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By Lauren on December 3, 2020 | Updated November 30, 2022 | 11 Comments

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Are planning on having an Elf on the Shelf join your family? Are you wondering how to introduce the Elf on the Shelf to your kids? You are in luck! This post will help you with everything you need to know! From how to introduce Elf on the Shelf, how to start Elf on The Shelf and how elf on the shelf works!

How to Do Elf on the Shelf

In this post you will have all the information you need to have a TON of fun this holiday season with your Elf on the shelf! From Awesome Elf on the Shelf Ideas, to Elf on the Shelf printables and how to get started enjoying Elf on the Shelf with your kids!

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What is Elf on the Shelf?

Year after year, children and adults alike are baffled by the mystery of how Santa really knows who’s been naughty or nice. After much urging by the elves and Mrs. Claus, Santa has allowed his biggest secret to be revealed in The Elf on the Shelf: A Christmas Tradition. At the start of each Christmas season, the elf appears to serve as Santa’s eyes and ears, traveling back to the North Pole each and every night to make a detailed report of the day’s activities. Children can register their elf online to receive an official adoption certificate and a special letter from Santa.

Ok so in short terms, elf on the Shelf is an awesome way to have a TON of holiday fun with the kids! The kids love elf on the Shelf and of course Moms love making their kids lives totally amazing! It is the perfect fit for the Christmas season!

How does Elf on the Shelf Work?

The Quick answer for How does Elf on the shelf work is you get an elf on the shelf, and then daily he or she makes the kids smile by doing funny things around the house, hides in the house and sometimes brings little treats.

After you get your elf, he or she will need to make an introduction and his first visit. On your elf’s first visit is when you will name them, However in this post we will go in depth on all things Elf on the Shelf so you can be totally covered on all things Elf on the Shelf!

How to Start Elf on the Shelf

Get an Elf: This is a need. You can get an elf here. Plus you can get TONS of super cute outfits that you can buy for your elf here. You will want to check out these SUPER CUTE Girl Elf on the Shelf Outfits too!

Pick when you want the Elf to start coming. This can be any time in November or December that your elf comes. But remember they will come daily once you start until Christmas Eve. Our elf on the shelf comes on December 1st.

Decide How your Elf is going to make their appearance:  For us, the first time On December 1st our elf was waiting for our kids on our dining room table. She was sitting there with matching pajamas for the kids. She also had a special Christmas book I am able to read to them the whole month of December. When our Elf on the Shelf comes each year, they also bring the kids their advent calendars, check out more ideas on what to have the elf bring below.

After all of this, there are a few things you still have to do after your elf arrives, like introduce him to the kids and name him but we will get into the details of all that stuff in just a bit, including answer any and all questions you might have about Elf on the Shelf.

When Does Elf on the Shelf Arrive?

You can have your Elf on the Shelf come out to start the fun whenever you want to. We tend to have our Elf on the Shelf come out after Thanksgiving, more specifically our elf on the shelf arrives on December 1st, to start the Christmas fun.

Just remember that whenever you start the Elf on the Shelf they will be coming every morning until Christmas and fly home with Santa when he comes on Christmas Eve.

New for this year! Elf on the Shelf Heath Certificate! Grab it to show your Elf has a clean bill of health! Grab yours Here.

Where to buy Elf on the Shelf

Want your own Elf on the Shelf? Grab your very own Elf on the Shelf from Amazon and you can grab these cool merry elf notes that are great for with Elf on the Shelf! You can also buy Elf on the Shelf in some stores. Personally I like ordering things online so my kids don’t see them.

Elf on the Shelf

We LOVE our elves! Check out some of the props and printables that help us share the magic with our kids.

How to Introduce Elf on the Shelf

Once you get your elf on the shelf, it is easy and fun to introduce Elf on the Shelf to your kids. You will want to do this on the first day that your elf arrives. You do not want your kids to see the elf on the shelf before their big arrival, so be sure to hide your elf where the kids won’t find him!

Tell the Kids how Elf on the Shelf Works: Tell your kids how the Elf on the Shelf works, and how Santa sends elves down for some Christmas fun and how each night the Elves fly home to Santa’s workshop and tells Santa about how amazing the kids are being. Personally I would not tell them about anything Elf on the Shelf until the first time the Elf arrives, the surprise of Elf on the Shelf coming to their house is awesome! I love reading the Elf on the Shelf Book to the kids when first getting started, and for the younger ones reading it each year helps them remember all the fun that comes from elf on the shelf. My kids also love watching the Elf on the shelf movie that talks about the Elf’s story and how it all works, I find this to be a great way to share how elf on the shelf works with the littler kids.

Explain the Elf Rules: Make sure you explain to them the rules. For example that they can’t touch the elf or they lose their magic power. Let them know he is watching them and that they need to look for him each day ect. The book that comes with Elf on the Shelf has all the rules in it. 🙂 You can also print out our Elf on the Shelf Rules Printable, and stick it on the fridge to help the kids remember the rules.

• Elf on the Shelf Tic Tac Toe
• Elf on the Shelf Names Printable
• Elf on the Shelf BINGO Game
• Elf Kissing Booth Printable Prop
• Elf Pizza Shop Printable
• Elf Cookie Shop Prop Printable
• Elf Reindeer Friend Adoption Certificate Printable
• Elf Donut Shop Printable Prop
• Elf on the Shelf Health Certificate
• Elf on the Shelf Adoption Certificate
• Elf on the Shelf Printables Pack
• Elf on the Shelf Welcome Letter
• Elf on the Shelf Ideas calendar
• Elf on the Shelf Rules Printable
• Elf on the Shelf I’m Back Letters
• Elf on the Shelf We are Back Letters
• Elf on the Shelf Nice List Printable

Elf on the Shelf Arrival Ideas

Here are a few of my favorite Elf on the Shelf arrival ideas for the first time your Elf on the Shelf comes to your house. If this is not your first year doing Elf on the Shelf then check out these Elf on the Shelf Welcome Back Ideas.

Write a note to your kids from your elf.  Explain in the letter why he/she is coming to their house and what he is going to do. Grab the awesome Elf on the Welcome Shelf Letter that you can print out.

Read the Elf on the Shelf Book. Once your elf arrives read the book to your kids, the book tells the whole story about the Elf. Plus it makes a fun family night activity.

Explain the Elf Rules. Make sure you explain to them the rules. For example that they can’t touch the elf or they lose their magic power. Let them know he is watching them and that they need to look for him each day ect. The book that comes with Elf on the Shelf has all the rules in it. 🙂 You can also print out our Elf on the Shelf Rules Printable, and stick it on the fridge to help the kids remember the rules, it is a good one to have the Elf on the Shelf bring with him or her when he comes for his first time.

Have Elf on the Shelf bring the kids a gift! A small gift, you don’t need to go crazy here the kids will just be excited that they are going to have an Elf on the Shelf friend in their house! Advent calendars make a great gift from the Elf on the Shelf.  When your elf comes for the first time, bringing a special treat like these ADORABLE Elf Cookies would be perfect and fun too! Some other elf on the shelf arrival gift ideas are Pjs, a Book, Elf Movie or Holiday socks!

You can print the FREE Printable Elf on the Shelf Welcome letter (we have 2 designs to pick from) and the then you don’t have to worry about writing it yourself.

You can also grab the We are Back Elf on the Shelf Printables for if you have multiple elves and they are coming back again, or the I’m back Elf on the Shelf letters if the elf is coming back for another year of fun.

How to Name your Elf

You are going to need to give your elf on the shelf a name on their first visit to your home. Elf on the shelf doesn’t come with a name! It is the kids job to name their elf. Let the kids have fun picking out the elf’s name. Our elf is named George Twinkle! Check out this awesome list of 101 Elf on the shelf names! We have girl elf names and boy elf names!

To make things official you can grab and Elf on the Shelf Adoption Certificate

What to do after Introducing Elf on the Shelf

The fun starts after your kids have met their elf and given them a name! Then it is time for the daily elf fun to begin! Every day your Elf on the shelf is going to fly back to Santa at night after everyone is sleeping. The next morning the kids will wake up to see what fun the Elf did at night when they returned.

Elf on the Shelf Ideas

Remember you do NOT need to go crazy every single night! There have been times when things were crazy and George was a little less creative. He ending up hiding in the toilet paper roll, pulling breakfast out or my coffee or just hiding in the pile of stuffed animals.

While it’s a TON of fun to see the kids excitement when the elf does something crazy it is not always needed. I have found that just him being here has brought a smile to their face in the morning!

Check out this Elf on the Shelf Ideas calendar which makes it sooo easy to know what you are doing each day for your elf fun! I am also going to suggest that you also check out Reasons your Elf Did not move… it might happen sometimes! 😉

We have LOTS of elf on the shelf ideas too so make sure you check them out!

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Elf on the Shelf Pets

You will also have to decide if your Elf is going to have a pet. Yes there are SUPER cute pets for Elf on the shelf! It is super easy to introduce a new Elf on the Shelf pet! Just have the new Elf on the Shelf pet join your elf one morning when he comes back from his Santa visit the night before.

• Elf on the Shelf Pet Pack that comes with the Reindeer and Saint Bernard Elf Pets 
• Elf on The Shelf Pets: St. Bernard
• Elf on the Shelf Elf Pets Reindeer

If your kids have an Elf Reindeer that joins him when your elf comes, there is also this super fun and gross Reindeer Poop Slime that the kids would love to make!

Elf on the Shelf Activities

If you are looking for more fun with Elf on the Shelf there are a lot of different activities that you can get.

The Elf on the Shelf Festive Family Night 

• Includes the new Santa’s St. Bernards save Christmas DVD and Joy sugar cookie plush Elf

Elf on The Shelf Letters to Santa 

• This cool kit lets the kids write letters to Santa and then you can shrink them down and they will be elf sized to bring back to Santa!

• Use Mrs Claus’ Magic Press and Santa’s Special Paper to shrink letters to elf-size so they can easily be carried by your elf.
• After Santa reads a letter, your Scout Elf will hang it on your Christmas tree as a keepsake ornament.
• Kit contains 32 page children’s book, 8 x Santa’s Special Paper, Mrs. Claus’ Magic Press, 8 Scout Elf sashes, 2 markers and 2 pieces of parchment paper

How to Say Good Bye to Elf on the Shelf

Once it is time for the Elf to go home, you can write a letter to your kids from the elf! Or you can sign up below to get our FREE Elf on the Shelf Printable E-Book that has an exclusive Good-Bye Letter from Elf on the Shelf Printable in it! We also have this easy How to Say Good Bye with Elf on the Shelf idea!

Get the EXCLUSIVE Good-Bye letter Printable! In this FREE E-book you will get 3 Printables to make your Elf on the Shelf adventure easier! It includes Elf on the Shelf Welcome Letter, Elf on The Shelf Rules and Elf on the Shelf Good-Bye Letter. Just fill out the form below! Plus you can also Call Santa for FREE with Santas Phone Number!

Helpful tips on Elf on the Shelf “issues”

What to say when kids see the Elf in the store

One issue we ran into is that our kids saw the Elf in the hallmark store. While I don’t like to lie to my kids I do like the magic to stay alive. We told them that elves in stores are knock offs. We let them know they are not the real elves with magic. And that the magic is in the Elf that is just for our house. It worked for us.

What to say if your kids ask why their friends don’t have an elf

We have told ours there is a waitlist for the elves, and that it is long. So they know that not every child will have one because they have to get off the waitlist. We don’t want other kids to feel bad that they don’t have their own Elf. But I also know that not every parent is going to do Elf on the Shelf. We want to make sure they don’t mention elf in school and hurt other kids feelings who do not have an elf.

It also keeps the magic alive in our house because no one is telling them it is a fake thing or that they don’t have one.

My daughter has also told me one of her friends was sad about not having an Elf. I know it is not always in the budget for everyone and the waitlist idea helped. My daughter made her feel better by telling her that there is a waitlist for Elves and that maybe she would get off the waitlist soon.

More Christmas Fun for Kids

You can Facetime Santa for a fun Santa Phone Call!

There are so many tasty Christmas treats that the kids will love and they are all perfect for any kids Christmas parties that you might have. Some of our favorite Christmas treats are Santa Hat Cupcakes and Whoville Cookies !

But you can check out the full list of Kid Friendly Christmas Treats and pick out your favorites to make with the kids!

If you are looking for cookie recipes we have you covered there too! Check out our Beautiful Christmas Sugar Cookies, and Christmas Tree Desserts Recipes!

If you want to have even more fun you can get Personalized Text Messages each day from Santa!

If you are looking for a totally fun activity to do with the kids, reindeer poop slime is always a BIG hit!

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Elf on the Shelf: How to explain to kids why there is no Elf this year

Elf on the Shelf is back again for another year.

But while the arrival of the festive toy is exciting for children, it can be a bit of a nightmare for some adults.

In fact, many parents have been revealing their frustrations over the tradition this year.

December can be an extremely busy time for anyone with kids in their lives, what with school holidays, presents and events to prepare for – so finding the time to come up with different Elf on the Shelf ideas can be pretty exhausting.

So it’s only natural for parents to want to give it a break this year, or for some to stop halfway through the month.

But how do you explain to kids why there is no more Elf this year? Here are some things to keep in mind…

Come up with a funny reason why Elf isn’t here

If your children are still young and have wild imaginations, there’s no reason why you can’t come up with a fun reason why Elf isn’t about this year.

Also if you don’t want to ruin the magic that you are moving the Elf around each night, then this is a great option. 

Some suggestions from parents include:

• Say Elf is isolating due to Covid
• Tell a child they don’t need an Elf as they are already on the nice list
• Say Elf had an allergic reaction and had to head to the North Pole
• Explain that Santa is running low on Elves this year
• Say Elf is in the hospital at the North pole, so Santa can fix him

Get creative and write a postcard

‘A wonderful idea is to write a letter or a postcard from the Elf explaining that he has left to go on an adventure – but it’s up to the family to find out just what the adventure entails,’ says education expert and former headteacher Leon Hady, who is the founder of Guide Plus.

‘This is perfect for capturing the imagination of your children and encouraging them to think together about where he could be going, who he might meet and see and how he will continue to spread the magic.’

Be honest 

Depending on whether your children are old enough to know that Elf is moved about by parents, you could explain that you simply don’t have time this year.

Alternatively, if you don’t want to reveal too much, you could say that you’re too busy to host Elf in your home this year. 

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Point out other things you’re doing instead

Lots of families are jumping on Elf on the Shelf this year, but many don’t do it at all.

So while a child might ask why lots of their friends are doing Elf on the Shelf, you could explain that your family have other traditions instead – whether it’s Christmas film nights, winter walks or trips to special places.

By pointing out other positive things you do – that other families might not –  it won’t make the lack of Elf seem like a disappointment or a loss.

And, if you don’t have one, suggest making a tradition.

‘This might be playing a Christmas family board game, making some decorations or planning out acts of kindness over the festive period such as sorting out toys for children more in need,’ adds Leon.

Encourage kids to make their own

As a parent it’s likely you already have lot of things on your plate during December, but there’s no reason why kids still can’t get involved in the fun.

You could encourage your children to make their own Elf and make them get up to different things each day – that way the pressure is taken off the adults.

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What is the elf doing on the shelf?

One of the Christmas traditions in Ireland and many other countries that children love is the appearance of the Elf on the shelf.

The elf usually arrives between November 24th and December 1st. This time among the children is known as the week of the return of the scout elves, that is, the time when Santa's little helpers flee the North Pole and head to the houses in which they will live until Christmas.
Usually parents start this tradition when the child is 2 or 3 years old. nine0005 Some kids who already know how to write leave a welcome letter for their elf. Others, since the installation of the Christmas tree, simply call him, inviting and luring him with some sweets.

Children tend to give names to everyone at once. Here is a list of common elf names:0012

In our family it so happened that our elves (we have two of them - the boy Elfie and the girl Blueberry) always appear for the first time on the Christmas tree, which, according to Irish traditions, is already dressed up at the end of November for the Evening Toy Show. On their last day, December 24, the elves also “star” on her crown or in the place where gifts are expected, so that it would be easier for Santa to pick them up. It is on this day that the espionage work of the elves ends, when Santa makes the final decision - whether the child falls into the list of good or bad and whether to leave gifts under the tree. nine0007 Elf disguises himself as Santa

American writer Carol Aebersold and her daughter Chanda Bell come up with a wonderful story in verse, which is told in The Elf On The Shelf. A Christmas Tradition, 2005) with colorful pictures. She explains how Santa Claus knows who is naughty and who is good. This tradition was created in order to encourage children to behave in the best way at least on the eve of Christmas. nine0007

The main task of the Elf on the shelf is to look after the children on the eve of Santa's visit. These are scouts who report to the boss about the behavior of the children living in this house, which is why they are also called "scout elves" or "scout elves"). They have to move around the house every night (not during the day!). And in the morning the children run around all the rooms in search of a Christmas guest, wondering “where did he hide?”, “Did he act up?”, “What did he do last night?” nine0007 Elf in captivity of toys

Therefore, during this period, parents should show maximum imagination in order to come up with interesting places, plots and scenes for the elf's unique actions. And most importantly - do not forget to do this EVERY night!

I recommend a few sites with ideas about what elves can do:0032

You must remember and follow the rules regarding the elf on the shelf.

The most important and most important rule number 1 . Do not touch your elf, otherwise he will lose his magic! If the elf has not moved by morning, it is possible that someone accidentally touched him and he lost his energy. Now he can't go back to the North Pole or hide and joke and make new scenes. The elf scout has become an ordinary toy.

Regulation 2 . Elves are scouts and cannot speak, but they are excellent listeners. Toddlers can share secrets and desires with their elf as often as they like. They can exchange notes. nine0007

I also advise you to watch the film Elf (2003) with your children. It clearly mentions the first rule of the Elven Code -

"Treat every day like Christmas."

On the eve of Christmas, you can just say goodbye to an elf and express hope for a meeting next year.

For a more formal farewell, you can pack the elf in a box, write "To the North Pole" on it and stick any stamp on it. Of course, you don’t need to carry it to the post office, but explain to the child that he is going on a trip to a very cold and distant place in order to restore his magical energy for the next season. nine0007

Elves usually come to visit as adults, so 100 years old, and can live up to 750 years. Therefore, the same elf visits the family from year to year.
In stores, including online, there are now a lot of sets, books, clothes and games with elves. For lovers of screens and gadgets, I recommend the site elfontheshelf.com, where the parent can find useful information about the “Elf on the Shelf”, and the child can spend hours plunging into the world of Christmas.

Merry Christmas and playful elves! nine0032