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How to Discipline a Child on the Autism Spectrum

The purpose of discipline is to set healthy boundaries and clear expectations of appropriate behavior, not to punish or embarrass your child.

While there are certainly challenges to disciplining a child on the autism spectrum, discipline instills valuable lessons that the child will take with them their whole lives. Keep reading to learn safe, effective, and compassionate strategies for how to discipline a child on the autism spectrum.

Two Words: Gentle Consistency

Children with autism pick up on things differently than other children. For example, your child may not pick up on the irritation in your voice when you ask them not to do something.

These misunderstandings can make traditional discipline techniques less effective. Your child might not understand the consequences of their actions, which can be frustrating. However, you should refrain from any kind of physical or verbal punishment that could have a negative effect on your child.

Instead, be gentle with your words and actions. If your child is screaming and having a tantrum, keep calm and don’t raise your voice. All children learn through imitation, so try and respond to your child’s behavior clearly and gently.

And now for consistency. Consistency is the key to safe, effective discipline. Most children with autism respond well to structured discipline, perhaps due to their desire for sameness and routine.

Consistent discipline can also alleviate some of your child’s anxiety, a common characteristic of autism. Consistent outcomes help children feel secure and confident in their choices.

If your child knows what to expect from a certain behavior (Mom won’t like that I ate cookies before dinner), they may not feel as overwhelmed when you discipline them.

In other words, consistency gives your child the ability to predict the outcome of a situation, which is a powerful and necessary step toward independence.

Educate Yourself About Your Child’s Condition

You’ll need to do some research before fully understanding how to discipline a child on the autism spectrum.

Read up on the condition to make sure you’re setting realistic expectations for your child. Some behaviors cannot be “disciplined away” by a parent, and should instead be evaluated by a professional.

For example, self-stimulation (spinning, hand flapping, etc.) is very common in children with autism. These behaviors help them regulate their emotions, and you could do more harm than good by punishing them for doing it.

Remember that autism exists on a spectrum, meaning every child will experience different symptoms in different ways. It’s a good idea to speak with other parents whose children have autism. You’ll get a better idea of how to set expectations, especially if you speak with a parent whose child has symptoms similar to yours.

Discipline Strategies for Children with Autism

Rewards and Consequences

Commonly used in Applied Behavior Analysis (ABA) therapy, rewards and consequences are one of the most effective techniques for discipline.

The goal of rewards and consequences is to increase or decrease the likelihood of your child performing a certain behavior. When your child performs the desired behavior or task, you offer them a “reward” – a positive reinforcer.

When they do not perform the desired behavior or task, you point them in the right direction with a consequence.

For example, you can offer your child candy or extra TV time for cleaning their room after being asked. That is an example of a positive reinforcer. If they don’t clean their room after being asked, you can take away some of their TV time or send them to time-out. That is the consequence.

Of course, you’ll have to evaluate which consequences are appropriate for your child. For instance, some children with autism prefer being alone, so sending them to time-out could actually be a reward for them.

Set Clear Expectations

Children with autism often have trouble understanding which behaviors are expected of them. For example, a child may not understand that they should say “hello” back to someone who greets them.

You can help your child learn these behaviors by clearly communicating your expectations. You may need to create visual cues or do role-playing until your child is comfortable.

For example, if your child is late getting ready every morning because they’re playing with their toys, you can explain that they can play only after they are ready for school. You can set a timer showing your child how much time is left before they need to leave for school, and after they finish getting ready, they can play until the timer runs out.

Be Positive

Positivity inspires positive actions. If you offer praise and encouragement when your child behaves well, they’ll want to keep behaving well.

Encourage your child by reminding them what they can earn or receive for meeting their goals. Praise your child when they perform good behavior, and describe exactly what it is you’re praising. This is called “descriptive praise,” and it helps children understand appropriate and inappropriate behavior. For example, “Great job asking Dylan nicely for your toy when he took it from you.”

You can also praise children for their efforts, not just the final result.

Most children with autism enjoy praise, but some may not respond, especially if they tend to withdraw from others. They probably aren’t motivated or interested in doing things to please other people, so you can help your child learn how to respond to praise. You can tell them what they did well and then give them their favorite toy. This way, they’ll come to regard praise as something good.

Seek Professional Help

Whenever possible, you should seek professional help from an autism center or therapy provider. The above ways to discipline a child on the autism spectrum can be extremely helpful at home, but children with autism benefit the most from intensive therapy.

Therapy solidifies the foundation you build at home, and it is hugely beneficial for development and independence in children with autism. For more information about the intensive, compassionate care we provide at Therapeutic Pathways, contact (209) 422-3280.

Discipling a Child on the Autism Spectrum

Discipline teaches children to do the right thing and think and act for themselves. It can be difficult to discipline a child who has autism, but doing so will help teach them the skills they need to live an independent life.

How to Discipline an Autistic Child: 13 Tips for Parents

You’ve probably heard that no two individuals with autism are the same, and while this certainly contributes to the uniqueness of autism spectrum disorder, it can make things extremely tricky. The internet is filled with all kinds of tips and strategies for improving speech, encouraging age-appropriate socialization, teaching proper self-regulation, managing aggressive behaviors, and coping with anxiety, but the things that work for one child may not work for another, leaving parents and caregivers stuck in a never-ending cycle of trial and error. And since behavioral issues with autism can be pretty extreme at times, figuring out how to discipline an autistic child appropriately is a challenge that leaves many parents feeling overwhelmed and desperate.

Of course, there is never a shortage in opinions on how to parent an autistic child, but unless you live in the trenches of your specific situation each and every day, it’s difficult to understand that traditional forms of discipline and punishment may not be effective. Your child may not be able to make a connection between her behavior and the consequences you are trying to enforce, making any and all forms of punishment frustrating and, quite frankly, useless!

The good news is that disciplining an autistic child is possible, and we’re sharing our best ideas to help you figure out the best strategies for you and your family.

Is it autism or just bad behavior?

When it comes to figuring out how to discipline an autistic child, it’s important to determine if the behavior you are witnessing is a result of the autism, or if your child is in fact misbehaving. As you can imagine, this isn’t always an easy thing to do, but there are 2 tools you can use to make an accurate assessment.

ABC Behavior Chart

Also know as the ‘Antecedent-Behavior-Consequence’ chart, this tool can provide a better understanding about the events surrounding a child’s behavior. Each time an undesired behavior occurs, you must write down the ABCs of that specific behavior:

Antecedent: The events that occurred before the behavior happened.
Behavior: Your child’s response to the antecedent.
Consequence: What happened after the behavior to either encourage/hinder a repeat of the situation.

The idea is to track the same behavior multiple times to determine if there are any consistencies, and then formulate a plan to change the antecedent and/or consequence to ensure the poor behavior is extinguished. You can also use this tool to determine if the antecedent and/or consequence is out of your child’s control (i. e. sensory sensitivities) or if your child is just being a kid and acting out.

The Iceberg Model

If you’ve never heard of this approach to behavior, it’s quite fascinating. According to this theory, the poor behaviors we see in our children are only the ‘tip’ of a much bigger iceberg. And since only about 10% of an iceberg is visible to the naked eye, it is theorized that the drivers of our child’s behaviors live beneath the surface, and that we must find a way to see and understand these drivers before change can occur.

Using an ABC chart to track the things that occur before and after your child’s behaviors, and making a conscious effort to dig deeper into the ‘iceberg’ of her behaviors can be life-changing when it comes to parenting a child with autism.

Of course, tracking behaviors once will not be enough. You must observe and record a single behavior multiple times before you can determine if it’s autism or just bad behavior, and while this can be time-consuming and frustrating, you will be amazed at all of the things you will learn about your child along the way. You might find yourself making connections with and understanding other behaviors, and figuring out ways to avoid tantrums and meltdowns before they even occur.

How to discipline a child with autism: 5 things to consider

1. Choose one behavior to work on. When we reach our breaking point with our child’s behavior, we tend to go to the extreme. We want to fix every single behavioral issue RIGHT NOW, and fail to remember that change takes time. If you want to know how to discipline a child with autism effectively, you need to pick one behavior to work on at a time. Take 5-10 minutes to write out all of the things you and your child are struggling with and circle the ones that disrupt your child’s day the most. From that list, choose the behavior that puts your child (or others) at the most risk, or the one that causes the most challenges and disruptions in your daily routine.

2. Identify the WHY behind the behavior. As discussed above, using a combination of an ABC Behavior Chart and the Iceberg Model can help you dig deep and get a better understanding of why your child is behaving a certain way. While time-consuming, knowing the WHY behind your child’s behavior is extremely important for effectively rectifying behavioral issues with autism, especially in cases where the child in question struggles with verbal communication.

3. Always have a plan. Taking the time to evaluate and understand behavioral issues with autism is one thing, but coming up with a plan of action is something entirely different. Once you know what triggers certain behaviors in your child, put a plan in place and stick to it. For some, this may be as simple as keeping snacks in your purse to ensure your child never gets over-hungry when you’re on the go, equipping your child with noise-cancelling headphones in areas where she may experience sensory overload, or adjusting her IEP to include periodic sensory breaks at school. For others, it may be more extreme and require you to create a safe place for your child to retreat to when the world becomes too overwhelming and aggression takes hold. You also may want to have a plan for your other children to keep them safe, and keep a calm down kit in your purse or car so you are prepared when you’re away from home. The idea is to plan ahead so you are prepared and feel more in control when disaster strikes.

4. Opt for positive versus negative reinforcement. Reinforcement is a fabulous technique parents and caregivers can use to improve behavioral issues with autism, and while both positive and negative forms of reinforcement can be effective, research tends to suggest that positive reinforcement – the act of rewarding a child when he completes a desired behavior as a means of increasing the likelihood he’ll repeat the behavior again – is the most effective when it comes to disciplining an autistic child.

5. Be consistent. As parents, we often hear about the importance of being consistent and following through with the consequences we enforce, and as frustrating as it may be when you’re in the heat of the moment and worry you’re doing the wrong thing, remember to trust your judgment. If you falter and fail to follow through, you will confuse your child further, making your efforts to rectify her poor behaviors that much more challenging.

8 tips for disciplining an autistic child

1. Remain neutral. It is especially important to remain calm and neutral when disciplining an autistic child who struggles with verbal communication and/or cannot read nonverbal cues. For example, a child who doesn’t recognize an angry voice from a happy one may take great delight in the change in your tone and repeat the behavior over and over simply to witness this new reaction from you. It’s also important to keep in mind that loud noises can be extremely painful to a child with autism, and while it may seem like raising your voice in anger or frustration drives the point home, your child may be so caught up in trying to cope with the sound of your voice that she’s unable to properly connect it with the behavior she was engaging in before it occurred.

2. Redirect and ignore. Once you know WHY your child is behaving in a certain way, find ways to redirect her to something more positive. For example, if she is pulling your hair to get your attention, teach her to tap you gently on the leg instead. This will take time and patience, but once she understands the concept, ignore the negative behavior (hair pulling) and reward the positive behavior (tapping on the leg).

3. Prepare your child with visual schedules. Visual schedules are great for children who thrive on routine and predictability as it helps set expectations at the beginning of the day, and for children who get ‘stuck’ on and act out in response to schedule changes, it can help prepare them ahead of time. By giving children a visual representation of what their day will look like, you are empowering them by allowing them to look to the visual schedule and move from one activity to the next without prompting, which lessens the chance they will be caught off guard and react poorly. The Easy Daisies Grade 1-7 Classroom Schedule is one of my favorite classroom tools, which can be adapted for use in the home!

4. Use a FIRST/THEN approach. A first/then chart is a visual representation of what you want your child to do now (FIRST) and what will come after (THEN). The idea is to make the first task less desirable and to follow it up with some sort of reward, and this is an excellent tool to help correct behavioral issues with autism. For example, if your child consistently gets angry when you ask her to do her homework, your first/then chart might look like this:

FIRST: homework for 30 minutes
THEN: play video games for 10 minutes

You can play around with this approach for your individual child, and make it more motivating by awarding stickers each time your child works on an activity or chore he doesn’t like for a certain increment of time, which he can then use to ‘buy’ additional time doing an activity she loves.

CLICK HERE for an alternative good behavior chart I created that has proven to be a great parenting tool in our house!

5. Use sticker charts. Sticker charts are a simple, yet effective, form of positive reinforcement that can be extremely helpful in curbing behavioral issues with autism, and I love this Magnetic Reward and Responsibility Chart as you can easily customize it for your individual child and make it as simple or complicated as you want. To maximize the effectiveness of this tool when disciplining an autistic child, make sure you:

…reward your child soon after the desired behavior is completed to establish a connection between the 2 and keep her motivated.

…choose a reward that will motivate your child but that you can sustain over time. Additional time watching TV or playing on the iPad, an extra book at bedtime, a trip to the park after school, etc. all work well, but I encourage you against using sweets and monetary rewards as you probably won’t be able to keep those up long-term.

…never take stickers away! If a sticker was earned, it is something to be proud of. Do not punish a child by discounting something he or she worked hard to achieve.

…never reprimand if a sticker isn’t earned. Instead, spend some time reviewing the goal of the good behavior chart again and be sure to give reminders throughout the day to encourage success.

6. Use ‘obsessions’ to your advantage. Many children with autism have specific interests, and while this can be extremely limiting at times, parents and caregivers can use it to their advantage when trying to figure out how to discipline an autistic child. For example, if your child is extremely interested in trains, create a sticker chart whereby your child earns a train sticker each time a desirable behavior is performed, and once a certain number of stickers are earned, you can take things a step farther by rewarding her with a train toy or an actual trip on a train! Or, if your child is ‘obsessed’ with a certain YouTube channel, allow her to earn additional iPad time (i. e. 10 minutes) for each good behavior she exhibits throughout the day.

7. Learn how to use consequences properly. Unlike punishment, which is aimed at making a child suffer in retaliation for inappropriate behavior, consequences offer an opportunity for children to learn from their mistakes. When used properly, consequences can teach children responsibility, accountability, and problem-solving, but not all parents and caregivers use this approach effectively. Here are a few Dos and Don’ts about implementing consequences to correct behavioral issues with autism:

Don’t…

Criticize. Remember that the goal behind using consequences is to provide an opportunity for your child to learn from their mistakes, not lower their self-esteem.
Blow things out of proportion. Consequences should be natural and logical. For example, implementing additional study time after school is a natural consequence when a child receives a bad grade on a test. Taking away his TV privileges for a month is not.
Delay consequences. In order for consequences to be effective, they need to be implemented immediately after the undesirable behavior occurred.

Do…

Ignore bad behavior. If your child is engaging in undesirable behavior that isn’t dangerous or harmful to himself or others, ignore it. Do not engage him and avoid eye contact until he stops the behavior in favor of something more acceptable, at which time you should offer praise and positive interaction.
Use praise and rewards. Taking the time to point out and praise or reward your child when he behaves appropriately not only boosts his self-esteem, but it also teaches him what your expectations are and makes him more motivated to seek our desirable instead of undesirable behaviors.
Be consistent and follow through. In order for consequences to work, you must resist the urge to intervene and always follow through!

8. Opt for natural and logical consequences wherever possible. Natural consequences occur inevitably as a result of a child’s behaviors or actions (if your child refuses to eat, she’ll feel hungry) whereas logical consequences require thought and involvement from someone else, such as a parent, teacher, or caregiver, and are designed to help children replace poor behaviors with more appropriate choices (if your child refuses to pick up her toys after being asked, the toys are taken away for a certain period of time). While both kinds of consequences are effective, natural consequences don’t always occur as a result of poor behaviors, making logical consequences an effective strategy to understand and implement when it comes to autism and discipline. Of course, coming up with consequences in the heat of the moment can be challenging, but if you take the time now to anticipate your child’s behaviors and brainstorm natural and logical consequences, you will be much better equipped when disaster strikes!

Figuring out how to discipline an autistic child isn’t easy. It takes time, patience, creativity, and a lot of trial and error on the part of parents, caregivers, therapists, and teachers, but once you’re able to determine if the things you are seeing are a result of the autism or just bad behavior, you can figure out ways to anticipate, plan ahead, and correct poor behaviors when they occur.

A wise person once said:

‘My child isn’t GIVING me a hard time.
My child is HAVING a hard time.’

I hope you’ll keep those words close to your heart the next time your child is acting out, and that you take the time to dive deeper and figure out of it’s the autism or just bad behavior.

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How do you raise a teenager? He is not a small child, but not yet an adult. Still needs loving care and guidance, but doesn't want to be looked at like a baby. How can you discipline him then? All children grow up and you may need to adjust your methods. What works for an 8 year old won't work for a 16 year old. nine0003

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Talk to your teen about their behavior and why it needs to change. If after the conversation you see improvements, encourage and reward them.
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If the behavior hasn't changed after the conversation, it's time for punishment. You can take away some privileges, such as watching TV, being at a computer, playing video games, using a mobile phone. However, this works best with younger children because teenagers are "secret" and are more likely to go behind your back. You can also stop giving them pocket money. You can put them under house arrest or impose an early curfew. You may want to spank them (although this is not recommended). Take a closer look at them and choose one of two three different punishments. nine0003
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Always follow your punishment. If you said not to use your cell phone for a week, really take it away for a week. Don't let a teenager intimidate you!
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Don't forget to show your teenager your love for him. Don't forget, after being punished, his conscience is clear!

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Make sure your teen knows the rules. nine0030
Remember to stick to your word. The cancellation of punishment will not help the teenager, but will only give confidence that he can escape punishment.
Show your child your love.
Take his phone or car keys as punishment.

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Also, try to imagine yourself as a teenager for a moment. Although it can be a little problematic for people of different generations, it is important to understand that a teenager goes through various stresses and problems. Therefore, you need to sympathize, not just punish. nine0030
In some regions, it is illegal to spank a child under the age of 12; in others, spanking is illegal regardless of the child's age.
If you have spanked a child, remember that there is a difference between spanking and child abuse.
Spanking is not an effective method of educating teenagers and can make things worse.

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How to discipline a child and teach him order

Does your child have problems with discipline and order? Are you looking for effective ways and methods of influencing a child in order to develop discipline in him? Then learn how to discipline your child so that he controls his behavior and does not test your patience.

The essence of this advice is to influence the child, respect his dignity, be a follower and keep calm. These ways of taking a positive approach to discipline will help you instill discipline in your children.

But these tips don't work like a magic wand. Because there are no quick methods for accustoming children to order and discipline. This takes a lot of time and patience. Only then will you achieve long-term results.

Contents of the article

What it means to discipline a child

Discipline means to disseminate knowledge in order to teach, educate and instill skills. It means teaching according to established rules in the family and society. Teach systematic and regular actions to form the habit of obedience in the child. nine0003

How to discipline a child

Disciplining a child, and even correctly, is not an easy task. Some children are too sensitive and easily vulnerable to even mild reproaches. While others are not amenable to physical punishment. Therefore, there is still a lot of controversy about the methods and proper ways to discipline children.

However, all experts agree that excessive physical punishment only causes harm and does nothing good for the child. This means that constantly spanking children is not the best method of discipline, it should be avoided. nine0003

Sometimes you have to punish, but you can't abuse it. For example, to annoy and offend your children with constant reproaches, remarks, restrictions or rules that are constantly multiplying. This can be discouraging for children.

It is important to remember : anger, inconsistency and discipline are incompatible concepts. The child must be disciplined with love and logic.

1. Correct and discipline with love

When a child tries and copes with his duties or assignments, then do not skimp on praise. But what if they don’t succeed or they often make mistakes? This is not a reason to get angry or yell at children. (Read 115 phrases and words of praise for children with which you can bring them down). nine0003

Are you never wrong? As adults, we make excuses for ourselves. So why not be patient and justify the child when he is wrong. Treat mistakes as part of discipline.

Writers Michael Schulman and Eva Makler wrote:

If children are treated kindly and with love, then they are not afraid of punishment for their independence and initiative. And quite differently with the children of harsh parents. Their children are afraid to take the initiative and be independent. Because they are sure that parents will still find fault with something, will scold them or punish them. Therefore, they will not take a step without their knowledge. nine0003

Even if the children are not doing well on an assignment, praise them for their efforts. This will encourage them to try harder next time. Reassure the children that they are getting better and better every time. And you are proud of it.

Remember , if you discipline a child with love and accustom him to order, then this will only benefit him, both now and in adulthood.

2. Teach order and discipline through personal example

Whether you like it or not, your children are watching you. No matter how much valuable advice and rules you give them, your daily behavior will leave a deeper and more permanent imprint on their character than your words. And before thinking about disciplining a child, parents should apply it to themselves. How to do it?

For your child to be honest, then you need to be honest yourself. If you want children to be polite, then set an example with your manners at home and on the street. And the child should not see that there is no agreement between the parents, but there is a difference of opinion. nine0003

For example, when one of the parents supports the child and allows him what the other parent has forbidden. Who then disciplines whom? Because of this, any efforts to instill useful skills in a child are nullified.

It is not the parents who discipline the child, but the child of the parents

3. It is necessary to discipline the child through the loss of privileges

Your goal is not to force the children to obey, but so that they learn to make better choices in the future. And for that, they need practice. If the children make the wrong choice, then teach them that the consequence will be the loss of the privilege. The loss must be related to behavior. nine0003

Be sure to let them know when the privileges can be returned. Usually 24 hours is enough to teach a child to learn from their mistake. In practice, it may look like this: “For your disobedience, you will not watch TV or play games until tomorrow. But tomorrow, if you obey, you can use them again.”

4. Reward your child's good behavior

When punishment is the main instrument of discipline, parents forget to reward their children for appropriate behavior. Meanwhile, using rewards, you can get much more, as well as quickly correct bad behavior. nine0003

Rewards help the child focus on what to do to get privileges and what to avoid. This does not mean that children should be given a chocolate bar every time they do household chores. It is enough to praise the child, for example: “I am proud of you.”

If there are several children, give the most attention and praise to those who follow the rules and behave well. Then, when the other child starts behaving well, also praise him and give him attention. nine0003

5. Teach discipline through teaching

When you think about how to discipline your child, it is important to remember the root meaning of this word - teach, instruct, guide, inform . Therefore, the best way to discipline children is to teach them to make better choices through good and correct behavior.

What should I do if my child has communication problems? Or does he fight with other children for toys or games? Instead of punishing, soften the situation and show him the appropriate way to resolve children's differences. For example: “Can I play this game too when you're done? Let's take turns playing it, one hour you, and one hour I. You start first." (Read 36 rules for good communication with children, which will help you to talk to your child correctly). nine0003

If your child is trying to get attention by whining or complaining, ignore him. Look the other way, pretend you don't hear him, and don't answer. Say that you do not hear whining or complaints, but hear a polite request.

And when he politely asks and behaves well, return your attention to him. Over time, he will understand that good behavior and polite requests are the best way to satisfy his needs.

And don't wait that your child will learn order and discipline with multiple explanations. Only constant practice makes progress, and progress will make your home more peaceful.

How to discipline a teenager

Teenagers are starting to spread their wings and want to stay away from home longer and spend more time with their peers. Therefore, they are ready to argue and deceive their parents at any opportunity, especially if they think that they are behaving unfairly.

Here are 3 discipline tips to try with your teenager. nine0003

Do not impose. As you set rules and limits, involve your teen in the process. Explain your position, listen to him, and then find a compromise where possible. For example, what if a 12 year old wants to go to bed at 10pm instead of 9pm? Then the compromise would be 9:30, but on the condition that he does not fall asleep in class.
Use the words, " when and then". When you do your homework then you can play computer games. Phrases like this are good for teenagers because you are still giving your child free will. (I recommend reading the article on how to increase your teenager's self-esteem).
Have clear expectations. The phrase “I will not tolerate rudeness” should be number one on your list. When your teen uses a cheeky tone (shouting, calling names, humiliating or insulting), respond immediately. Make it clear that you expect respect. So telling you to “relax” when you are talking to him is unacceptable. nine0030

Benefits of discipline for a child

It helps the child to fit into the real world happily and effectively. Helps develop and maintain trust between parents and child.
Disciplined person attentive to the needs of others and purposeful. If necessary, can tolerate discomfort.
Instills values shared by parents and people close to the child.

Purpose of disciplining the child

Change the child's behavior. This process takes a long time and must be continuous. Therefore, it includes a lot of conversations, communication, clarifications, training. It is important that the child understands that there is a certain norm of behavior that is acceptable in the family and society.
The goal of effective discipline is not to set limits, but to instill restraint and self-control in the child. This is learning, not a desire for blind obedience.
The basis for disciplining a child is respect. The child must respect the authority of the parents, as well as the right of elders to give instructions. nine0030
Protect the child from danger, help him develop self-discipline, conscience, a sense of responsibility towards himself and others.

Read practical methods on how to develop self-discipline.

Mistakes to avoid

Do not discipline your child. If you do not discipline your children, then the parents do not like them. Therefore, you cannot claim the mutual love of your children.
Be inconsistent in the application of discipline. Inconsistency leads to disrespect for parental authority. nine0030
The next mistake is not paying attention to children's tears. A child should not be allowed to cry for a long time when no one pays attention to him. Feeling insecure at this stage can cause problems later in life.
Severe, harsh discipline without the softening effect of love. Humiliation, verbal abuse, yelling, name-calling, or spanking will backfire. It will be difficult for a child to respect and trust his parents.
A violent reaction to a child's pranks. Children annoy parents in many ways, which is why many parents find it difficult to decide how to properly discipline a child. Afraid of making a mistake and appearing too soft, they react violently to any childish pranks. But as a result, the behavior of children only worsens. There is a good quote on this. nine0030

Parents will never be able to raise wise men if they kill rascals in their children!

Obstacles to effective child discipline

Inconsistency between parents is the main obstacle to the development of discipline in a child. When children see that the requirements of parents are different, then they are confused. They do not know whom to listen to and whose demands to fulfill.
The crazy pace of modern society can be an obstacle to the effective education of discipline in a child. Because of this pace, parents do not have enough time to engage with their children. nine0030
Parents simply have no idea about the correct upbringing of a child. (I recommend reading some tips on how to properly raise your child without resorting to spanking)