closeted for most of his life.
The Shannara Chronicles: Tomboy Eretria is with Girly Girl Lyria in Season Two.
Spartacus: Blood and Sand uses this sometimes. The first example is butch gladiator Barca and gentle slave Alexios, which ends tragically when Barca is murdered and Alexios is unable to defend himself from being repeatedly raped by another Jerkass gladiator, driving him to kill himself. In the latter part of the story, hot-headed macho gladiator turned rebel Agron is paired with the gentler, calmer, and less intimidating, though still pretty deadly, Nasir. Other gay pairings in the show don't have this arrangement.
S.W.A.T. (2017): In "Never Again" Chris, a fairly butch woman, is dating Kira, who's quite femme. In an unusual example, both are bisexual.
Switched at Birth: Natalie is fairly feminine, in contrast to her girlfriend Hilary, who's more masculine and has short hair. The latter pointedly refuses to wear a dress for the prom, going in a tuxedo instead. They get barred as a result, because their school dress code requires girls wear dresses. In protest, they stage their own prom dance on the lawn outside with friends.
Teen Wolf has two subversions.
The first couple leans towards the Two Jock Gays without leaning too hard: Danny being academic and a star goalie and Ethan being the more empathetic of a pair of powerful and morally ambitious twin werewolves.
The second pair is Mason & Corey is more in line with the Two Camp Guys variety; being a nerdy, very good friend & an emotionally in touch Cowardly Lion respectively.
Tipping the Velvet: A lot of the lesbian couples the series display this dynamic. Here it's shown as working-class butch women who are in men's clothing beside aristocratic rich feminine lesbians wearing fine dresses, hats, etc., the accepted high society attire of the day.
Twenties: Hattie's been with Lorraine and Ida B. While she's very butch, to the point of being mistaken for male, both are quite feminine.
Utopia Falls: Reserved and more girly Sage is slowly drawn into a romance with bold, tomboyish Brooklyn during the first season.
Vidalia was feminine, while her wife Eddy is really butch.
In the second season, feminine Emma gets involved with Nico, who's butch.
We Are Who We Are: Discussed by Richard while speaking with his wife Jenny. He claims all same-sex couples must have this dynamic, that it couldn't work anyway else. Sarah and Maggie are an example in terms of their clothing/hairstyles to a mild degree, though otherwise don't qualify.
The Wilds: Mildly butch lesbian Toni and feminine Shelby officially get together in Season 2 once Shelby's admitted her attraction to women.
In Will & Grace, Will is the manly man to Jack's feminine man. Behind the scenes, the actor who played Will won the part over an actual gay man who was perceived as too manly to be a convincing gay man (which is Hilarious in Hindsight, because the actor in question was John Barrowman).
Yellowjackets: Van is a butch lesbian who has short hair and masculine clothing, while her girlfriend in the 1990s, Taissa, wears her hair long initially with a more feminine dress style.
The official lyric video "Unconditionally" by Katy Perry features a feminine-looking woman singing the lyrics to a more masculine-looking woman, who is played by androgynous model Erika Linder.
Downplayed with The Children's Hour and its second film adaptation. It's not noticeable due to Values Dissonance; however, Martha was considered tomboyish for the time. Her Ambiguously Bi best friend and crush Karen is more of a girly girl compared to her. The two are Mistaken for Romance by a student, which causes a scandal. Martha is very closeted about her sexuality and ends up Driven to Suicide before she gets to even date a woman.
RENT has the Straight Gay-bordering-on-Manly Gay Collins with the flamboyant, more feminine queer character Angel (whose gender identity is not really clarified).
The Acorn Princess follows two gay couples—the titular princess and her knight Nutalia, and the Flower Prince and his lover Beetle. Nutalia and Beetle are the more masculine of the pair, the former being a coolheaded and dashing figure while Beetle is muscular and boisterous, while Acorn and Flower are more soft-spoken and sensitive.
The page image is from Harry Partridge's "Stephen The Lesbian".
Hazbin Hotel: Played with in regards to girlfriends Charlie and Vaggie. Charlie has a Tomboyish Name, prefers to wear suits, and is a bifauxnen, whereas Vaggie has a more feminine name, wears dresses and hair bows and looks more conventionally feminine. However, Charlie is more soft-spoken, cheerful, and optimistic, while Vaggie is more aggressive, grumpy, and cynical.
Bernard and Ward in Angel Down form one of these, with Ward being Straight Gay bordering on Manly Gay, Meanwhile Bernard is a full-blown male Meganekko.
Crimson Dark: Kari is revealed as being a lesbian, and fairly masculine in her appearance. Ren, though she also has boyish short hair, is the more feminine partner, somewhat girlish in comparison.
Darkest Night: Butch Lesbian Mags is secretly having sex with Ava, a more femme girl who has a boyfriend. Later she gets involved with her feminine trans woman friend Nessa after she and Ava break up.
In El Goonish Shive, both Ellen and Nanase and Catalina and Rhoda. The former pair have shifted over time as to who is more masculine/feminine but they're rarely equally butch/femme. The latter pair are clearly butch/femme with Catalina being a Tomboy and Rhoda being more of a Girly Girl.
Everything is Fine features same-sex couple Sophie and Kate. Sophie wears a tuxedo to the trial, while her wife Kate wears a dress.
In Friendly Hostility, Bootsie asks Collin and Fox at one point which one of them plays the woman. Collin is incensed and chews her out, saying that a gay couple doesn't need one member to be more feminine than the other and that his love of cock has no impact on his masculinity. Fox, however, correctly guesses that Bootsie was actually referring to the plaid skirt she found while doing their laundry and explains that Collin sometimes likes to roleplay as a slutty Catholic schoolgirl while they're having sex. So Collin is more feminine than Fox, but not by that much considering that he's also an aspiring dictator who Hates Everyone Equally.
Learning with Manga! FGO features this duo in the form of the Male Protagonist and Astolfo, the romantic counterparts to Gudako and Mash. The Male Protagonist is perpetually horny (a trait usually associated with overeager boyish types) and fairly average in masculine looks, while his crush Astolfo is more subdued, wears a lot of reds and pinks, and is pretty to the point of borderline femininity. Later strips would show that the Male Protagonist invokes the trope since androgynous boys (and Ambiguous Gender Identity people in general) are his type.
The one time we see Dr. Roman in any kind of pairing, he (a passive long-haired Pretty Boy in canon) is forcibly paired up with the Berserker from Fate/stay night (a beefy, masculine brute).
The Children Kingdom invokes this with their designated "parents", as they choose Altera (a warrior with anger issues whose historical counterpart was male) to be their father and Helena and later Mash (both level-headed and somewhat calm women) to be their mother. Averted appearance-wise, as all the girls in question are femme.
Lovebot's leading couple consists of Xada, who while having luxurious long hair is muscular and has the generally masculine job of robot repair/customization and computer hacking; and Lacey, a sensitive robot who prefers pastel colors and often wears feminine leaning clothing.
Dillon O'Brien from Ménage à 3 and Sticky Dilly Buns is a flaming Camp Gay character whose partners are usually masculine, Manly Gay, or bisexual characters. These include the promiscuous underwear model Matt and the hunky construction worker Jerzy. It's also made explicit that Dillon "always bottoms".
Ebony Larsson and Siobhan Pattinson in Outsiders. Based on their personalities and what they wear, it is clear that Ebony is the more masculine of the two, while Siobhan is the more feminine.
Rock and Riot is about two rival Greasers cliques in The '50s. Connie is a cool butch greaser while her girlfriend Carla is a Seemingly-Wholesome '50s Girl. Connie is a lesbian while Carla is a panromantic asexual.
Princess Princess: Tomboy Amira and very girly Sadie become this at the end when they marry.
Sun Jing and Qiu Tong from Their Story. Sun Jing is One Head Taller than Qiu Tong, wears a tie in her Custom Uniform, and is tomboyish while Qiu Tong is more feminine. Official artwork that predates the comic depicts Sun Jing as even more butch, having short hair and wearing more boyish attire. In the webcomic itself, Qiu Tong is initially Oblivious to Love and initially rejects Sun Jing's Love Confession however they end up the Official Couple.
In Vápnthjófr saga Hillevi is a blacksmith and (retired) warrior, her wife Nanna is a priestess of Freya.
The first game of Roulette Rampage features heavy ship tease between Nabiki Kaname (a tomboy who was raised on a ship and aspires to be more masculine) and Ai Senzaki (a catty and extremely feminine delivery girl). They both are revealed to truly have a thing for each other, but despite how close they got they were never able to confess to each other before Ai's execution in Chapter 3.
Illuminated pairs up the non-actiony and intellectual Jane Porter with the more assertive and trouser-wearing Lady of War Captain Amelia.
Out With Dad: Rose has long hair, feminine clothing and acts basically like the straight girls. Her girlfriend New Vanessa (or Nessa) on the other hand has boyish short hair, masculine clothing (she almost invariably wears tank tops) a ton of piercings, and a far more brash personality. In their case, it doesn't work out.
In Stoneybrook Revisited: A Baby-Sitters Club Fan Series, the tomboyish Kristy is married to the Girly Girl Shannon.
There Will Be Brawl depicts Captain Falcon as Manly Gay (with a touch of Macho Camp), with Pit as his twinky Camp Gay boyfriend.
Adventure Time: Marceline and Princess Bubblegum have a lot of Unresolved Sexual Tension, before undergoing a Relationship Upgrade in the finale and later explored in the mini-series special, "Obsidian". Bubblegum is a Tomboy Princess in her own right but leans more towards Girly Girl with a Tomboy Streak, while Marceline is a punk rocker who both looks more tomboyish and is more laidback than Princess Bubblegum.
Amphibia: There's a lot of subtext between Lady Olivia and General Yunan, respectively a Proper Lady who always wears elegant gowns and is very concerned with etiquette, and a Blood Knight who always wears armor and has cropped short hair. After they officially become allies and start getting closer, Yunan calls Olivia "milady" and they're frequently seen Holding Hands. After the Time Skip in the finale, they're shown to have undergone a Relationship Upgrade.
Jeff's moms' from Clarence are a femme woman and a butch woman.
Korra and Asami from The Legend of Korra are a rare example involving two bisexual women. The former is a tomboyish Action Girl while the latter is a Girly Bruiser who always wears makeup. This is pronounced even more in the last season, which is also when they get together, as the former cuts her hair shorter.
The Loud House:
Averted between Luna Loud and her girlfriend, Sam Sharp, who both seem to be about equally tomboyish to each other.
Played a little more straight in "Singled Out" between Lynn's roller derby friend Lainey and her girlfriend Alice. While both of them indulge in giggly romance, Lainey is still the rowdy, rough sports jock of the two.
Luz and Amity become this when they start dating in Season 2 of The Owl House. The former is a Tomboy with a Girly Streak with Boyish Short Hair and an androgynous appearance. The latter is a Girly Girl with a Tomboy Streak who wears more feminine clothing such as skirts and dresses and a pink uniform.
Rick & Steve: The Happiest Gay Couple in All the World: Kirsten and her wife Dana. Kirsten dresses in pink overalls while Dana is a self-proclaimed "Jewish American Bulldyke" in a mullet.
She-Ra and the Princesses of Power:
Spinnerella is more stereotypically feminine, being the kinder, more compassionate member of the pairing, while Netossa is brash and combative. They're unambiguously shown to be in a relationship, and Word of God later clarified that they were married.
Downplayed example with Bow's dads. Lance is generally shown to be more emotionally open than the more reserved ex-soldier George; additionally, Lance has long hair while George has short hair and a moustache. That being said, it's not a huge thing; it's just them not having exactly the same personality.
South Park pairs 10-year-olds Craig Tucker and Tweek Tweak, with Craig having the more stereotypically masculine traits (stoic, stable, doesn't want to talk about his feelings) and Tweek having exaggerated versions of the stereotypically feminine (wildly emotive and worried about everything). When paired, Craig provides encouragement and stability and Tweek gives him something to care about, bringing out the better aspects of both of them.
Ruby and Sapphire are Discount Lesbians since they're from a species of alien who have No Biological Sex but are treated as women. Ruby is color-coded with red, has Boyish Short Hair, is Hot-Blooded, and wears martial arts-inspired clothes. Her girlfriend, Sapphire, has long hair, is a calm Proper Lady, color-coded with blue, and dresses like a princess. Invoked and Inverted at their wedding, Sapphire ties her hair back and wears a suit while Ruby is wearing a dress. Their re-fusion in these outfits leads to Garnet wearing a dress-suit hybrid.
Pearl and Mystery Girl have an Interspecies Romance, with Pearl as a Discount Lesbian. While Pearl is a sex-less femme-presenting alien, Mystery Girl is a tomboyish punk woman.
It's arguable whether Jasper and Lapis were in an actual relationship, but their bond was at minimum a metaphor for a Destructive Romance nevertheless. Lapis is very feminine looking, wearing a flowy dress, and looking like a dainty blue-colored woman. In contrast, Jasper is an angular, tall, and very muscular woman with a deep voice who is at least One Head Taller than Lapis.
10 most faithful gay couples We present to you 10 loving and faithful couples whose significant other is ... of the same gender.
See also - 10 strong married couples of celebrities
1. Actress Cynthia Nixon and social worker Christine Marinoni
Together: 7 years
Sex and the City star Cynthia Nixon met Christine Marinoni at a New York action in 2003. Since then, they have lived in perfect harmony, raising two children - 15-year-old daughter Samantha and 7-year-old son Charles from Cynthia's marriage to Professor Danny Moses, with whom the actress lived for fifteen years. “I fell in love with Christine for who she is,” the actress admits. “Would I pay attention to her if she were a man?” Don't know. I feel very good with her." When asked how the children reacted to their mother's new love, Cynthia confidently replies that "everything went great." “My son was still very young,” she recalls. “And since childhood, my daughter was nursed by a godmother of non-traditional orientation.” The only obstacle to the idyll is the New York law, which still prohibits the registration of same-sex marriages.
2. Designer-director Tom Ford and editor Richard Buckley
Together: 23 years
poignant films of this year. The couple met back in 1986 during a photo shoot for Vogue Hommes International magazine, edited by Richard. In 1989, fate prepared a serious test for the lovers - Richard was diagnosed with cancer. Now that the disease has been defeated, the couple is leading a "happy monogamous" life away from the metropolis on a ranch in New Mexico and is thinking about children. “I don’t want to live to be 75 and leave nothing but dresses behind,” Tom told Fantastic Man. Richard will make a wonderful father. A child will give our life a new meaning.”
3. TV presenter Ellen DeGeneres and actress Portia de Rossi
Together: 6 years
There is hardly a more popular couple in Hollywood than these blond beauties: winner of 11 Emmy awards and star of the TV series Ally McBeal. Ellen and Portia met at a Vh2 ceremony in December 2004, and since then it's simply impossible to imagine them separately. Having played a wedding in California in 2008 (many publications dreamed of covering the ceremony, but wedding photos graced the cover of People magazine), the couple lead an exemplary family life and begin to think about children. “If the baby is as beautiful as Brad and Angelina’s babies, then we will start working on it right now,” Ellen jokes. “But seriously, the birth of a child is an important event that will fill our lives with something special.”
4. Designer Marc Jacobs and advertising specialist Lorenzo Martone
Together: 2 years
“I am grateful to have met him,” Louis Vuitton creative director says of his acquaintance with Lorenzo. “One can only dream of such harmony.” The couple first appeared together at the Costume Institute Gala in New York in May 2008, and announced their engagement a few months later. All fashion publications dreamed of covering the wedding, however ... the lovers did not arrange magnificent festivities with a long list of star guests. They secretly formalized their relationship on New Year's Eve on St. Barth's Island. “We held a modest ceremony at the home of one of our friends on the island,” Lorenzo told Butt Magazine. “Only relatives and closest friends were present at the celebration. ”
5. Singer Beth Ditto and director Freddie Fagula
Together: 9 years
“Freddie is amazing,” Beth Ditto gets serious when talking about her significant other. “I can hardly find another such person who can cope with my temperament!” Beth met Freddie in college - she was only 19 then and she did not even dream of meeting Karl Lagerfeld. Speaking about her beloved today, Beth calls her the pronoun ... masculine - Freddie drinks hormones and is preparing to change sex. The relationship of the couple cannot be called ideal - they live like on a volcano. But ... assuring in an interview that she is "too difficult a person for marriage," Beth still loves to dream about a wedding dress. “I want the same as Carrie in the Sex and the City sequel,” she remarks jokingly or seriously. “Looks traditional, but in my style.”
6. Musician Elton John and film director David Furnish
Together: 17 years
“David is the most sincere person I know,” Elton John never tires of repeating. “Meeting him is the best thing that happened in my life.” The musician met the designer and film director at one of the receptions in 1993. Elton helped the chosen one overcome alcohol addiction, from which he suffered in the 90s. On December 21, 2005, just after same-sex marriage was legal in Britain, the lovers got married at the City Hall in Windsor. The ceremony was called "one of the most expensive" by the press and brought together all the star friends of the couple, including David and Victoria Beckham. Until last year, the couple did not think about their own children. But Elton's trip to one of the Ukrainian orphanages changed everything. The singer is so attached to an HIV-positive boy named Leo that he intends to change local laws that prohibit same-sex couples from adopting children.
7. Actress Heather Matarazzo and musician Caroline Murphy
Together: 3 years
“It was love at first sight,” The Princess Diaries star recalls meeting Caroline. A year after they met, on July 31, 2008, the couple got engaged. “Our engagement turned out to be very romantic,” says the actress. “First I proposed my hand and heart to Caroline, and then she did the same.” The lovers are in no hurry with the wedding - they live in California, where same-sex unions have been banned for some time now. “I was incredibly lucky,” the happy bride admits. - I met my soul mate. And I don't care what gender she is.
8. Actor Richard Chamberlain and manager Martin Rabbett.
Richard Chamberlain is simply unrecognizable now. To make you remember what he was like in The Thorn Birds, we additionally put one of his famous photographs
Together: 26 years old
Once again, looking through The Thorn Birds, we admired the masculinity and beauty of the protagonist, unaware that for over 20 years he has been happy with his manager Martin Rabbett. “I am very grateful to him. I can’t even imagine how difficult it was for Martin to hide our relationship from the whole world, Richard will write 13 years later in his memoirs entitled Towards Love. “Martin knew that coming out as gay would ruin my career.” Now that Richard is in his 70s and is no longer acting in films, he is enjoying a quiet family life in the Hawaiian Islands. “From the first minutes of our meeting, I realized that I had been waiting for this man all my life,” he says of Martin. “And I still feel that I was right.”
9. Musician Darren Hayes and cartoonist Richard Cullen.
Darren and Richard are so rarely filmed together that the only photo we could find together was on Pepper Hilton's blog. The blogger was so emotional that he decorated the picture with hearts
Together: 6 years
On June 19, 2006, Savage Garden star Darren Hayes married Richard Cullen. The wedding ceremony took place in London immediately after same-sex unions were allowed in Britain. “I am glad to live in an era when the relationship of two loving people can be officially registered,” Darren admitted in an interview. The handsome musician stopped hiding his orientation in 2000, when he divorced his high school love, makeup artist Colby Taylor. “I am happy that I found a person with whom I feel calm and good,” he says of his wife. “Not everyone can boast of this.”
10. Actor Stephen Fry and salesman Daniel Cohen.
It is impossible to see Stephen and Daniel together, in front of you is a rare photo in which the couple poses together
Together: 15 years
Before meeting Daniel, one of the most beloved English comedians and writers kept a vow of abstinence for sixteen years (!) The vitamin salesman made his way to Steven's heart through his stomach, because he's a great cook. “There are so many talents hidden in Daniel that in fifteen years I have not been able to find out about them all,” Stephen admires. The couple live in a large mansion in the English county of Norfolk, which they designed together, and from time to time get out to London (for example, to the premiere of the fairy tale "Alice in Wonderland", in which Stephen voiced the Cheshire Cat).
Our heroes are not the only famous people who managed to create happy same-sex unions. Similar couples can be found not only in acting (Alan Cumming), fashion (Domenico Dolce and Stefano Gabbana) and music (George Michael) environment, but also in other areas. Last year's appointment of the representative of sexual minorities Ennis Parker to the post of mayor of Houston is another confirmation of this.
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Evgeny Erofeev and Andrey Vaganov Photo: Privat
August 12, 2019
In an interview who adopted children and was forced to flee the Russian Federation because of the threat of losing them, for the first time she told her story - guardianship, open gay marriage in Moscow, persecution by the Investigative Committee.
Until this summer, Andrey Vaganov and Yevgeny Erofeev, a same-sex couple who lived in Moscow with adopted children, had no problems with the state. They married in Denmark in 2016 and raised two adopted boys together. The situation escalated sharply after the Investigative Committee opened a criminal case against employees of the social security authorities who allowed Andrei to adopt children. As a result, the family was forced to leave Russia.
While still in transit through Ukraine, the men gave their first interview to DW correspondent Dmitry Vachedin. For the first time, they gave their names and spoke about themselves - about life in Russia in an open gay marriage, the adoption of children, the problems that arose and the flight from the country.
At their request, we are not yet able to reveal the whereabouts of Andrei and Evgeny, but they are in a country that they consider safe. We publish a conversation with them almost without abbreviations.
DW: Nobody knew about you until a week ago. Now everyone will talk about you. How do you feel about it? Difficult?
Eugene: I have always dreamed of fame (smiles. - Rev. ).
Andrew: Look when I'm with Yura (son. - Rev. ) was leaving Moscow for Kyiv, I already understood that publicity and disclosure of personal data is a matter of time. Even then, correspondents contacted my former colleague, and my friends in the media told me that everything would become known anyway. Our life has already changed irrevocably, as has the life of our parents.
- Then introduce yourself, please.
Andrey: I'm Andrey Vaganov, I'm 44 years old. I am the official and only legal representative of the children. In their birth certificate, instead of the mother, there is a dash, only I appear there. Although Zhenya is also perceived as a parent, and when talking with children, we act as parents.
I am a consultant and have been teaching at various universities for almost a quarter of a century. At top universities like the Higher School of Economics. Once I was the head of the department, but now I am a visiting teacher who is invited to non-standard courses, let's say so. Frankly, it was teaching that made me realize that I want children. About 20 years ago, even before my thirtieth birthday, I realized that my main motivation for lecturing is to convey knowledge, self-confidence, and worldview to young people.
- Was your orientation a secret at these universities?
Andrey: I have always stuck to the simple "don't ask, don't tell" attitude of the Americans. ("Don't ask, don't tell" - a principle in force in the US military from 1993 to 2010, according to which homosexuals were allowed to serve in the army only if they concealed their sexual orientation. - Rev. ). It is quite obvious that if I go into an audience with 300 people and according to statistics 4 gays, they understand everything in twenty minutes. One day, the dean got printouts of a closed student forum, where the girls discussed my appearance, and the boys told them that, they say, "it blooms not for you." No questions were asked, just the dean handed me printouts: "Read." Well, I read it, thanks, that's all.
Eugene: Andrey, of course, likes his mind. I know this because I was his student.
- Can you say a few words about yourself?
Evgeny: My name is Evgeny Erofeev, I am 32 years old. I have always worked only in banks since I was 18 years old. Currently unemployed. I met Andrey about 10 years ago, so our anniversary is coming soon.
Evgeny Erofeev with children Photo: Privat
DW: Andrey, that is, you are a young successful assistant professor, do you want to convey your worldview and therefore you are going to adopt a child?
Andrew: Not everything is so fast. For five years I thought about it, including about surrogate motherhood. But then I realized that this format does not suit me, because I do not want to be a Sunday dad. At some point, I was about 35 years old, I decided to go into custody. It was almost a spontaneous decision. Walk-walk - hop, and went: "I'll adopt." And then it turned out that I collected all the documents in three weeks. It really was very simple. I come to the tuberculosis dispensary, there are twenty people in line, but the manager himself leads me by the hand to the fluorography. And the transcript, which is done for a week, is given to me in ten minutes.
- Is it because everyone understood the importance and wanted to help to adopt as soon as possible?
Andrew: Yes. And it was in every dispensary. In the Russian Federation, there are not many reasons for refusing adoption: this is health - that is, HIV, oncology, psychiatry, these are committed crimes against the person and outstanding convictions. Still need a small income, at the subsistence level, and living space. All. The only problem was getting an opinion that I could be an adoptive parent. Collected a whole commission. Ten women are sitting, asking why they wanted to adopt, why they are not married. I realized where everything was going and asked the chairperson in plain language if she suggested that I would fuck my own son. She said she didn't say that. Ten days later I had this conclusion.
- Has anyone at this stage suggested that you are gay?
Andrey: I can't say that I am strongly masculine, but I doubt that a fifty-year-old woman could see anything in me. It's not about that. I adopted in Kolomna, and was the first single male adopter there. And in our area in Moscow, too, the first. And all in Moscow by that time - only the fourth. Until now, in our country it is believed that a single man cannot adopt.
- What year was it?
Andrey: It was 2010. Denis was three and a half. The selection procedure itself is psychologically incredibly difficult. You come to a government institution, leaf through hundreds of photographs. I was kind of horrified. After two trips, I took a break for three months, I realized that I simply could not choose. It was something beyond. You sit and choose a child - and here they are, and there are hundreds of them. Three months later, I went to look at the database again, and Denis was there.
- Did Zhenya appear shortly after the adoption?
Andrew: Shortly before. With Zhenya, the situation was generally like in a movie. I invited him to curry on Saturday, he came to eat curry and on Sunday he stayed with me for good. It was September 19, and on October 5 I went to Denis. My wife was then 22 years old - I, frankly, had a little doubt.
- Zhenya, what was it like for you? Child at 22.
Eugene: It's fine, I live here. I didn't have any questions. I try to remember my emotions then, but no, there were no questions.
- Was the story of adopting a second child about the same?
Andrew: Approx. I again went into custody, quickly went through the formal procedures, called Kolomna. They said there was no one. But a few hours later they called back, they say that a boy has appeared. Well, that was Yura.
- What year is this?
Andrey: 2012. He was five and a half years old. Yura is younger than Denis by a year and a half.
- It turns out that you lived like an ordinary family until the authorities found out about you?
Andrei: In general, yes, but the clouds were gathering gradually. It was clear that the situation in the country was deteriorating. The first swallow is the law of Dima Yakovlev. At that moment, I started talking with Zhenya about the fact that we might need to leave the country. Zhenya was categorically against it then, he made a brilliant career. And then - the law on gay propaganda (a law establishing liability for the promotion of non-traditional sexual relations among minors. - Rev. ), and we immediately became people who violate the law. The situation began to deteriorate emotionally. Six months ago, the children mentioned that they began to tease them, they say, parents are motherfuckers. Before that, there were no questions from the children.
- Didn't you teach children to hide the fact that they have two dads?
Andrey: Never. Well, actually, their friends came to visit, everything is clear: here we are. In the end, we had a picture hanging over the matrimonial bed, where we were all four. Now we are very sorry that we did not take her with us. After the search, it may not have been left. The message was very simple: I don't want to drive children into the ghetto. I don't want them to have even a suspicion that we have an abnormal family. I never even said that we have a special family. He just said that families are different.
A family portrait that hung in the Moscow apartment of Andrey Vaganov and Yevgeny Erofeev Photo: Privat
- So you didn't hide in Russia, but lived in an open gay marriage? And did it work?
Andrey: We are a normal family. We are very good parents, without any discounts. Parents to look for. Despite the fact that there are conflicts and excesses, and sometimes we do not know how to raise children. Nevertheless, we are conscious parents, so although we don’t have a rainbow flag hanging on our balcony, we didn’t hide. They lived an ordinary family life. They didn’t go to gay clubs because there was no time left for this, they didn’t fight for gay rights. I believe that it is necessary to fight for gay rights after citizens simply have rights. If in Moscow you cannot get together without the risk of being detained for a public action, well, what a pride.
- But at some point the authorities found out about you.
Andrew: First, the police. I have Yura registered with the police. He is such a resident of the ghetto, he normally swears, competently and to the point. He waits exclusively squatting. Behavior patterns were learned in the first family, we adopted him quite late. Until he grows up and the volitional component starts working, it breaks through. In April-May, he first got into the police and said that he lives with two dads. After that, we asked the children not to talk about it.
Eugene: Then for the first time I felt scared.
Andrei: At the same time, the children started having problems with their peers. Once I go into the nursery and hear how one of the other called gay. And I sat them down and said: "A strange insult, because Zhenya and I are gay." And Yura cried. He could not believe that they were called names like that, but we are. For them, our family was such a natural history that they somehow did not identify us. Well, then, a couple of months later, Yura ended up in Roshal's clinic with suspected appendicitis. I was also delighted, because this is a good clinic. In fact, there was no appendicitis, he just ate a kilogram of carrots and half a loaf of burnt bread, made toast for himself.
But on the day I was picking him up from the hospital, the district investigator of the Investigative Committee called me and said that he wanted to talk to me and the child. I asked Yura what he talked about with the doctor. He said that the doctor asked when mom would come, to which Yura replied that he had two dads. Yura immediately understood: he must have said something wrong. I reassured the child, let's go to the investigator. That hour I talked with Yura in the presence of a guardian representative. And, on the one hand, after the conversation, the investigator began to talk to me much friendlier, because he realized that the doctor's suspicions were not confirmed.
- So the doctor suspected that you had corrupted Yura?
Andrew: Yes. On the other hand, I saw that the investigator was nervous. They called him many times, a man came several times and demanded an urgent report. The investigator sent us for a forensic medical examination. I will not go into the description, this is a very unpleasant and shocking procedure for a child. Sexual offense check. We finished and went home. And while we were driving, the first publications in the media had already appeared.
- About what?
Eugene: A child in the hospital told about two dads, he reacted inadequately to the doctor's questions.
Andrey: Plus, the information quickly got to the Ombudsman for Children's Rights Anna Kuznetsova. She is actually the wife of an Orthodox priest. She turned to Bastrykin (Chairman of the Investigative Committee of Russia Alexander Bastrykin. - Ed. ) with a request to sort out the situation. It turned out that this case acquired a political context. The investigator told me in plain text that there was nothing in this case, he wanted to close the check as soon as possible and go to barbecue. But everything turned out differently.
- What did the examination show?
Andrey: We were told that her results would be in a month. I talked to a lawyer, and he told me directly that with a very high probability we would have to leave the country. I didn't believe. And then a representative of guardianship calls me and asks me to voluntarily give the children to a social rehabilitation center until the results of the examination come. I called the lawyer again, and he said: "Well, you have to go." Yura and I got together in an hour and a half and soon found ourselves outside the Russian Federation. And soon Denis, who was with my parents, was also transported there. At this time, the criminal investigation was already connected. I was threatened that a murder case would be opened against me.
- Murder of whom?
Andrey: Children, of course. They tell me: "Bring them, prove that they are alive." I refuse. They say, "Well, then you killed them." I say: "Good. True, from Agatha Christie I know that there is no corpse - there is no case." They answer: "Life is richer."
Eugene: I was alone in Moscow. And a week later I was watching a series in the evening, and suddenly they began to knock on my door. I immediately knew who it was. It was scary. No one shouted "police, open it", it was all silent: the door was cracking, I had a feeling that it could be broken down by force. Half an hour later they stopped knocking, went to my parents' house and conducted a search there. At the same time, the representative of the Investigative Committee was drunk. They were looking for children and also a marriage certificate in Danish. I left the house at night, spent the night in the car, took a shower at the sports club, arrived at work and quit within half an hour. And then my friends took me outside of Russia. And then a door was broken into our Moscow apartment, we were woken up at night by an alarm system, and a search was carried out there. They searched my parents, Andrei's parents and his other relatives.
- But only one criminal case has been initiated, due to the negligence of guardianship authorities. How are your relatives related to him?
Eugene: As a drunken representative of the Investigative Committee said when he searched my parents' house: "Our powers are extremely extensive." This phrase describes the whole thing: our powers are very extensive - we do what we want.
- That is, you went abroad with your children because you were persuaded to give them away under the threat of criminal prosecution?
Andrei: Several lawyers explained it to me very simply. Understanding the logic of the development of the situation, the following will happen: the children are seized, psychologists work with them for some time, and on the basis of communication with the children, they initiate a criminal case against me related to violence.
Eugene: With corruption.
Andrey: So I left for two reasons. Firstly, I did not understand how children could end up in an orphanage even for two weeks. Although family law lawyers assured that it would be for years. Even if the situation develops in your favor, you can’t get them out of there quickly. Secondly, I was directly told that I would be arrested on a criminal case related to child molestation. Two people gave exactly the same assessment and gave examples of real cases. That was enough for me to get ready in an hour and a half.
- Why does the Investigative Committee need this?
Evgeniy: There is Kuznetsova, an influential person who begins to put pressure on the UK. They have to react in some way. And then there are also excellent comments by Matvienko (Chairman of the Federation Council Valentina Matvienko. - Ed. ). Literally a day and a half before this story, she says that homosexual couples should not have children, and the case immediately appears. People hear, they want to move up the career ladder. And then the third person in the country says such things.
- Do I understand correctly that in the gray zone of Russian legislation there was an opportunity for same-sex couples to adopt children and now they want to close this loophole?
Andrey: This is not a gray area of the law. The legislation is transparent and unambiguous, and there was no opportunity for gay couples to adopt. One person can adopt. This is very important, because from a legal point of view, Zhenya is an outsider for children. That is, this is not a gray area, this is not a loophole. There are a huge number of really single heterosexual women who adopt. And the risk of this situation is not that there are Zhenya and me or other gay couples. The problem is exactly that the current situation hits everyone. And it is clear that if the story of negligence reaches a negative end, then a witch hunt will begin.
Evgeny: In fact, gay couples who raise children are rare in Russia. There are much more lesbian couples, the ratio is 95 to 5. And these lesbian couples just basically have their own children, because they can give birth to them. But guardianship should also monitor them, because she is responsible not only for adopted children, but for everyone - even relatives.
Andrei: Guardianship is accused of neglecting it in connection with the promotion of non-traditional values.