How to give your older child up for adoption

American Adoptions - Is It Possible to Give an Older Child Up for Adoption? [How the Older Child Adoption Process Works]

You may be facing the hardest situation of your life, but there is hope — for yourself, and for your child. Putting an older child up for adoption — whether they are an infant or a toddler — is possible. Call 1-800-ADOPTION now to learn more or to get started.

If you’re considering placing an older child for adoption today, we want you to understand:

How the process works
How American Adoptions can help
What you can do today

While each process is unique, there are some big steps involved in every older child adoption.

Once you understand how it works, you might have a better idea of if placing an older child for adoption is right for you. Or, you could come to see that other avenues of support are better for your situation.

To get more information and find support today, click here or call 1-800-ADOPTION.

Please know that American Adoptions is unable to provide adoption services for children over 4 years old. If you are considering adoption for a child older than 4 years, we have created this guide to your options.

How to Put an Older Child Up for Adoption

Step 1: Decide if Placing an Older Child for Adoption is Right for You

Let’s be honest: parenting is hard. There are emotional, financial and physical challenges.

At what point do those challenges begin to feel so overwhelming that adoption becomes the best option for your family?

The answer is different for every woman. Some signs that adoption may be right for you are:

You are financially unable to provide basic needs for yourself and your child.
The demands of parenting feel unbearable on your physical and mental health.
You believe that a loving adoptive family could provide your child with an amazing life.

Casey, a birth mother who worked with American Adoptions, thought that parenting would work out, even though she knew things wouldn’t be easy. For a while, she seemed to be getting by.

But, between shifts for her overnight job and day job, throwing together a meal and trying to prep notes for a babysitter, she began thinking that there may be something better — for herself and for her children.

“I didn’t have family support… everything was on my own,” she said. “I was just contemplating, ‘What can I possibly do now that would make a difference for our future and provide my sons with the life that I would like to give them?’”

The answer, for Casey and her children, was adoption. That doesn't mean it was an easy choice — putting your child's needs first, not only today but in the future, can be hard.

But, placing an older child for adoption might be the answer for you, too.

No matter what your reasons are, we want you to know that adoption is not “giving up” on your child. Even though “giving up an older child for adoption” is a common phrase, it misses the key point:

You’re doing something brave and loving when you choose adoption.

If placing an older child for adoption is right for you, then you are not “giving up.”

Step 2: Contact American Adoptions [Available 24/7]

If your child is a newborn, a year old or even a toddler, and you are seriously considering older child adoption, then you can call 1-800-ADOPTION today to speak to an adoption specialist.

You can feel confident and safe with our team. We’ve been providing services to prospective birth parents for more than 30 years, including parents who are thinking of putting older children up for adoption.

And we’re always here for you — 24/7.

What can you expect when you call 1-800-ADOPTION?

A friendly and compassionate specialist whose goal is to help you create a safe adoption plan
Someone who will make you feel safe
Important information on how older child adoption works
Guidance about whether adoption is right for you, and what your other options may be
Clear direction on what to do next
And more

We will help you navigate your emotions and understand what is best for your child. You can trust our guidance because we have worked with many other women in similar situations.

Step 3: Social and Medical Histories [What You Will Need]

If you do decide to begin the process of placing an older child for adoption, we’ll get to work as fast as we can. You’ll get an information packet with even more helpful adoption facts, as well as directions for how the older child adoption process will go.

At this point, many prospective birth parents want to know how long the process will take. Ultimately, every process is unique. It’s difficult to say, and much of it is up to you. There are a few steps that may take time, but the more involved and prepared you can be, the quicker the process can move.

One thing you can do right now to move the process along is to start collecting medical and social histories. These are documents that need to be included in the adoption paperwork, like:

Prenatal care documents
Labor and delivery records
Pediatric medical histories
The child’s birth certificate

Your adoption specialist will be there every step of the way so that you can feel prepared, confident and at peace with putting an older child up for adoption. They will help you request these documents, but it is ultimately up to you to be proactive about signing the necessary releases for this vital information.

Step 4: Find an Adoptive Family [View Profiles Today]

We know you love your baby, and you want the world for them. That’s why we do everything possible to help you find the best family for your child.

When you put older children up for adoption, you get to choose the adoptive family, just like a woman who places a newborn for adoption.

You can look through adoptive family profiles to find parents who are best prepared to provide your child with a smooth transition into a loving family. Generally, there are more adoptive families who feel prepared to adopt newborns and infants, while there are fewer families ready to adopt a toddler. However, we do work with adoptive families who cannot wait to welcome your 1, 2 or 3-year-old into their loving arms.

To get a sense of the types of people waiting to adopt, you can click here to look at some of our family profiles online.

When you’ve found the family you think will be best for your baby, and all of the necessary medical and social history listed in the step above has been collected, we will reach out to set up the connection.

Step 5: Your Transition Plan [Doing What’s Best for Your Child]

Did you know that most U.S. infant adoptions are at least semi-open? The same is true when you are putting an older child up for adoption. Open adoption allows you to:

Get to know the adoptive parents before placement
Develop a transition plan with the family
Stay connected with the family after placement
Know that your child is safe, loved and happy

The transition plan is one of the most important steps when you are “giving up” an older child for adoption. Essentially, this is the time when your child is placed in the care of the adoptive family.

Depending on how old your child is, this may be difficult and confusing for them to understand. In a transition plan, you will work together with the adoptive parents to help your child feel safe and secure.

Many transition plans take place over the course of several days. It could go something like this:

Friday: You may meet together, share a meal and then go home with your child.
Saturday: You meet again, but this time leave while your child stays with the adoptive parents. They can play, bond and begin to form a connection.
Sunday: It is time for the child to be placed with the adoptive parents. Because of the time you all spent together over the past few days, this placement can feel more natural and safe for your child.

This step of the older child adoption process can be very difficult, and we are here for you. The goal is for you and your child to feel comfortable with this transition. From figuring out the logistics to deciding what to pack and how you can expect to feel, our adoption specialist will be by your side.

Step 6: Complete Your Placement [And Stay Connected Through Open Adoption]

To complete your placement, you’ll need to sign your adoption paperwork. Your specialist and attorney will help you. This is a brave step to take to do what is best for your child.

After the paperwork is signed and the adoption is complete, you can stay connected through open adoption. Every open adoption is different, so it’s up to you to decide what’s best for you and your child.

Open adoption may seem scary at first when you are thinking about putting an older child up for adoption. Wouldn’t a clean break be better? But, many prospective birth mothers, like Caitlin, will tell you about the benefits of open adoption.

“Knowing that I can be around and be there — I don’t even know how to put it into words… I’m like a cheerleader on the sideline, and that’s more than I could have asked for,” Caitlin said.

“He gets this family who can take care of him and do everything I couldn’t, but he can also know that I didn’t just give him away. I had a purpose for him, and it was meant to be.”

Take Your Next Steps Today

Are you ready to speak with a specialist about putting an older child up for adoption? Let’s talk.

You can call 1-800-ADOPTION at any time, 24/7, to speak to an adoption specialist. You can also click here to get more free adoption information online.

More Information about Putting an Older Child Up for Adoption

Now that you know how the older child adoption process works and how you can take your next steps today, we want to make sure there aren’t any questions left unanswered.

Let’s look at some of the most important information about putting older children up for adoption, including the challenges that can come with this decision.

How Putting an Older Child Up for Adoption Is the Same as Other Adoptions

Throughout the toddler adoption process, you will still have the same rights and choices as any mother placing a baby for adoption:

You can choose the adoptive parents for your child; American Adoptions works with many families who are willing and excited to adopt an older infant or toddler, and occasionally a child up to 4 years old
You can choose the type of relationship you want to have with your child and the adoptive parents after placement
You will get the unlimited, 24/7 counseling and support you need to make a fully informed adoption decision that you feel confident with
You are entitled to free adoption services; your legal and counseling costs will always be covered for you
You are in control of the adoption process

Whatever circumstances have led you to adoption, placing your toddler with a private agency like American Adoptions allows you to take control of your situation and your child’s future.

Every situation is different, and American Adoptions handles the placement of older children and toddlers on a case-by-case basis. However, if you are considering placing an older child for adoption, and that child is 4 or older, our agency may not be the best resource to help you make an adoption plan for him or her. In those cases, there are many great professionals who would be happy to provide information on how to place an older child up for adoption.

To discuss your individual circumstances and learn how to put a toddler up for adoption, you can reach an adoption professional at any time at 1-800-ADOPTION. We will help you explore all of your options and make the decision that is best for you and your child.

The Challenges of Placing an Older Child for Adoption

If you are considering “giving your older child up” for adoption, you clearly have his or her best interests at heart — and so does American Adoptions. That’s why we think it is important for any parent to have a clear understanding of the potential challenges of placing an older child for adoption.

There are several challenges to consider if you are thinking of putting older children up for adoption:

While we do work with many families who are open to adopting sibling groups and toddlers, most parents who are interested in adopting an older child work with the state foster system rather than a private agency. This route gives them access to more appropriate services and education about parenting children who are adopted at an older age. This means that we have fewer waiting families who are interested in adopting a school-aged or older child.
Placing an older child for adoption is often complicated because there are some additional factors to take into consideration, including the child’s health and behavior, others who have had custody of the child throughout his or her life, the involvement of the child’s father, and more. The more you can share about these factors, the better we will be able to provide the services you need.
"Giving a child up" for adoption is never easy, but it may be an even more challenging adjustment in an older child placement — not only for you as a parent, but also for your child. This process requires specialized counseling, education, and training services. Our agency is prepared to provide these services, such as conducting a safety check, helping you understand your options and providing adoption services, for children up to 4 years old.

Struggling parents should never hesitate to reach out for help.

While American Adoptions may not be able to complete the adoption in every case, we will do whatever we can to refer you to the services and resources you need.

Other Options for Placing an Older Child for Adoption

Unfortunately, many parents in your circumstances find that there is not a lot of readily available information about this type of adoption if their child is more than a few years old. There aren’t many private agencies that specialize in placing older children, and state foster care systems typically do not have the funding to take voluntary relinquishments.

But there are other options if you’re asking, “Where can I put my child up for adoption?”

If you are struggling to parent and thinking about "giving up" a child for adoption and the child is over 4 years old, consider the following suggestions before contacting a private adoption agency:

Reach out to social services. While the state may not be able to take custody of your child, they can provide resources to make parenting easier. For instance, if your child has significant medical needs that you feel you cannot meet, look into your public healthcare options. If you need help finding a job or affordable housing, the state has programs that may help you. Whatever underlying issues have caused you to consider adoption for your child, there are likely free, public resources in your community to help you address them.
Consider a temporary guardianship. You may be struggling now, but if you feel that you would be able to parent your child under different circumstances, you may be able to establish a legal guardianship with a close friend or family member. This option gives someone else temporary custody of your child while you make changes that would improve your situation and allow you to parent.
Complete a kinship adoption. If you are searching for a more permanent solution for your child and have loving family members who are willing to help, you may choose to put your kid up for adoption with a relative. A kinship placement is often beneficial for older children because it allows them to maintain important relationships with loved ones and transition to a familiar home.
Complete an independent adoption. Through your own networking, you may be able to find a friend or other waiting family who is willing to adopt your child. In these circumstances, you may consider working with an attorney to complete an identified or independent adoption. However, you must be very careful when placing your child with a new family; to ensure his or her safety and wellbeing, you need to contact a licensed child-placing agency in your state to complete a home study for the adoptive family. You should also always work with an attorney to ensure every step of the process is completed safely and legally.
Take a break. Every parent gets overwhelmed, and sometimes it just takes a day or two of alone time to reset and re-evaluate your situation. If you think this may be the case for you, ask a friend or family member if they would be willing to babysit for a day or weekend, or contact your state social services department and ask about options for respite care.

Although American Adoptions can handle the placement of toddlers and older children up to age 4 on a case‐by‐case basis, our agency specializes in newborn adoption. When “giving your older child up” for adoption, we recommend contacting your local social services department before making an adoption plan.

Contact American Adoptions Today

Choosing adoption for your child can be complicated, both legally and emotionally, but it can also be one of the best decisions you will ever make. If this is what you decide is best in your circumstances, it is important to find the services you need to ensure your child is placed in a safe, supportive and loving environment.

To learn more about how to place an older child up for adoption, or to discuss your other options and resources, you can reach a licensed adoption professional any time, or you can call 1-800-ADOPTION to get free guidance today.

To learn more about how to put a toddler up for adoption or to discuss your other options and resources, you can reach a licensed adoption specialist any time, or contact your state’s social services department for more information on placing an older child for adoption.

Disclaimer
Information available through these links is the sole property of the companies and organizations listed therein. America Adoptions, Inc. provides this information as a courtesy and is in no way responsible for its content or accuracy.

Request Free Information

View Waiting Families

American Adoptions - Place a Child for Adoption at Any Age [How Adoption Can Help You]

If you're considering placing your child for adoption, the age of your child will influence your adoption process. But, the ability to choose adoption may be an option for you. Call 1-800-ADOPTION now to learn more.

Challenging circumstances in life and the age of your child don’t prohibit you from considering adoption.
Adoption gives you the opportunity to find the perfect home for your child, as well as create a better future for you.
A hopeful adoptive family is given the chance to live out their dream of growing a family.

Choosing adoption is not an exclusive right for certain types of mothers. Every adoption is unique, and all kinds of people choose adoption. If you’re trying to decide whether adoption might be an option for you, you may be wondering, can you put a child up for adoption at any age?

If you are considering adoption for an older child, you may be wondering if there is a maximum age to put a child up for adoption, or if there are age requirements for giving your child up for adoption.

These are common questions to ask, and it’s important to know that it is okay to consider adoption. Your ability to place an older child for adoption will come down to the specific details of your situation. In some situations, you can place older children for adoption. Other times, there may be an age limit to “give up” for adoption.

We’ll work through several scenarios and provide you with information to help you understand your options. Regardless of if you can give a child up for adoption at any age, there are professionals and services to support you. Many mothers have gone through something similar, and, like them, you can turn a difficult situation into one full of love and hope.

Continue reading for information on adoption and the age of your child.

If you’re ready to start the adoption process with our agency or want more information on adoption, call us at 1-800-ADOPTION, or visit our online contact forms for prospective birth mothers and prospective adoptive parents.

Can You “Give Your Child Up” for Adoption at Any Age?

Adoption can be a brave and selfless decision. As a mother, we know you want what is best for your child. Even though it’s common to hear the phrase “give a child up for adoption,” this decision is anything but giving up, no matter how old your child may be. You should always feel supported to make the best decision possible for your life, which is a choice only you are qualified to make.

When you are considering adoption, especially adoption with older children, the choices available to you will differ depending on age.

What Age Can You Put Your Child Up for Adoption?

There are always options for you when parenting seems impossible. To get a clearer picture of those options, we will break them down by your child’s age.

Adoption for Newborns to 6-Month‐Olds

While many women consider adoption early on in their pregnancy, it’s not uncommon for women to consider adoption for their babies right after they’re born or even up to six months later.

Typically, a 6‐month‐old adoption and a newborn adoption are very similar in terms of the steps you’ll need to take. This age group also represents the vast majority of placements we at American Adoptions handle every year, making it even easier to find the right resources and services you need to make an adoption plan.

At this age, there are still plenty of adoptive parents to choose from, and you are still eligible for many of the same services as a woman who chose adoption early on in her pregnancy. Whether your baby is days, weeks or even 6 months old, it’s never too late to place your child for adoption.

Many of our adoption professionals are adoptees, have adopted or have placed a child for adoption, giving us a unique perspective of the adoption process and how it can positively change the lives of everyone involved. It’s important that you have the same happy and hopeful adoption experience.

For more information on placing your newborn or younger child up for adoption or to start your adoption journey with American Adoptions, call us at 1-800-ADOPTION, or visit us online.

Adoption at Ages 6 Months to 4 Years

Placing older infants and toddlers for adoption, even after they have been home from the hospital for several months, or even a few years, is still an option. In these situations, there are many adoption professionals and hopeful adoptive parents who would be happy to help, including those at American Adoptions.

Our agency specializes in placing newborns and infants for adoption, but we have also assisted mothers placing toddlers and young children, up to preschool-age, on a case-by-case basis. However, even within this age range, there are differences that come with age.

One of the most notable differences between placing a newborn for adoption versus a toddler is the type of information your adoption specialist will need before you can proceed. If your child is 6 months old or older, this information will include:

Your child’s birth certificate.
The father listed on the birth certificate.
Medical records for your child.
Documentation of where the child has lived from birth to present.
Who has had custody or care of the child from birth to present.
Who has provided financial and emotional support for the child.
Proof of child support from any father.

Along with these added pieces of information, there may be additional emotional considerations — both for you and your child — to take into account in this age range. A child develops more by age 4 than you may imagine. As a child reaches 2, 3 and 4 years old, they are forming attachments and patterns that can make adoption a more difficult transition.

Once your child approaches age 4, it may be harder to find an adoption agency equipped with the resources and services to complete a safe, reliable adoption for an older child. While there are adoption agencies, like American Adoptions, who may be able to assist with adoptions in this age range on a case‐by‐case basis, there are also resources that can help make parenting easier. It could be the case that, even though children meet the age requirements for giving your child up for adoption, parenting may still be the best option available.

Adoption at Ages 5 to 12 Years

At many adoption agencies, including American Adoptions, 4 years old is generally considered the maximum age to put a child up for adoption.

Instead, seeking out local resources that can ease the burden of parenting is usually the best option for children in this age range. Some resources to consider are:

Special Needs Assistance
Head Start
Social Services

Hopefully, these services can make your situation better, especially if your child has passed the oldest age to “give a child up” for adoption with most adoption agencies.

Siblings Sets

A caveat to that maximum age to “give a child up” for adoption is the importance of maintaining sibling sets.

If you are wondering about the age limit to put a child up for adoption, but you plan on placing siblings for adoption, this can sometimes change the situation. Research has shown that it is good for siblings to stay together in adoption if at all possible.

When you contact an adoption professional about placing more than one child for adoption, you can stress how much it matters to you that the siblings stay together. American Adoptions will never split up siblings into different adoptive families when they are being placed together. Even in cases where the oldest child is slightly above our agency’s typical age limit to put a child up for adoption, we will do what we can to work with you in this situation if you are also placing a newborn or infant for adoption. There are many amazing, loving adoptive parents who would be willing to change their plans in order to keep siblings together.

On the other hand, if your child is much older than our agency’s typical adoption age limit, you may need to consider parenting both children or parenting your older child and placing your infant for adoption. In this case, your adoption specialist can provide the support you need to explain adoption to your older child, and you can ensure your children still maintain a strong relationship through open adoption.

Putting a Child Up for Adoption Age Limit

As you can see, there is no exact age limit to “give up” for adoption. However, as a child gets older, the options can become more limited.

Most private adoption agencies, including American Adoptions, simply don’t have the structure or resources to responsibly conduct an adoption process for older children. Since everyone involved wants what is best for you and for the child, sometimes it can be better to find parenting resources when wondering if you can “give a child up” for adoption at any age.

However, if you truly feel that placing your child for adoption is the best option in your situation, there are professionals that may be able to assist. This could be your state’s local social services, an adoption attorney, or even an organization that specializes in temporary guardianships. You should explore all of your options before going through with this life‐changing decision.

Resources When You Are Considering Adoption

SNAP
Medicaid
WIC
Mentorships
Adolescent Health

These resources may not be able to remedy all of the difficulties in life, but they are a good place to start. Adoption could be the best option for you, or it could be the case that your children are past the oldest age to “give a child up” for adoption with most agencies.

No matter the circumstances, a compassionate adoption professional is always ready to listen. If you are considering adoption for an infant or toddler, you can talk to Michelle, a birth parent specialist and a birth parent herself, who is ready to answer any questions you have about adoption and age requirements.

“I am available to answer any questions that arise, particularly from birth moms, as I have been in your shoes and know how you are feeling,” Michelle said. “It was most helpful to me when I had someone to talk to who would just listen to me without making any judgments or conclusions about who I was as a person.”

You can ask Michelle questions about the adoption process online. You can also call us toll-free at 1-800-ADOPTION, or get free information with our online contact form for prospective birth mothers considering adoption here. Adoptive families wanting more information on adopting a child can click here to get more information.

Request Free Information

View Waiting Families

Should brothers and sisters be placed separately in foster families? - Interdistrict Department of the Ministry of Social Development, Guardianship and Guardianship of the Irkutsk Region No.

Difficult question: should brothers and sisters be allowed to be placed separately in foster families?

Currently, 418 children live in Irkutsk who need to be placed in a family, 418 children who are deprived of parental warmth. Of these, 263 children have siblings.
The process of selecting foster parents for our children is quite complicated. Of the total number of candidates for foster parents, 50% wish to adopt a child under the age of three into their family. And the vast majority of candidates for foster parents (guardians / adoptive parents) want to accept only one child into their family. Few consider adopting a child with a sibling. Currently, there are 107 citizens registered with Interdistrict Department No. 1 for the city of Irkutsk who wish to adopt a child into their family, and only 16 of them are considering the possibility of accepting two or more children.
According to the Family Code of the Russian Federation, the adoption of brothers and sisters by different persons, as well as the transfer of brothers and sisters under guardianship or guardianship to different persons, is not allowed.

- Adoption of brothers and sisters by different persons is not allowed, except in cases where adoption is in the interests of children (clause 3 of article 124 of the Family Code of the Russian Federation).
- According to paragraph 5 of Art. 145 of the Family Code of the Russian Federation, the transfer of brothers and sisters under guardianship or guardianship to different persons is not allowed, unless such transfer is in the interests of children.
- According to clause 9 of the Rules for creating a foster family, approved by Decree of the Government of the Russian Federation of May 18, 2009 No. 423, children who are relatives are transferred to one foster family, except when they cannot be brought up together.
According to the law, exceptions are, of course, possible and relate to:
- the state of health of children;
- children are not aware of their relationship;
- children are brought up in different organizations.
Placement of 3-5 children in a foster family is much more difficult than 1-2 children. Therefore, children from large families who ended up in orphanages turn out to be “hostages” of this situation: not everyone is ready to take on several children at the same time. For children, their brothers and sisters are one family of their own. Separating people close to each other is a difficult issue.
Inter-district department No. 1, together with organizations for orphans and children left without parental care, launches a media project # my big friendly family. We will tell and show what wonderful children - brothers and sisters - need families. But while they are waiting for their most responsible, caring, loving parents with a huge heart and parental patience, they are experiencing their little childhood difficulties with their brothers and sisters. We believe that brothers and sisters should, if possible, live in the same family.

trustees http://irkopeka. ru/shkoly-priemnyx-roditelej/, with addresses of foster parents' schools.

If you have any questions, you can get advice in a form convenient for you:
- on our website http://irkopeka.ru/home-2/obrashhenie-grazhdan/vopros-answer/
- by phone 83952703450, 83952703411.

Anastasia and Irina

The sisters lived together in the same family. In the institution, the girls live in the same group and room. A stable relationship has developed between Nastya and Ira for several years. Throughout their lives, they support each other, understand and accept.

Possible forms of placement: adoption, guardianship, guardianship

Anastasia B., born August 2008 — http://www.usynovite.ru/child/?id=a2el7-p4na

Irina B., May 2004 — http://www.usynovite.ru/child/?id=a2el7-oybq

Ekaterina and Denis

Katya loves her brother very much, monitors Denis' appearance and behavior. Sometimes, if he considers it necessary, he makes a remark to him. Denis is very attached to his sister, and Ekaterina, in turn, takes care of him.

Possible forms of placement: adoption, guardianship

Ekaterina G., born in March 2009 — http://www.usynovite.ru/child/?id=a2el7-os07

Denis G., born September 2013 — http://www.usynovite.ru/child/sibling/?id=a2el7-os07

Daria, Oksana, Andrey, Alexey, Sergey, Mikhail

This wonderful family consists of four brothers: Andrey 12 years old, Alexey 7 years old, Sergey 5 years old, Misha 4 years old, and two sisters: Daria 13 years old, Oksana 7 years old. Relations between children are warm, older ones take care of their younger brothers and sister, monitor their appearance, read books to each other, organize joint games. Children cannot live long without each other. Artistic abilities are well developed: they perform on stage, sing, play in performances, dance. Dasha, as the eldest, supports her brothers and sister, tries to resolve emerging conflict situations between children. Our main task is to make brothers and sisters happy, because a real family begins with children.
Possible forms of placement: adoption, guardianship
Daria E., born in November 2006 — http://www.usynovite.ru/child/?id=a2el7-err4
Andrey E., born in March 2008 — http://www.usynovite.ru/child/?id=a2el7-ey2o
Oksana E., born December 2012 — http://www.usynovite.ru/child/?id=a2el7-fncw
Alexey E., born December 2012 — http://www.usynovite.ru/child/?id=a2el7-fh2c
Sergey E., born in February 2015 — http://www.usynovite.ru/child/?id=a2el7-ftog
Misha E., born March 2016 — http://www.usynovite.ru/child/?id=a2el7-g000

Danil and Yaroslav

Children from birth lived together in the same family, the brothers are on friendly terms with each other. Despite the difference in age, they understand each other well and can successfully cooperate. Danil, as an older brother, feels sorry for Yaroslav, because he is still small and he had to face difficulties in the family. Ineptly, due to his life experience and age, he tries to support his younger brother. Strong bonds are formed between children.
Possible forms of arrangement: guardianship
Danil Z., born in November 2006 — http://www.usynovite.ru/child/?id=a2el7-uklj
Yaroslav Z., born April 2013 — http://www.usynovite.ru/child/?id=a2el7-uqx3

Yaroslav, Anastasia, Maria, Alexey

Yaroslav, Anastasia, Maria and Aleksey help each other, play together. They often participate in the activities of the institution, like to play educational games and never refuse to help adults. Responsible and united.
Possible forms of placement: adoption, guardianship
Yaroslav I., born in January 2009 — http://www.usynovite.ru/child/?id=a2el7-f4cn
Anastasia I., born December 2010 — http://www.usynovite.ru/child/?id=a2el7-fao7
Maria I. , born in April 2012 — http://www.usynovite.ru/child/?id=a2el7-fgzr
Alexey I., born June 2016 — http://www.usynovite.ru/child/?id=a2el7-fnbb

Diana and Zarina

Diana, as an older sister, always takes all the initiative into her own hands and under her control. In conversations among themselves, they always consult what is better to wear, what hairstyle to do, how best to make up. Zarina listens to her older sister's advice and helps her with household chores. The girls are very creative, love to sing and dance together.
Possible forms of arrangement: guardianship, guardianship
Zarina K., born in March 2007 — http://www.usynovite.ru/child/?id=a2el7-15a6e
Diana K., born June 2005 — http://www.usynovite.ru/child/?id=a2el7-15ghy

Xenia and Svetlana

Sister knows you better than anyone else. She saw what happened behind closed doors, she is aware of all your childhood secrets, she shared grief and holidays, fun and tears with you. Ksyusha, as the eldest, understands that she is one of those who were lucky enough to have a sister, she understands very well that she is the youngest. Sveta is a real treasure that must be valued and protected. A sister is much more than a friend. The girls are very friendly and talented. Ksyusha and Sveta have musical talent, they listen and hear not only each other, but also music. The singing of famous musical works performed by Ksyusha and Sveta is mesmerizing. Music can do wonders. When a child is carried away by an activity, he does not think about anything bad, does not remember what happened before. He goes into his own world and creates there. This cannot be underestimated when it comes to a child from an orphanage. At these moments, he is his own psychologist, and we really want to encourage such activities in the future. So let a real miracle happen and the sisters find their family, strong and reliable, in which peace and harmony will reign.
Possible forms of arrangement: adoption, guardianship, guardianship
Ksenia K. , born in April 2004 — http://www.usynovite.ru/child/?id=a2el7-1aw7s
Svetlana K., born November 2005 — http://www.usynovite.ru/child/?id=a2el7-1apw8

Alena and Gleb

Alena takes care of her brother Gleb, as an older sister she always provides support, helps with deed and advice. Gleb often listens to the opinion of his sister, helps Alena with household chores. They also like to participate together in various activities of the institution.
Possible forms of arrangement: guardianship, guardianship
Alyona K., born in January 2005 — http://www.usynovite.ru/child/?id=a2el7-541z
Gleb K., born August 2007 — http://www.usynovite.ru/child/?id=a2el7-5adj

Alexey, Marina and Olga

Lesha grows up in a family with two sisters Marina and Olya, knowing that it's more fun with sisters. World studies show that when several children grow up in a family, this has a positive effect on their social adaptation at an older age. What sisters and a brother in this family teach each other: to play in such a way that all three like it, fantasize and cunning, love and care, argue and hate, share, select, give, talk and negotiate, be greedy and hide, help, help out and support, be jealous, compete and share attention, and most importantly, love sincerely. As you can see, there are many positives and negatives. At first, there are quarrels and disagreements between them, but after a few minutes they are ready to stand up for each other like a mountain. When children play outside, the younger brother often stands up for the sisters, and when the brother plays for the school football team, the sisters become the main cheerleaders and do not miss a single game. As the eldest, Marina teaches Olya and Lesha to distinguish between right behavior and wrong. Such relationships between brother and sisters began in childhood and continue for many years. They like to be in each other's company. They have fun, watch movies and play computer games together. When one of them has an achievement, usually the brother or sister is the first to know about it.
Possible forms of placement: adoption, guardianship
Olga M., born January 2012 — http://www.usynovite.ru/child/?id=a2el7-8g5i
Marina K., born June 2010 — http://www.usynovite.ru/child/?id=a2el7-83ie
Alexey K., born October 2013 — http://www.usynovite.ru/child/?id=a2el7-8mh3

Zhanna, Snezhanna and Oksana

Zhanna, Snezhanna and Oksana are three sisters. And there are no people in the world with whom it would be easier than girls with each other. The relationship between sisters is a special world where they see through each other, where you don't have to finish a sentence to be understood. Disagreements may arise in the relationship of sisters, but they will never let each other offend. Much, of course, depends on the difference in age, but the sisters are very friendly with each other, their love and care is passed on to each other by seniority. Girls value their sisterly relationships very much and do their best to keep them, to make family ties stronger and more reliable.
Possible forms of arrangement: adoption, guardianship, guardianship
Zhanna L., born in July 2006 — http://www.usynovite.ru/child/?id=a2el7-65zb
Oksana L., born July 2010 — http://www.usynovite.ru/child/?id=a2el7-6imf
Snezhanna L., born May 2012 — http://www.usynovite.ru/child/?id=a2el7-6cav

Valentina and Karina

Sisters Valya and Karina, like many others, live and are brought up in a friendly family group. Watching the relationship of the sisters, you always notice how reverently, really in a kindred way, with love they treat each other. The elder sister, Valya, takes care of the younger one, looks after her appearance, helps with homework, and teaches her to self-service. The younger Karina, in turn, always feels the reliable shoulder of her older sister. Of course, as in any family, it is not without quarrels and conflicts, but all this ends quickly. And each of them is truly proud and happy that there is a dear person nearby who will always share all joys and sorrows with him. The feeling that they need each other instills confidence and optimism in girls.
Possible forms of arrangement: adoption, guardianship
Karina M., born in August 2011 — http://www.usynovite.ru/child/?id=a2el7-12h2i
Valentina M., born January 2009 — http://www.usynovite.ru/child/?id=a2el7-12apy

Dinora, Alexandra and Jasmina

Girls Dinora, Alexandra and Jasmina are very friendly, creative and cheerful. They play sports and are hardworking. Always participate in the activities of the institution.
Possible forms of arrangement: adoption, guardianship
Dinora N., June 2009 — http://www.usynovite.ru/child/?id=a2el7-tccm
Alexandra N., born January 2011 — http://www.usynovite.ru/child/?id=a2el7-tio6
Jasmina N. , born September 2012 — http://www.usynovite.ru/child/?id=a2el7-tozq

Olga and Yana

Olga and Yana have been living together since birth, they live in the institution in the same group. They are friends with each other, mutual understanding and mutual assistance can be traced in the relationship. The girls are attached to each other. A strong bond has been formed between them. Relationships are based on trust and mutual understanding.
Possible forms of arrangement: adoption, guardianship, guardianship
Olga R., born December 2002 — http://www.usynovite.ru/child/?id=a2el7-2exdy
Yana R., born April 2004 — http://www.usynovite.ru/child/?id=a2el7-2f3pi

Dmitry, Alexey, Maxim, Roman

The relationship of the brothers is close-knit. Due to age, hobbies, preferences, common interests, the brothers were divided into older ones who lead a more passive lifestyle, listen to music, watch films together. Maxim and Roman are united by a common love for sports: football, volleyball, chess, tennis, watching scientific videos. The brothers always share their victories and problems among themselves, jointly participate in the life of the institution.
Possible forms of placement: adoption, guardianship, guardianship
Aleksey Ch., born March 2004 — http://www.usynovite.ru/child/?id=a2el7-lm82
Roman Ch., born in February 2007 — http://www.usynovite.ru/child/?id=a2el7-l39e
Dmitry Ch., born January 2003 — http://www.usynovite.ru/child/?id=a2el7-l9ky
Maxim Ch., born May 2005 — http://www.usynovite.ru/child/?id=a2el7-lsjm

Valeria, Alexander, Timur and Angelina

Lera, Sasha, Timur and Angelina - a large family - this is an amazing community in which children compete for the resources of older brothers and sisters. Lera, as the eldest, brings up her younger brothers and sister, Sasha helps in preparing for school, doing homework, and involving in sports events. Lera herself, in turn, dances and reads poetry, to which she tries to attract the youngest Timur and Angelina. The younger children in this sibling family are very calm, but at the same time they do not lag behind the team, they love to play and draw, do crafts, participate in master classes, Timur is slowly starting to prepare for school, because he is already five years old, and Angelina, as the youngest is content with the love of her older brothers and sisters and adopts from them the best skills that will later help her navigate adult life. Children in this family are stubborn and purposeful. After all, stubbornness becomes a desire to achieve the goal. Playfulness is a creative activity. Boldness is courage. Timidity - a thoughtful attitude to people, events. Dreaminess is an artistic gift. The world of children should be reliable and stable - this is necessary for every child.
Possible forms of placement: adoption, guardianship
Valeria Ya., born June 2007 —http://www. usynovite.ru/child/?id=a2el7-rxs6
Alexander Ya., July 2011 http://www.usynovite.ru/child/?id=a2el7-reti
Timur Ya. , November 2014 — http://www.usynovite.ru/child/?id=a2el7-rl52
Angelina Ya., June 2016

Legal norms: what to do if children are left without parents or guardianship

Relatives of the murdered Muscovite Irina Kabanova are ready to take custody of her three children, said Elena Alshanskaya, President of the Volunteers to Help Orphans charity foundation. According to Alshanskaya, Kabanova's first husband intends to take the eldest child, and relatives from Ukraine intend to take the two younger ones.

Below is background information on the main forms of placement for children whose parents have died or lost parental rights. The main such forms are adoption and guardianship.

Adoption (adoption)

Adoption (adoption) is a legal institution designed to create relations between the adopter and the adopted child that are closest to those that arise between parents and natural children. The law equates an adopted child to the natural children of the adoptive parents, therefore adoption is a priority form of child placement - he receives the same rights and obligations as the natural one, and the adoptive parents assume all parental rights and obligations.

Adoption is carried out by the court at the request of persons wishing to adopt a child, in the order of special proceedings according to the rules of civil procedural legislation. In this, adoption differs from the establishment of custody of a child, the decision on which is made by the guardianship and guardianship authorities.

Orphans and children whose both parents have already been deprived of parental rights may be adopted.

Custody (guardianship)

Free guardianship (guardianship) is often established by close relatives over a child whose parents were deprived of parental rights, ended up in places of detention or died. Guardianship can be established over a child under the age of 14, and guardianship is established over adolescents between the ages of 14 and 18.

The guardian exercises control over the preservation and use of the movable and immovable property of the minor child, but does not have the right to dispose of this property. In cases where parents have died, or are in places of deprivation of liberty, or are deprived of their rights, the guardians are paid a child support allowance.

According to the results of a study by the laboratory of social orphanhood of the Research Institute of Childhood of the RDF, which was conducted for a number of years in different regions of Russia, grandmothers most often became guardians - in 88% of cases. In 12% of cases, grandfathers became them, and there were no more than 2% of strangers among guardians.

The guardian is appointed by the guardianship and guardianship authorities, which, in combination, are local governments. Their powers are determined by their statutes. The decision is made by the head of the city or district, including city districts, administration at the place of residence of the guardian. The same procedure applies to trustees. Usually, relatives of the future ward are appointed guardians and trustees, and if they are absent, then persons are appointed at the choice of the relevant authorities.

Guardianship and guardianship authorities identify children left without parental care, keep records of such children and, based on the specific circumstances of the loss of parental care, select forms of placement for children left without parental care, and also exercise subsequent control over the conditions of their maintenance, upbringing and education .

Preliminary guardianship (guardianship)

In order to establish preliminary guardianship or guardianship in a timely manner, the relevant authority makes proposals to establish them to citizens who have expressed a desire to be guardians or trustees and are registered.

A temporarily appointed guardian or custodian has all the rights and obligations of a guardian or custodian, with the exception of the right to dispose of the property of the ward on his behalf (give consent for the ward to make transactions to dispose of his property).