How to have your child skip a grade
How to Skip a Grade Level: Deciding What’s Best for Your Child
When we think about our years in school, we often remember our favorite teachers or the best moments from a particular grade. If you’re thinking about your child skipping a grade, it’s normal to worry that they’ll miss out on something. Every year of school helped shape you in some way.
But even though it’s not that common, skipping a year may be what’s best for your child.
Skipping a grade, or grade acceleration, is an option for students who aren’t being challenged academically. Like many other countries, the American school system groups students into grades based on age rather than development or skill level. So students performing above or below grade level is a common problem.
If grade skipping can feel like a huge decision, we get it! We’re here to help you ease your fears and decide the best course for your child.
Read on to find out what it means to skip a grade, who should skip a grade and what to think about before making your decision. Plus, learn how to start the grade-skipping process.
Skipping a grade: what does it mean and who should do it?
Skipping a grade is a solution for academically-gifted students who feel unchallenged by their current grade level’s curriculum. Many times they’ve already mastered the skills and concepts other students are just beginning to grasp.
Students most often skip only one grade. For example, you may choose for your child to skip first grade and go straight from kindergarten to second. It’s also common for a child to skip second grade, moving from first into third.
This single-year skipping keeps the student from feeling too distanced from their peers. Plus, they’re more challenged by the curriculum without feeling overwhelmed.
If a student is still not academically challenged after skipping a grade, a different alternative needs to be explored.
Students ready to skip a grade will often finish their classroom work quickly, leaving them feeling bored at school.
This boredom can sometimes translate into disruptive behavior as they’re waiting for others to catch up. Or even worse, boredom in the classroom can cause a lack of excitement for learning.
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What to consider before skipping a grade
If you feel your child is bored in their current classroom, skipping a grade may be a good choice. But even if your child is advancing ahead of other kids in their class, you may want to think about the following factors before you make the jump.
Motor skill development
In the early years of your child’s education (namely kindergarten, first grade, and second grade), motor skills play a huge role in their day.
Students are learning handwriting, drawing, cutting, running, throwing, and catching. And many of these skills are more age-dependent than basic reading and math skills.
It’s best for a grade-skipping student to have the same motor skills as the kids in their new grade. Your child will need to be able to cut out shapes and draw pictures at grade level, as well as go to the bathroom independently and dress themselves. They’ll also need to keep up in physical education classes and after-school sports with their slightly older peers.
Adequate motor skills ensure they don’t fall behind in their new classroom. But equally important — being able to participate in art and outdoor activities with the older kids will help them not feel left out socially.
The emotional and social impact
There are significant social and emotional challenges when trying to make friends with a whole new class. Students who skip a grade may feel ostracized or intimidated trying to befriend their new (and older) classmates.
And they may simply miss their old friends.
Developmental differences are starker in younger students, meaning a missed year of social and emotional maturation is more obvious. Your younger child may be less equipped to handle tense social situations or read social cues.
For some kids, this emotional challenge outweighs the academic benefits of skipping a grade. In this case, it may be better to find other ways your child can be challenged in their current grade. Or try seeking out advanced academic opportunities outside of the classroom.
Is skipping a grade bad for kids? Here's what one study found.
While some parents and educators are concerned about the psychological risks of having kids skip a grade, they may not need to worry.
One 35-year-long study monitored more than 1,000 students who had their education accelerated and investigated if it had an impact on their mental and emotional state. They found no relationship between accelerating a child's education and their long-term psychological well-being.
Effect on free time
If your child was easily coasting through school before, the extra homework and studying in their new grade can be shocking.
While it’s totally possible to adjust, it may mean rearranging your family’s schedule so your child has more time to complete their homework and test prep.
For instance, your child might have to cut back on extra-curricular activities or time spent hanging out with friends. For younger ages, this is less of a concern. But in older grade levels, this can be hard and make them feel isolated.
And remember — it’s still important to find balance. Your child needs time to relax, especially with the added stress of skipping a grade. So be careful to not overschedule their day. Try to focus on prioritizing their mental and physical health during this transition. And before long they’ll be not only adjusted, but thriving.
How to start the process for skipping a grade level
While many parents share similar reasons for having their child skip a grade, how the process happens will be unique to your child’s situation.
This is because each school district has its own procedures and steps that need to be completed.
Here is how skipping a grade generally works in schools across the US:
1. You send in a written request
Most schools require a written request or form with your child’s name, grade, and information on why they want to skip a particular grade.
2. You meet with professionals
You’ll find yourself speaking with guidance counselors, teachers, or school psychologists — someone who has worked with your child and is aware of their needs. They’ll help compile reports on your child’s academic, social, and emotional states of readiness for skipping a grade.
3. There is a review of your child's academic achievement or test scores
Your child's grades and test scores will likely be reviewed during this process. You can also highlight academic activities they practice in and out of the classroom.
4. Educators meet with your child
Skipping a grade is a big change.
Most school districts will want to speak directly with your child to make sure they understand what’s happening and that they’re on board with the plan.
5. Officials evaluate your child’s emotional and social readiness
As discussed above, academics aren’t the only factor to consider when skipping a grade. School officials will want to know that you and a professional have evaluated your child for the emotional and social readiness needed at the higher grade level.
6. You discuss reasons why their current grade is holding them back
School professionals need to know the reasons why your child’s current grade is holding them back. This may include boredom, lack of excitement to learn, or disruptive behavior due to a lack of academic challenge.
7. The school gives their recommendation on skipping a grade
Once all the evaluations and meetings are complete, the school’s professionals will share their recommendations. If they don’t recommend skipping a grade, no worries.
Read on for other options that may be a better fit for your child.
When is the best time to skip a grade?
The absolute best time for your child to skip a grade depends on their unique development.
In general, the earlier a child skips a grade, the better. Skipping kindergarten or a grade in elementary school is typically less difficult socially than skipping a grade in middle school or high school.
In terms of the time of year, it’s much easier for the child to skip a grade before a school year begins rather than in the middle of the year. This way they don’t feel lost jumping into the middle of a new class’s curriculum and can naturally start out in a new class without feeling like ‘the new kid’.
Alternatives to skipping a grade level
If the school administrators deny your request, or you decide that skipping a grade is not the best choice, don’t worry! Your child can still get the academic challenges they need elsewhere.
Try out some these alternatives to skipping a grade level:
Advanced classes
Especially in later grades, like middle and high school, advanced classes are a great option.
These classes have more challenging curriculum taught at a faster pace. You can even look for dual-enrollment programs that allow high schoolers to take college classes for credit.
Gifted programs
Gifted programs are educational programs that group together a small number of academically advanced students. This group, taught by a special teacher, learns with a much more rigorous academic curriculum. And individualized attention can make a huge difference in school satisfaction.
Ability grouping
Ability grouping is the practice of splitting an entire class, or even a full grade, into groups based on their academic abilities. This is often done based on reading levels so instructors can provide more specific instruction and feedback.
Subject-matter acceleration
If your child really excels in one or two subjects, subject-matter acceleration can be a great option. With this practice, a student will move to a higher-grade classroom for just specific subjects, such as science or math.
Homeschooling
Homeschooling provides an opportunity to uniquely cater each subject to your child’s ability level and interests. It allows you to push hard when your child excels and slow down when they need more help. It also opens up more time to individual pursuits, such as coding or arts.
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How to skip a grade
You think your child might be a good candidate for grade skipping, but you have questions. What’s the process like? What are the requirements? Is it even possible?
The answer to all of these questions, unfortunately, is: It varies. There’s no standard set of guidelines dictating when or how a child should skip a grade. Schools and school districts often have a lot of leeway when it comes to accelerating students, and what happens in one school might not even be considered in another.
Even so, if you’re thinking about having your child skip a grade, there are some things you can generally expect to do — including pulling together information, talking to teachers, looking into your school’s specific policies and getting buy-in from the principal or other gatekeepers.
How do you skip a grade?
How a child skips a grade can look different from one school to the next, but many students will follow the same general process, says Ann Lupkowski-Shoplik, an administrator with the Acceleration Institute at the University of Iowa.
Here are the steps many parents follow.
Gather some intel
Why do you think your child should skip a grade? Write down your thoughts on what you’ve noticed about your child, including test scores, behaviors and what they’ve told you about their experience at school and what they’d like to do. Having all this info in one place can come in handy when it comes time to talk with your child’s teachers or school administrators.
It can also be helpful to gather information from other parents or organizations with experience in grade skipping. If you know families whose children skipped a grade, ask them about the decision-making process and what they wish they’d known or done differently. And check out resources from groups like the Acceleration Institute that have expertise in how skipping grades can impact gifted children.
Look into your school’s policies (and politics) on grade skipping
Find out what you can about the school’s existing policies.
Some districts have strict guidelines in place that outline the steps a student must take in order to skip a grade. For example, a district might allow grade skipping but only after first grade. Or they might only accelerate students who score above a certain percentage on standardized tests.
You can generally find these policies in the school’s student manual or on the district’s website, but they aren’t always written down. Some schools have a more informal policy that’s at the discretion of the school’s principal, Lupkowski-Shoplik says. Sometimes these administrators have misconceptions or doubts about the process that influence whether they’ll even consider allowing kids to skip grades, she says.
Emily Popek, a communications specialist in Oneonta, New York, says her family considered talking to her daughter’s school about grade acceleration when she was in first grade but was worried about how it might be perceived.
“I’ve read and heard so much about how teachers are tired of parents telling them how to do their jobs, and I do not want to be that person,” Popek says.
“I got the sense that skipping grades is sort of the nuclear option and that to advocate for that without trying other things first might be kind of jumping the gun.”
If you aren’t sure what the school’s policies are on grade skipping, your child’s teacher or school administrators should be able to explain them.
Talk to your child’s teachers
More often than not, grade skipping starts with a parent or teacher raising concerns that the child might need more advanced coursework, says Laura Schonberg, director of the highly capable services (aka “gifted”) program in Mount Vernon, Washington.
“The conversation usually starts in one of two ways,” she says. “Either the parent’s saying ‘My kid is always bored’ … or a teacher saying, ‘Oh my gosh, this kid is scoring off the charts and already knows all this stuff.’”
If you think your child needs more of a challenge than their current grade can offer, talking to their teacher can help confirm your suspicions or provide more insight into what they’re seeing in the classroom, Schonberg says.
They can also tell you whether they think your child is ready to skip a grade or if there are alternatives to grade skipping that might be a better fit.
Get buy-in from leadership
Next, the teacher, family and school administrators will likely meet to talk about possible solutions. If the consensus lands on skipping a grade, a request is made to the school’s gatekeeper (typically the principal) to make the final decision.
While some schools might structure this decision-making process with rubrics or specific criteria, other schools might be more informal.
Emily Hubbard, a writer and marketing assistant in St. Louis says her son was moved up informally when he was in first grade. He was finishing work faster than the other students and was “completely checked out,” Hubbard says. At first, the teachers gave him second-grade materials to keep him engaged, but they eventually moved him up unofficially to the second-grade classroom.
The next year, his teachers asked Hubbard to make it official.
“The process was super easy,” she says. “I just wrote a letter to the principal saying something like, ‘Please officially move Jonas up to third grade. We think it’s where he should be.’ And they did it.”
Lupkowski-Shoplik says buy-in from school leadership is crucial. As gatekeepers, administrators often have the final say in whether a child skips a grade. If they are reluctant to move forward, it likely won’t happen. In those situations, Lupkowski-Shoplik says it can be helpful to find out what their biggest concerns are and then send them information that addresses those concerns. For example, if a principal is worried that grade skipping will hurt a child socially, parents or teachers could give them resources like the Acceleration Institute’s report A Nation Empowered, which includes success stories about accelerated students, as well as research showing the social impact of grade skipping is minimal.
Fulfill any remaining requirements
Your school’s administrators might require your child to check certain boxes before getting final approval to skip a grade, such as sitting for exams or conducting a formal assessment. Because these requirements vary so widely from one school to the next, check with your school to confirm what (if any) the final steps might be.
When is the best time to skip grades?
Many children who skip a grade do so in elementary school, Schonberg says. That’s partially because there are fewer options for advanced students compared to secondary school, and the academic gap can look a lot bigger during the earlier grades.
“If I’m a second-grader doing algebra, that is really obvious,” Schonberg says.
But elementary age isn’t the only time a child might benefit from a whole-grade acceleration. Skipping a grade can take place at any point from early childhood to college.
The Acceleration Institute lists several ways a child might skip a whole grade, including:
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Whole-grade acceleration: Skipping any grade during the course of elementary, middle or high school.
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Early admission to kindergarten: Entering kindergarten before turning the minimum age set by their school district or state.
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Early admission to first grade: Skipping kindergarten and going right into first grade
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Telescoping curriculum: Finishing a curriculum in a shorter-than-expected period of time, such as completing three years of middle school in just two years, or a full grade year in just a semester.
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Early entrance into middle school, high school or college: Starting the next level of schooling a full year (or more) earlier than expected.
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Early graduation from high school or college: Finishing high school or college earlier than expected.
Are there alternatives to skipping a grade?
If skipping a whole grade isn’t right for the student, there are other things parents or educators can do to meet their academic needs. According to the Acceleration Institute, some of those processes include:
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Subject-matter acceleration: A student might go to a higher grade classroom to participate in activities surrounding a specific content area (e.g., reading or math). This is a fairly typical way to challenge students who are gifted in a particular area but might be on-track with their peers in others, Schonberg says.
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Curriculum compacting: This entails condensing an area of schoolwork into a shorter period of time, such as a year’s worth of reading units into just a few months.
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Continuous progress: This means giving a child more advanced work as soon as they master something, allowing them to progress faster (chronologically) than their peers.
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Self-paced instruction: Similar to continuous progress, this allows a child to be completely in charge of their own pace. Lupkowski-Shoplik says parents and administrators should be careful with this option because “it can easily turn into handing a student a book and sticking [them] in the back of the room without interaction or supervision.” She says unless a child is highly motivated, it can result in the student not moving forward at an appropriate pace or with a good understanding of the material.
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Distance learning or online learning courses: By enrolling in courses outside the normal schoolwork, typically online, the child can participate in an advanced program at home, in the evenings or as an alternative to traditional classes during school hours.
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Extracurricular programs: Participating in after-school or summer programs allows for more challenging work or a faster-paced learning environment.
Ramsey Hootman, a novelist in El Cerrito, California, says she considered having her son skip a grade but ran into obstacles in his school district. To challenge her son academically, she’s relied on gifted summer camps, where he is challenged in math and science, the areas he likes most, Hootman says.
When in doubt, consult the team
Whether you and your child decide to accelerate or pursue other options, remember that you are your child’s advocate — but you are also part of a team. Teachers and administrators can help you and your child navigate complicated policies and advise you on what they think would be the best fit for your child. If you aren’t sure what the next steps are, don’t be afraid to speak up.
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“We tried everything: we threatened, punished, forbade. Nothing works...” – the parents are at a loss. The daughter moved to the eighth grade, and it was as if she had been replaced. In elementary school I was an excellent student, then I studied quite decently, went to English, to gymnastics, to the pool. And now the desire to learn is gone completely. She does not do her homework, she began to skip classes, even moved out in those subjects that were always easy for her. Parents explained: you need to think about the exam, otherwise you won’t enter a decent university. But all to no avail.
There are as many reasons why children do not want to study as there are children. But, as experience shows, several main ones can be distinguished, and then it becomes clear through which channels the energy flows, which should be directed to study.
Workload
Today's children are so busy with studies and extracurricular activities that they have no free time.
And if until adolescence they somehow pull the strap, then they begin to rebel, knowing full well that parental cries and threats will lead to nothing. As one teenager told me, “they won’t stop feeding, they won’t be kicked out of the house.” Excessive employment destroys motivation, reduces creativity, and hinders the development of leadership qualities. And it negatively affects academic performance - the child literally ceases to keep up. Overload also affects health - children begin to get sick more often, which means they miss classes. Having missed several classes, the child is not able to join the learning process, does not understand what the teacher is talking about, and does not know how to approach homework that accumulates like a snowball.
Relationships
Children's desire to go to school is also influenced by the environment in the classroom, relationships with peers and teachers. In the lower grades, it is especially important how the teacher treats the child.
For teenagers, relationships with classmates come to the fore. When they do not add up or the child becomes the object of bullying, he is no longer up to learning.
Hobbies
Another channel of "squandering" energy is uncontrolled hobbies, which, from the point of view of adults, give nothing to the child. It can be teen companies "of interest" - children get together to listen to music, play or just wander the streets in search of adventure. Someone is into extreme sports. Gadgets also eat up a lot of time: there are computer games and communication on the Internet. The child counts the minutes until the end of the lessons - all attention is focused on something else.
No matter what the reason is for a child not wanting to go to school, we as parents should put aside everything and devote as much time as needed to solving the problem. The most important thing is not to destroy contact with the child, but, on the contrary, to get close to him and help him in every possible way.
Determine priorities
If it is an excessive load, you need to reduce it, find the optimal pace of life for the child. Conduct a kind of inventory: what the child does, where his strength goes. If he runs around circles, as in Agnia Barto's poem, you need to think about what you should give up in order to focus on your studies. At the same time, in no case should a child be deprived of an activity that he likes and in which he feels successful. I know a family where, due to poor grades, the boy was taken out of the hockey section, although he was one of the best in the team. The child was terribly upset, offended by his parents. From wearing they were spoiled, but he did not begin to study better. That sphere of the child's life, in which he felt confident, where he had real achievements, was cut off by his parents, and he found himself only in the role of lagging behind.
Teach to learn
When a subject is neglected and it is not clear how to approach it, you can use what I call the “Swiss cheese technique”.
If you have a wall of problems in front of you, you must first scroll two or three holes in it, and then gradually, step by step, increase their size until the wall collapses. In our case, we need to determine which items are most important now and what needs to be tightened up. After that, you need to move on to specific actions - deal with one running paragraph from the textbook, then proceed to the next one, and so on. It will take time and patience, but we will see how the child’s attitude to classes is changing: as soon as he begins to understand and assimilate the material, self-confidence will appear, and with it an interest in learning. If the subject is difficult and we cannot help ourselves, then we need to temporarily take a tutor.
Help improve relationships
If the teacher's bias is the reason for poor learning, the child runs the risk of being caught between a rock and a hard place: at school he is bullied by the teacher, and at home he is pressed by his parents.
This is a dead end: we will lose contact with the child, and the problem will not be solved. To solve it, we will have to talk with the teacher, try to somehow build a relationship. If we understand that it will not be possible to rectify the situation, we must move to another class or to another school. Moreover, you need to act quickly: the child should not be in the field of powerful negative emotions for a long time. Similarly, you need to deal with bad relationships with peers. If a child is bullied, this is one question, but if a child cannot find a common language with classmates, it is necessary to teach him to communicate and establish contacts.
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What should I do if my child skips school?
The child skipped school. It is almost always a scandal, mom's tears, dad's belt and phrases like "what path did you go ...". Grandmothers drink validol, grandfathers reproachfully say: “Here I am at your age!”, And the child stands with his eyes down on the floor, and waits for the inevitable punishment.
But is it so bad if a child skips school? But what if this does not mean that he is a future janitor and the reason is not laziness or bad company at all? Let's see why a child can skip classes, what his parents should do, and also see how news about absenteeism is reacted to on the u-mama forum.
The editors of Tlum.Ru tried to answer all these questions.
Why did the child skip?
There can be a lot of reasons for absenteeism and you need to figure out what exactly was the reason not to go to class.
This could be just plain tiredness. If your child goes to hockey, cross-stitch, an acting studio after school, and then it turned out that the subway was closed, and he walked home, then it is quite possible that he just wants to relax. In this case, most often they skip the last or “uninteresting” lessons.
The reason may be simply that the child is not interested in this object. Why should he go to physical education if he has an exemption? Why go to mathematics if there are very easy tasks, and he is engaged in high school with a tutor?
It could also be a conflict with the teacher.
In Russian, which the child knows quite well, does Marina Petrovna call him to the blackboard all the time and humiliate him in front of the whole class for any mistake, find fault, sting? This is quite possible.
Maybe the reason is not the teacher, but classmates? Your son quarreled with his friend Vasya, he doesn’t want to see him, as soon as he sees, he will immediately climb with his fists. Well, it's better to take a walk and calm down. Or other students are bullying your child and he is just trying to escape from an uncomfortable environment.
There are, of course, less clear cases. For example, the last lesson is chemistry, and the weather is great outside and the guys play football / hopscotch / dodgeball. Think about it, would you have restrained yourself in childhood?
And finally, the reasons can be really serious. Your son got into bad company, they smoke behind the garages, or they are hooligans, or something.
So how do you figure out what made a child pick up and not come to school? And what to do when the secret became clear?
What should the parents of a truant do?
First of all, don't guess why. Ask the child directly, don't try to go roundabout and get caught in a lie. Show that you are not his enemy, that you value the trust between you and are not going to fall into hysterics without finding out the reasons. Be calm and try to understand the child.
If the reason for absenteeism is a banal workload, find a compromise and remove something from his busy schedule. Or agree with the teacher that the child will not attend music, since a music school may well count for 5 in a quarter.
If a child is not at all interested in physics, so he does not go to it, try to captivate him with this subject. Go to museums, watch documentaries, do experiments at home. Try to explain that it might be interesting if you figure it out.
True, in this case, most of your efforts will be broken into: “We open and outline the 5th chapter ...”, - at the very first lesson attended.
If your child has a conflict with a teacher or other students, then he may not be able to do without your intervention. Try to understand the situation and help him cope. If it's the teacher, go and personally talk with him or the class teacher, if nothing changes, go to the administration.
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As for one-time absenteeism like “well, there was a free movie show at that time ...” and so on. Think - is it really that bad? If academic performance does not suffer, then why not sometimes allow yourself to relax, play in the fresh air or go to some interesting place. In this case, it is better to "cover up" the child in front of the teachers, but tell him to warn you in advance next time. In the end, maybe you would go too!
If the situation is serious and you find out that the child is systematically truant from school and has acquired bad habits, only then is it worth sounding the alarm.
If heart-to-heart talks do not help, it is better to contact a family psychologist.
In any case, remember that not coming to geography does not mean "going downhill." And if a child ran away from classes to look at a rare panda that was brought to the zoo for a couple of days, you should not take up the belt.
It is useless to read morals and talk about “here you are in his time…”. All your efforts will be in vain. Also, do not promise him something for attending school. This is his duty, for which you don’t need to be rewarded, otherwise you won’t get enough money, and he will walk only for show.
Always try to put yourself in the child's shoes. He doesn’t want to go to a lesson with Raisa Pavlovna. Is that that shrill, hysterical woman? Even you don’t want to go to her, let alone children. Speak and try to explain why it will not be possible to avoid it, and that, unfortunately, there will be many more such Rais in life. Get used to it, baby.
What do parents do?
We browsed the u-mama forum and made a selection of comments from parents who are experiencing the problem of absenteeism.
What measures are they taking? Let's go from the easiest solutions to the most radical ones.
“Tell me that you yourself will sometimes allow you to miss classes, provided that your son does not deceive you and there are no problems with studies. Such unexpected gifts are sometimes very necessary, and not only for teenagers.”
“I myself allow my daughter to skip some classes (she is in the 7th grade) when I see that she needs a rest. It has absolutely no effect on her academic performance.”
“Well, to begin with, explain that she herself is responsible for absenteeism, and if she doesn’t pass the GIA next year, her problems. As long as academic performance is normal, don’t panic.”
“I also skipped a lot at 8-9, just like that, they couldn’t cope with me, well, dad could bring me to my senses for a while. Then I finished tails before the holidays, by the end of the 9th grade it was gone.
“I’m trying to work on motivation: to find reasons why all this is necessary, but it doesn’t work yet.
And dad has no particular desire to participate. Only to punish him (But I'm afraid that this is also not so scary and not so effective for him now.
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“Let him explain the reason for his act, if it is precisely the lack of time for walks, agree to increase it, but not at the expense of classes. It would be nice to find out how the daughter is doing in missed subjects - there may be a conflict with the teacher. The main thing in this situation is to remain a friend for your daughter, it is difficult to change behavior at the age of 13-14, but as a "friend" you will have access to more detailed information about what is in your daughter's head, as an "enemy" you will only your experiences and guesses.
“At my age, I simply didn’t have free time, I was engaged in choreography (traveled around Russia, abroad, to various competitions), an English tutor, courses at the 9th gymnasium plus lessons.
