How old is your inner child

Why So Serious? Take The Quiz To Find Out How Old Your Inner Child Is!

• by Jessie Dax-Setkus
• – on Nov 03rd
• in Lifestyle

Everyone has an inner child that pokes out from time to time to say hello. No one can be totally adulty all the time, right? Whether your inner child comes out in the TV you watch, you music you listen to, or even the games you play, it has to show its face somehow. Some people also have a younger inner child than others. Some people might have an inner child that is ten years old or younger whereas others might have a teenaged inner child because they are a little more mature. That is totally okay too. There is no defined answer as to how old your inner child has to be.

In general, some people are more mature than others. Maybe you find yourself rolling your eyes at pranks where others might be laughing their heads off at them. On the other hand, maybe you like going out with your friends more than others who enjoy the great outdoors more. Maybe you even enjoy simple foods more than foods that tickle your taste buds more or vice versa, everyone is different. Take our quiz to see how old your inner child is, maybe it is younger or older than you were expecting!

What do you think of the outdoors?

What do you think of the great outdoors? it's a great place to do a lot of fun activities like hiking, swimming, or even just thinking when you need a minute to slow down. Do you think you could be outside all day (until the street lights come on)? Do you just simply like it in general? Do you see it's appeal but can only stay outside for so long, or do you prefer to be indoors?

How often do you get a song stuck in your head?

Every now and then you have to get a song stuck in your head. Think about it, how often are you listening to your radio and your favorite song comes on? Pretty often right? So how often do you get that song lodged in your brain, all the time or pretty often? How about every once in a while at the very least? It'd be pretty weak if you thought it was lame though.

When was the last time you had a good laugh?

How often do you get a good laugh in? When was the last time you really got a solid belly laugh into your day? Maybe you are laughing right this second, or maybe you laughed just the day before that isn't all that long ago. Maybe it was a couple days ago or maybe it was over a week ago, which is unfortunate but also possible. Think about it, when was that last laugh?

What's your favorite drink?

If you had to pick a non-alcoholic drink, which one would you choose? Would you pick some classic juice (or juice boxes)? Would you pick a velvety chocolate milk that sweetens up pretty much any afternoon? Would you pick a fizzy soda that the bigger kids enjoy, or would you pick a more adulty drink like a coffee? Which one is your favorite?

What time do you wake up?

What time would you say you get out of bed? Some people are earlier risers than others and there is no right or wrong—everybody is different. Would you say you're an early bird and get yourself up and out of bed around seven in the morning, or do you get up a little later at nine in the morning? Do you get up late at ten in the morning or do you get up whenever you want?

Do you like candy?

Let's talk candy, do you like it and how much of it would you eat? Could you literally eat it at every meal or even swap it out for your meal? Do you have a piece or two a day as a little snack? Do you only eat it if it's around but don't really search it out for the 'most part? Or would you rather eat "real desserts" like cake or cookies rather than sugary sweet candy?

Do you take care of your pet?

Okay so you have a pet. Whether it's a dog, a cat, a lizard, or even a fish, it's a big responsibility because it's a living animal. you can't just neglect them because they wouldn't survive. Who takes care of your pet? Do your parents or your spouse do most of the work, do you pitch in a little bit, do you take on the brunt of the work, or is it completely your responsibility?

What color do you like most?

What color are you drawn to the most? there are so many colors to choose from, but out of the selection below, which would you pick? Would you pick a youthful pastel blue? Would you pick a playful yellow? How about a "take me a little more seriously" teal? There is also a more stand out hot pink as well. Which one would you choose?

Do you play on any pick up leagues right now?

Whenever there is a pick up game or league are you part of the fun, or are you not really in on the action? What types of teams are you playing for? are you playing for a kickball league that pretty much anyone of all athletic abilities can sign up for? Are you playing slow pitch softball, which takes a little more skill. How about dodgeball which is a little more physical?

What was your favorite subject in school?

What would you say your favorite subject was when you were in school? Did you like learning about far off places when you read the required books in English? How about taking a little more hands on approach when you were in science? Did you like getting a little messy in art class? Or were or more of a fan of recess when you could talk to all of your best buddies?

Do you still watch cartoons?

Cartoons are a silly way to let out our inner child because it brings us directly back to childhood when we watch them. Do you watch cartoons as much as you possibly can because you like to get a good laugh, do you watch them on occasion, would you rather watch reality TV or other more grown up shows, or would you rather be out with your friends?

Do you like horror movies?

What are your thoughts on horror movies? Some people love them and others can't go near watching them or else they won't sleep for days. What do you think? If you watched them would you be up all night? Would you prefer another genre like comedy? Do you just love every minute of them or do you just think they are cool? Pick what you think about horror movies.

What type of weather do you like?

There are all different types of weather to choose from. From the rainy to the windy and the sunny and everything in between. What type of weather is your favorite? Do you like a really sunny day so you can be outside? How about a partly cloudy day so it isn't quite as hot and you can get a little more done without being quite as hot? Or a rainy day so you can cuddle with your crush? Maybe you don't care at all.

What are your thoughts on snow?

The cold weather can be oh so nice because of all the fun activities that go along with it. What do you like about the snow? Do you like to build a fun snowman with a corncob pipe and a button nose? Do you like to start a snowball fight with all of your friends? How about getting a nice cup of hot cocoa followed by a session of ice skating? Or maybe you'll be inside staying warm.

What are your thoughts on the dentist?

Okay, let's be real no one loves going to the dentist. Sure a teeth cleaning isn't the worst thing in the world, but it wouldn't be described as fun either. What are your thoughts on the dentist? Are you terrified by the very name of the dentist? Do you see him as a necessary evil? Do you actually think a teeth cleaning isn't so bad, or do you resent him because he sent you to get braces?

What are your thoughts on Christmas?

Christmas is one of the best, if not the best, holiday of the year. What are your thoughts on this awesome day? Do you just love the gift exchange? What about the family gathering together, do you love seeing everyone together and in a happy mood? Would you rather be with your friends and skip the holiday? What about the food—there's a lot of amazing and delicious food!

What do you do with your friends?

There are a lot of things you can do when you are with your friends. let's be honest, being with your friends is always a good time, but what are you doing when you are with them? Are you playing board games or video games? Are you watching epic movies and comparing thoughts on them? Are you just simply hanging out and being cool? Or are you getting out of the house?

Are you close with your parents?

Your parents are the ones that brought you into this world and they love you unconditionally, but how close are you with them? Are they your best friends in the whole wide world? Do you butt heads from time to time but you still have major love for them? Do you not really get along with them whatsoever? Or are you getting along with them much better now than you were before?

Do you like reading?

Reading helps us expand our minds and takes us to far off places. Our imaginations run wild and it's a great way to expand our vocabulary. What are your thoughts on reading a good book? Is it not really your thing or do you like to read a short story that you can finish in one sitting? Do you really enjoy sitting down with a good story, or do you read only when you have to?

What about work?

Okay, working doesn't have to be your favorite thing in the world, but we all have to do it. Maybe you already have your dream job and you enjoy showing up every single day. Maybe you are in it for the money and you like seeing the paychecks show up every pay period. Maybe you do it simply because you have to in order to survive, or maybe you just aren't into it at all.

You see someone drop their wallet, what do you do?

Picture this, there is a guy walking down the street and all of a sudden you see him drop his wallet, but he doesn't realize it. What do you do next? Do you rummage through his wallet and keep the money? Do you hunt him down and try to give his wallet back? Do you call the police and turn the wallet in? Or do you just let the wallet go and let someone else deal with it?

Who is your favorite celebrity?

Out of these celebrities, which one would you pick? Would you pick Robin Williams who has a more youthful approach to his comedy? How about Nicki Minaj who dresses up in bright colors and raps catchy beats? Christian Bale also dresses up like a cute super hero that saves the city of Gotham from bad guys. or there's Miley Cyrus who's creative and kind of out there.

What kind of flowers do you like?

If you had to pick a flower, which one would you choose? Flowers can really represent our personality if you really think about it. Would you choose an innocent daisy, or would you choose a bright and sunny daffodil? How about a more mature and romantic rose? Maybe you are not into flowers all that much. Out of all of those flowers, which are you drawn to the most?

What's for dinner?

What's for dinner tonight? We all have to eat this important meal of the day. Some people love it and some people just eat to to get by, what are you eating for supper? Are you having a simple can of Spaghetti Ohs? How about Some chicken fingers and French fries? Maybe you're just having whatever your mom is whipping up. or maybe you like some meatloaf and mashed potatoes.

What’s your favorite time of day?

What would you say is your favorite time of day? A lot of people have a different reason for liking different times of the day. Some people like the middle of the day because it is the best time to be outside having a good time. Sometimes people like the early morning because it's quiet and they can get some TV time in. Some people like late night to be alone, and others like the evening when they can go out.

What Is An Inner Child

By Esther Goldstein

What is an inner child and what does it know?

Our inner child is a part of ourselves that’s been present ever since we were conceived, through utero and all the developing years after where we were young and developing into tender selves: baby, infant, toddler, young child and middle school year.

The inner child can often recall good experiences as well as childhood fears, traumas, neglect or significant loss. It can be hard to pinpoint the exact event that is tugging at us, but we can start to notice our internal patterns that have left us a subconscious “bread crumb trails” when we start to explore our inner world.

You have an inner child. I have an inner child. We all do. Your “inner child” is a part of your subconscious that has been picking up messages way before it was able to fully process what was going on (mentally and emotionally). It holds emotions, memories and beliefs from the past as well as hopes and dreams for the future.

Our clients are always fascinated and excited when we explain inner child work and how we all have a little one (or little ones) inside of us. When we make space for inner child healing, we often see a shift in clients’ healing and overall improvement towards clarity of the self and greater treatment progress.

How can we identify our Inner Child parts?

Our inner child is the one that remembers that sweet smell of grandma when she leaned down to hug us, with a huge look of pride on her face when we showed her how we were able to ride our bike.

Our inner child remembers the feeling of our hearts brimming with joy and love when our dad looked at us with a glisten in his eyes when we shared our favorite toy with the neighbor.

Our inner child remembers feeling invited to a friend’s birthday party and feeling so happy and confident.

Our inner child is also the one who felt the salty tears run down our cheeks when mama left the house in a rush to go say goodbye to her dad when he was dying.

Our inner child remembers being ignored and bullied on the bus on the first day of school.

Our inner child remembers feeling dumb when the teacher scoffed or when we didn’t have the answer to a “seemingly easy” question.

Our inner child is present when we start our first job, proving your boss that you’re responsible and capable, feeling proud.

Our inner child is present when we are teenagers, wanting so badly to belong.
Our inner child is inside of us when we go on a quest to find love, or to find social groups to belong to.  
It's the part that feels understood, calm, warm and fuzzy when we have good times with others.

It's also the part that feels crushed and betrayed when we are hurt, ignored or lied to, when someone hurts or betrays us.

Now, our inner child can either be calm and content (for the most part), or it can act out and make things a bit rumbly inside, standing in the way of healthy relationships, organization skills and self regulation.

Our inner child can either make it or break it when it comes to being a productive member of society…or steps to finding happiness.

If you’re feeling frustrated or stuck in some aspect of your life, it’s probable that your inner child is needing some attention. Stuck points can look like difficulties at work work, in parenting, finding or keeping love, deepening relationships or setting boundaries.  

You may notice that you’re experiencing fear, perfectionism, anxiety or are avoiding certain people, places or experiences. These are all ways that your inner child is attempting to feel safe. When the inner child is running the show, it’ll choose behaviors, choices and and thoughts based on unconscious beliefs or memories from the past, and based on what the inner self would need to feel safe.

Often, the inner child does not have access to the adult “self” reality and may not know about how life is different now, or how things have changed.

Childhood emotional wounds can make you feel like you’re walking around with a ton of bricks on your back.

If your inner child is walking around with 50 lbs of pain, you may feel like you are carrying the weight of the world on your shoulders. If your inner child lived with instability, uncertainty or danger, it may hold you back from making changes. You may notice a fearful part, afraid of you trying new things, however, if you are wanting to move on with life you’ll probably feel torn.

Why we get stuck: when one part seeks safety and consistency and another part seeks possibility, connection and adventure.

You can find a middle ground, and “unstuck” so that you can move past blockages. To cultivate the balance of creativity, flexibility, responsibility, connectivity and consistency, it’ll be important for your adult self and child self to meet and get to know each other. This is the first step to creating a collaborative team- one which your adult need and inner child needs are met.

Two steps are important here:

ONE :

TWO:

Our meditation on Connecting with your Inner Child is made to support you in getting in touch with your inner child. Our goal is for you to tap in to how your inner child is doing, and offer it some tender care and find a way to meet its needs. Often, doing this helps give clarity on what needs to shift in order for you to move forward. As well, this internal process often soften the resistance and “stuckness” you are feeling in your adult life.

For some, “reparenting” the inner child is helpful as well, in this process.)

Accessing the inner child to relieve the burdens and invite hope and joy.

Begin here….

To do this, we begin by asking your adult self to be a little open and possibly, vulnerable. In order for your inner child to come out of hiding and to share about what is going on or what it’s needing, we need to be open to hearing and seeing its story; curious about its life, its hopes, dreams, fears and worries.

We want your inner child to begin developing a trusting relationship with your adult self so it can share openly. We want to hear about its hopes, dreams, wishes, its words,…. as well as its pain, its sadness, its fears and its worries.

Often, we see that when the inner child has someone (adult you) who truly cares and slows down, and is present with it, it can calm down and feel the feelings that it had to shove away for years. It’s often recommended to do this work with trained therapist who works with inner child work, childhood emotional neglect or emotional pains as the work can be tender and a skilled clinician can help guide you and support the healing.

As you get to know your inner child you may notice that it’s needing some important healing.

There are many different ways to offer support, kindness and healing to the inner child. It may need to tell you a story that it’s kept a secret for years. It may need to show you the loss and grief it experienced years ago but never got to process. It may want to show you its need for love and attention and for you to find ways to get those needs met in life before you move on with the ‘work project’ you’ve been focusing on.

It may ask for you to speak up in your relationships because it doesn’t want to be ignored like it used to be, as a child. Or it may be something else. We don’t know what will come up until we start this process.

Once the inner child knows it has your attention and you are doing your best to offer it love and provide it with its needs it’ll often be more open to you.

It may need more physical or emotional safety, more attention to the way you’re taking care (of your mind, body or soul), healing past pains, setting boundaries in life or shifting who you spend time with. This work will often uncover whatever is truly important.

We’ve seen how many symptoms shift and clients begin working past and through stuck points when we work with the deeper layers of inner child healing. We’ve seen client begin opening their hearts to deepening the love in their life, or for the first time, truly allowing love in. For some, doing the deeper work allows them to finally be present in their parenting as they are able to connect without the agitation that used to be there. For others, they start showing up to work, and relationships with confidence, and more comfortably ask for what they need. For others, the panic and fear they were holding lessens tremendously and they can stand by the boundaries they’ve been trying to set for years.

By success I don't mean people who are famous or rich, but people who have love, feel content to be in their skin, have a sense of inner peace and feel fulfilled. A healthy inner child is rich in love, connections, mentally, feeling fulfilled in their sense of meaning and able to tolerate the pains of ups and downs of life. Successful people aren't just those who are smart and “made it”. My definition of successful refers to those who are emotionally regulated, have a good relationship with their emotions and have a calm inner child.

What does a happy inner child look and feel like?

When our inner child (and our “internal family”) is calm, we get the green light to go ahead and try new things. We know we can tolerate failure, or mess ups. We can deal with minor amounts of shame without getting gobbled up with fear. We know we are steady and don't need to act impulsively. We don't get stuck in our pursuit to get approval from others.

If our inner child feels safe and steady, it will allow us to blossom.

It's like an anchor. If the inner child feels wobbly, as adults, we will feel insecure, disoriented and disorganized in life. When our inner child feels steady, its anchor is deeply rooted and we feel, and come across, more clear, confident and comfortable.

Now, how do you know if your inner child has some pains

• Feelings of shame, guilt and/or pain.

• Chronic overworking and needing to achieve (to get approval or belonging).

• Inability to be present in the moment. 

• Regular anxiety and fear.

• Rigid and trying to be “perfect” (cannot handle failure).

• Difficulty noticing and celebrating “wins” in life (no win will ever be enough).

• Unhealthy relationship patterns and/or avoiding relationships and love.

• Self sabotage and obsessive/addictive behaviors.

• Underachieving.

• Rumination and negative self talk.

Ways to work with healing your inner child

• Utilize activities to start feeling (a little bit at a time) in order to undo the numbing.

• Work on reducing anxieties and fears by processing fearful memories or experiences.

• Developing healthy relationships that allow you to feel safe and steady in the world.

• Creating a warm and inviting environment.

• Create structure and nourishing self care- by creating steady patterns of feeding, sleeping, hygiene & sex.

• Develop clear emotional, energetic, time and physical boundaries.

• Create passions and hobbies and make them part of your life.

• Shift focus from performing to doing + being + celebrating.

• Shift your inner beliefs (what beliefs you feed yourself, therapy can help with this).

Ready to take a step to connecting with or deepening your relationship with your inner child?

We’ve got you covered! Click on the right for guided mediation video + access the downloadable script that will help you get in touch with your inner child. The meditation is a step by step guide to helping you dig a little deeper and get to connect with that child within.

PLEASE go slow and pause this video as many times as you need.

Our pacing is a bit quick and we want you to slow the pace so you can really get in touch with the parts of self or just go inward, at a rate that feels just right.

One step towards shifting things internally and externally

Click here for access to our wonderful worksheet for you to engage in after you connect with your inner child, so that you can actually come away from the meditation with a tangible takeaway and begin making a small shift.

It’s time to start building those dreams together… you + your inner child

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Until then, stay open and curious to the concept of your inner child and what it may be needing from you as the next few days unfold. One small shift in your mind can help begin being more attuned inward and making a small shift towards self care and healthier living.

Our therapists in New York are here for you!

If you’re wanting some more personalized work and you’d like to book a session for some one on one work, reach out today so we can get you scheduled with one of our expert therapists!

Some of our integrative therapist include : EMDR, Somatic Work, IFS/Parts Work, Expressive Arts and Cognitive Talk Therapies.

Xo

Esther and the Integrative Tea

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What is your inner child saying?

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Know yourselfListen to your body a child - that part of us that has not matured and expresses its needs all the more insistently, the less it was listened to in the past. nine0003

The concept of the inner child is familiar to anyone interested in personal development, but for others it remains vague and even mysterious. “He embodies the foundations of our being, everything that has not been erased from our childhood - fears, traumas, anger, joys and desires.”

The psychoanalyst draws an analogy between what the inner child means to us and the impact the first pages of the book of our lives have on us: we do not remember the time when they were written, but this information is imprinted with such force on us, which continues to have an impact. nine0003

“Being aware of the existence of the inner child helps to live in such a way that you are more of an actor and speaker and less of an object through which others speak and act,” explains coach Genevieve Caillou. - When this child takes power over us, we are driven by the need to be loved, recognized, hugged, listened to.

When he takes his rightful place, when his needs are listened to and met, we act on our desires, we can make choices, enter into relationships. From the point of view of inner freedom and mental well-being, this is a fundamental difference. nine0003

When we listen to and understand our inner child and thus become a good parent to him, it completely changes our relationship with ourselves and others. Clamps disappear, fear, shame and anger can be recognized, listened to and "put in place." The adult in us begins to think more clearly and becomes more free. Then he can deal better with himself and with others.

Meet the Inner Child

Sit comfortably in a quiet place where no one can disturb you. Imagine that next to you is the child that you once were, and establish contact with him. Ask him to find out how to take care of him. Choose from four patterns. nine0003

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What usually makes you happy the most?

Do you often rejoice?

If this is not so, what prevents you from rejoicing more often?

How to be a good parent to yourself

Find your sources of joy: what gives you physical and mental pleasure? Alone or in relationships, with what people, under what circumstances, on what terms?

Try to appreciate the joyful moments more: take "freeze-frames" to fully experience them. If you feel that there are too few of them, try to create such moments yourself, instead of waiting for them to appear in your life. Notice and replay those moments of intense emotion when you feel joyful, calm, and collected. nine0003

2. Crying child

Questions to the inner child

• Why are you crying?

• What usually makes you sad the most?

• Do you often feel sad?

• What do your parents, teachers, friends do with your sadness?

• Are you comforted? If not, how would you like to be comforted?

How to be a good parent to yourself

First of all, agree with what you are experiencing at the moment, accept that this emotion is present, sharp and painful. You can say out loud to yourself, "I'm sad." Try to find the cause of sadness as accurately as possible.

Look for ways to make this emotion less intense, less long-lasting, less frequent. For example, you can talk about it with a loved one, change the situation or relationship that gives rise to sadness. Consider therapy if you feel that the cause of the problem is deep and long-standing. nine0003

Support yourself, comfort yourself, please yourself by taking care of yourself as you would take care of your best friend.

3. Frightened child

Questions to the inner child

• What scares you so much?

• What usually scares you? Are you often afraid?

• What do your parents, teachers, friends do with your fear?

• Are you comforted? If not, how would you like to be comforted and encouraged? nine0003

How to be a good parent to yourself

First, accept your fear without shame or guilt, without trying to minimize or reject it. You can say out loud to yourself, "I'm afraid."

Breathe deeply to relieve stress: inhale and exhale through the nose and as long as possible.

Understand the nature of your fear: fleeting, permanent, vague, concrete. It can be a phobia (fear of flying), an anxiety that generates negative scenarios (fear of failure, fear of being abandoned ...) or a reaction to a sense of threat (to ride the subway alone at one in the morning). nine0003

Return to the reality of the here and now. If your fear is the result of projections, remember that emotions are the result of thoughts, which in turn are the result of beliefs.

4. Angry child

Questions to the inner child

• What makes you so angry?

• What usually makes you angry? Are you angry often?

• What do your parents, your teachers, your friends do with your anger? Are you comforted? If not, how would you like to be calmed and "cooled"? nine0003

How to be a good parent to yourself

First of all, accept the emotion that you are experiencing at the moment, accept that it is present, sharp and painful. You can say to yourself out loud: "I'm angry, I'm angry, I'm furious."

Breathe deeply to relieve stress: breathe in and out through your nose for as long as possible.

Find what caused your anger, find out what especially hurt you (for example: "I felt like I was devalued"). Ask yourself if your emotion was justified but excessive, or justified and commensurate with the occasion. nine0003

To make anger your ally, start by not jumping into conflict-prone conversations right away. Take time to soothe yourself with breathing and relaxation techniques. Then calmly consider how to reduce or negate the factors that provoke anger.

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I must say that it is necessary to work with the inner child constantly. I realized this after I went back to him a few months later. My inner child was again sad, apparently he again needed attention and my love. Since this discovery, I have incorporated meeting my inner child into my daily meditation. From that moment I am constantly in contact with him and get a lot of pleasure. nine0003 Getting to know your inner child You lie or sit comfortably in a chair, back straight, feet parallel on the floor. You close your eyes and completely relax. You make contact with Reiki, thank the energy. You draw the 3rd symbol on yourself and activate it. You ask Reiki to help You get in touch with Your inner child, then you draw the 2nd symbol on yourself, activate it and fix it with the 1st symbol and also activate this symbol. Now trust Reiki and calmly wait for the connection to be established. nine0003 You may get a picture of a little girl or a little boy that you were as a child, or something abstract. Accept openly any spontaneous manifestation of Your inner child. This little creature is part of You and often feels alone and abandoned. Look closely at this image and feel its meaning for you. If the inner child has manifested in human form, look at how old he is, how he is dressed and what he is doing at the moment. Consider carefully all the details, follow what emotions arise in You. Get close to your inner child, look deep into his eyes. Feel how he feels: perhaps sadness, anger, curiosity, fear, fear, or joy. Get even closer to the inner child, try not to frighten him and make contact with him. Be sensitive, be guided by the mood of the child, his behavior. You can stand or sit next to him; take him by the hand or in his arms; hug him, hug him and kiss him; play with him. Trust your intuition. It is extremely important already at the first contact tell and show your inner child that you love him! Give him all Your Love. Tell him that You admire him. Tell him that from now on You will always be with him. It is possible that after some time Your inner child will tell You or ask You for something, and perhaps give You something. In any case, this will be an important message for You, which may come in the form of words, feelings or symbols. Listen to what your inner child wants to tell you, let him speak. Accept his message. You are completely free on a mental and visual level. For example, you can take your inner child to the store where he chooses his own toy, or you can go to an amusement park and ride a carousel with him. Fulfill any of his wishes! nine0003 Surround this image with Reiki energy. By sending him Love and Light (i.e. Reiki), You heal him, and gradually he becomes strong, creative, spontaneous, playful, loving and ready to help You. In this way, you yourself are able to transform everything that prevents you (an adult) from being strong, creative, spontaneous, playful, loving and ready to help others. Gradually, you begin to accept yourself more and more as you really are, and you begin to love yourself. nine0003 Stay in touch with your inner child until he lets you know that it's time for him to leave. When parting, take him visually in your palms, enclose him in your heart chakra (Love chakra) and tell him that from now on he is always with you, surrounded by light, love and energy. End the session with a Reiki thanksgiving. Perhaps the inner child will not come to You right away, no matter, keep working regularly and it will certainly show itself to You. Do not limit your work with your inner child only during Reiki sessions, integrate it into your everyday life. Incorporate into your daily routine an activity that pleases your inner child. For example, swinging, riding a bicycle, playing with toys, playing by the water, going to the circus, watching children's films, etc. In this way, we constantly maintain contact with our inner child. In addition, by including the physical level in the process of healing the inner child, we work on all four levels and, thus, accelerate the process of his recovery. nine0003 Inner woman and inner man Each person carries both feminine and masculine energy. Since ancient times, the essence of these two types of energies has been known in the East. The existence of both energies has long been known in Eastern philosophies. Moreover, in the East they proceed from the fact that the entire universe essentially consists of two forces: the female passive energy - Yin and the male active energy - Yang. West C.G. Jung made an important contribution to the study of the feminine and masculine in man. His theory "Animus-Anima", considering the interaction of female and male energies, has become widely known. nine0003 Our task today, in the age of Aquarius, is to fully reveal and develop the feminine and masculine energies in ourselves and combine them harmoniously in harmony. As a rule, people suppress the energy of the opposite sex in themselves, moreover, many of us cannot even accept the words "female" and "male". Let's look at what is behind these definitions. Feminine energy is the vital principle, acceptance, intuition, creative aspect, in a word, our "intuitive I". Feminine energy is a deep and wise part of our "higher self", both in a man and in a woman. Through the feminine energy, we are in contact with the source of the highest Wisdom in us. nine0003 The masculine energy carries the action, the embodiment of ideas and desires (ie the feminine energy) into a material form. Male energy is intelligence, thinking, speech. It enables us to act in the physical world. The feminine principle receives the cosmic energy, and the masculine principle in us embodies it through action in our world. Thus, the creative process is carried out. We are all well aware of the principles of the interaction of the female and male parts in us. First, a creative impulse arises, an intuitive feeling, for example, we get an idea for solving a problem or a vision of a picture, our feminine principle works here. Then we react to the information received, then we solve this problem or transfer our vision to the canvas, that is, the masculine principle comes into play. nine0003 Suppression or non-use of one of the types of energy in us leads to one-sided development. Any idea (i.e. female energy) will remain only an idea and will not bear fruit if the dynamics of incarnation (i.e. male energy) is not introduced into it. Similarly, any action (i.e. male energy) is doomed to failure in the end if it is not based on a creative foundation (i.e. female energy). The natural, original role of the inner woman in us is the highest leadership, the role of the inner man is to act in accordance with her intuition and feelings. nine0003 As soon as we come into contact with the woman and man within us, we feel how powerful primordial energy, washing away all obstacles and fears, begins to flow through us. The path to inner freedom goes through growing self-love and acceptance of your feminine and masculine principles. In addition to the above aspects of the feminine and masculine in us, they carry extremely important aspects of gender. They play a huge role in creating our partnerships in particular and between people in general. 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