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Why is labour defined in stages?
While every labour is different, there are 3 distinct stages that can help describe the process of labour and childbirth. Some people consider the recovery period to be a fourth stage.
Defining labour in stages can help your health team know how far along you are, communicate with each other and prepare for what you and your baby need before during and after birth.
These stages all have defining features, such as the length of your contractions and the time between them. However, because every labour is different, it can be difficult for you to know exactly what stage of labour you are in. Your midwife can help you to understand what stage you are going through at any point.
The first stage
The first stage of labour is broken down into three phases.
The first phase of the first stage of labour is called the latent phase. This is the longest phase and can last for many hours or even days. Your cervix becomes thinner and begins to open (dilate) to around 4–6 centimetres in preparation for birth. During this phase, you may have regular or irregular contractions, although they are normally not painful. Some women may not notice their contractions during this phase, since they can be very mild. You can usually stay at home during this phase of labour. Try to rest and relax by doing gentle stretches or by practising mindfulness, meditation or other calming techniques.
The second phase of the first stage of labour is called the active phase. This is when your cervix dilates up to around 8 centimetres. During this phase, your contractions will become stronger and more regular. During this phase, your contractions may be around 3 or 4 minutes apart, with each contraction lasting between 30 to 60 seconds. Most women choose to come to a hospital or birthing centre during this phase.
The third phase of first stage of labour is called the transition phase. During this phase, your cervix becomes fully dilated, meaning that there is an opening of 10 centimetres for your baby to pass through. Towards the end of the first stage of labour, your contractions will become stronger, and you may feel pressure in your bottom or a sensation like you need to go to the toilet. This is caused by your baby pressing on your rectum.
The second stage
Once your cervix is fully dilated, the second stage of labour begins. During the second stage of labour, your uterus contracts powerfully, although your contractions may become more spaced out, to give your body a chance to rest in between. You will need to work with your body to push your baby, and out into the world.
You may feel an urge to push to help your baby be born. This is because the baby’s head is pressing down on your pelvic area. The second stage of labour can last for up to 2 hours, but it can be much quicker than this if this is not your first baby.
The second stage of labour can be painful as well as emotional for you and your partner or support person. There are several different ways to manage pain during this stage, including with medicines and non-medical treatment. It can be helpful to think ahead and discuss your ideas about pain relief with your doctor or midwife during a prenatal visit to make sure that they will be suitable for your circumstances.
The third stage
After your baby is born, the third stage of labour begins. During this stage, the placenta and the membranes that surrounded your baby in your uterus are delivered. Your midwife may ask you to push gently to help with this. You may feel contractions during this stage, but they will not be as strong as the contractions you experienced while birthing your baby.
During this stage of labour, the umbilical cord, which connected your baby to your placenta, is clamped and cut. If you would like the umbilical cord to be left intact, or to be clamped later, you should let your midwife know ahead of time so that they can arrange this. If your birth partner would like to cut the cord, talk to your midwife and add it to your birth plan.
Recovery stage
After labour is complete, you will be able to rest, meet your baby and begin to recover your strength. The midwives in the postnatal ward or birthing centre will monitor you during your recovery, including by checking your pulse rate, blood pressure and temperature. They will feel your abdomen to check the top of your uterus and check that it has started to contract back. They will also look at your perineum to check for bruising and to make sure that you are not bleeding excessively.
Some hospitals or birthing units have a counselling or debriefing service for new mothers and their partners to check on emotional wellbeing after the birth. This is especially important if your labour did not go as expected, or if your baby needs any special care. You can also call Pregnancy, Birth and Baby, 7 days a week on 1800 882 436 to speak with a maternal child health nurse if you have any questions or concerns, or would like to talk with someone about your birth experience.
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Royal Women's (Stages of labour), Queensland government (Stages of Labour- The First Stage of Labour), Royal Australian and New Zealand College of Obstetricians and Gynaecologists (Labour and birth), Queensland government (Stages of Labour - The Third Stage of Labour)Learn more here about the development and quality assurance of healthdirect content.
Last reviewed: February 2022
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Labor & Delivery Tips from an OBGYN for First-Time Moms
Giving birth can be both exciting and terrifying for first-time moms. Just as the rest of your pregnancy has differed from others’, your birth experience will be unique to you and your baby. As you think about the big day when you’ll finally meet your little one, you probably have questions about what to expect!
Here are some of the most common questions I’ve been asked about giving birth for the first time.
Getting Ready for Baby
How important are birthing classes?
Prenatal classes or birthing classes can help you understand what to expect during your labor and delivery. You’ll learn about creating a birth plan, common things that happen in a hospital, and how to manage pain. At Madison Women’s Health, we refer our patients to Unity Point Meriter for prenatal classes. You can begin taking prenatal classes at the start of your second trimester. We recommend completing them before your 37th week of pregnancy.
Prenatal classes can be online or in person. Check with the hospital to see what they currently offer. Prenatal classes typically include a birth center tour. There are classes for singletons and multiples. They are helpful in understanding various things that can happen in labor and delivery that are not common things you see on TV (like ways to monitor your baby’s heart rate and the use of forceps or a vacuum if needed to safely deliver your baby).
Tip: Prenatal classes will help you think of questions you may want to ask your OB during your prenatal check-ups. Keep a list! Classes are a good supplement to your 10-15 minute prenatal visits.
Who can be with me at the birth?
Before the COVID-19 pandemic, there were no restrictions on how many people could be with you during the birth. During any Public Health Emergency, guidelines may change. It’s always a good idea to verify how many people can be there with you.
At the time this article was written, Meriter allowed one support person (in addition to a doula) to be with you. This person can be anyone — your partner, a friend, or a relative. Choose someone who will be supportive and encouraging. Currently, your support person must be the same person throughout the birthing experience. In other words, your support person cannot be your spouse for a few hours, then your mother, and then your sister.
Tip: A doula is considered part of the medical team and is therefore allowed to be involved in your care during the pandemic.
What is the difference between a midwife and a doula?
Midwives have been trained in obstetric procedures. They can interpret fetal monitoring, make recommendations on labor management, and recommend a C-section if it is needed.
Doulas have been trained in the emotional, psychological, and physical support of moms throughout pregnancy, delivery. and postpartum. They have not been medically trained, but their attention and focus on the mom has been shown to improve birth outcomes. Women who use a doula are more likely to have a delivery without pain medications and their labors tend to be shorter.
Tip: A doula does not make medical recommendations or replace your midwife or doctor, but rather they offer extra services and individualized prenatal and labor support
What will the labor and delivery room or birthing room look like?
Our patients deliver their babies at Meriter Hospital, which has large birthing rooms. You’ll appreciate having more space to walk around in early labor or sit on a birthing ball. You’ll be able to control the temperature and dim the lighting. Your room will have a couch, perfect for your support person to nap on if needed.
Tip: Meriter’s birth rooms also include a comfortable tub. While we don’t offer water births (in accordance with ACOG recommendations), water immersion during labor can help with relaxation and easing labor pain.
What should I pack in my hospital bag?
If you have to drop what you’re doing and immediately go to the hospital, they will have all the essentials. I usually tell patients, however, that it’s a good idea to have a bag ready to go around 36 weeks. There are things you will want to help make your stay more comfortable.
Here are some ideas for your hospital bag:
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- Toiletries: Shampoo, conditioner, soap, toothbrush and toothpaste, hair brush, deodorant. While we have these things at the hospital, you’ll probably prefer your own.
- Comfy clothes for you.
- Slippers, socks, or flip-flops.
- Robe and/or nightgown. If you plan to breastfeed, choose a nightgown that opens in the front (although the hospital ones are great for this!)
- Clothes to wear home. Comfortable maternity clothes are usually your best bet. Include a nursing bra if you plan on breastfeeding.
- Going home outfit for your baby. Your baby will be swaddled and diapered during the hospital stay, but most parents want a photo-worthy outfit for the big trip home.l
- Snacks for your partner / your support person. The hospital has a cafeteria (open during the day) and vending machines, but your partner may want to consider anything special they want. Sometimes light snacks are okay in early labor, but we recommend against eating in active labor for safety reasons (and you usually won’t feel like it!).
- Phone charger. Family and friends will want frequent updates and you will fill up your camera roll quickly.
It’s Time!
At what point do I need to go to the hospital? How long should I labor at home?
Most women can spend time in early labor at home. We recommend calling if you have painful contractions every 5 minutes for 1-2 hours to keep us in the loop. Call sooner if your doctor has given you more specific instructions due to medical conditions. If you have had a more complicated pregnancy or if you live far from the hospital, you may be asked to come in sooner. If you think your water has broken, we recommend calling to discuss the best time to come in, which is usually early for safety reasons.
Tip: Everyone has a different pain threshold. A good measure of “painful contractions” means you need to stop and breathe through them without focusing on anything else.
How long is labor for first-time moms?
There are three stages of labor and how long each lasts is very unpredictable for first-time moms. The whole event can last hours or days. Your first labor will be the most unpredictable, while second labors are generally faster.
What are the stages of labor?
Stage 1a: Latent Labor
Contractions during early labor will feel mild, like deep menstrual cramps, and will be irregular. Early labor helps soften, shorten, and thin your cervix. It can start a few days or a few hours before birth.
Stage 1b: Active Labor
During active labor, your contractions become more frequent, regular, and painful. You are considered to be in active labor when your cervix has dilated to 6 cm. The rate of cervical change is more consistent and predictable from this point to “complete” dilation (10 cm). Your doctor will check your cervix to let you know when it’s ok to begin pushing. If you push too soon, before your cervix has fully dilated, you are at risk of tearing your cervix and having significant bleeding.
Stage 2: Pushing Stage / Birth
The second stage is the pushing stage. This stage can last a few minutes or many hours (up to 4 or more if the baby is making progress through the birth canal).
You may think, “how will I know when to push?” If you don’t have an epidural during labor, the urge to push is often very strong. If you have an epidural, you may not notice the urge to push in the same way. We will help you know how and when to push with your contractions.
Stage 3: Placenta Delivery
The placenta generally delivers within 30 minutes of giving birth. We sometimes massage your uterus to help with this (although we say massage, this can be uncomfortable). We strongly recommend every woman receive oxytocin as well. These steps are important to decrease the risk of excess bleeding following delivery.
What should my partner do during labor?
Talk about this with your support person ahead of time so expectations are clear. Some women prefer their partner help with coping with labor pain. Others prefer a more hands off approach. Talk together ahead of time to determine what you are comfortable with.
Tip: Your support person can be supportive in many ways. This can be giving you sips of water and ice chips, holding your hand, being responsible for music, rubbing your back, etc. Do what works best for both of you.
Can I eat and drink while I’m in labor?
If you are undergoing an induction or are at the hospital in early labor, sometimes light snacks are reasonable. A lot of women get nauseous and throw up in labor and are at risk for aspiration, a serious complication. We therefore recommend against eating in active labor. If there’s a possibility of needing a C-section, it is safest to have not had food recently. Most women are not hungry anyway! Water, clear juice, and ice chips are satisfying.
Tip: If you have an I/V, you will be properly hydrated. If your lips get dry from your breathing exercises, ask for some chapstick.
Pain Management
What does giving birth feel like?
Labor pain feels different for everyone, but some general principles include:
- Braxton Hicks contractions — These are common, even as early as the second trimester. You’ll feel your uterus gradually tighten and get soft. This is not painful.
- Early labor — Contractions can feel like strong menstrual cramps lasting 30 to 60 seconds (like a charley Horse in your uterus). Some women feel these contractions in their back.
- Active labor — These are cramps that can’t be described by words. You may feel intense pelvic pressure as you “transition” to 10 cm and your baby descends into the birth canal.
- Pushing stage — Along with the muscle pain of contractions, you will feel stretching and pressure in your vagina.
What are my options to treat labor pain?
Non-Pharmacologic Pain Control:
- Changing positions: You may feel better standing up, resting on your hands and knees, or sitting on a birthing ball. Your body will tell you what is working!
- Taking a warm shower or bath: The warm water can relax tense muscles. Water immersion has been shown to lower pain scores.
- Massage: Your support person, nurse, or doula can massage your back and provide counter pressure during contractions
- Breathing techniques: You’ll learn breathing techniques during your prenatal classes. Staying relaxed and calm helps with pain control.
Pharmacologic Pain Control:
- I/V Narcotic: Some women have good pain relief with an IV or subcutaneous injection of a narcotic medication. We don’t recommend this option if we suspect you will deliver within an hour. This is to let the medication clear from you and your baby’s system before delivery. .
- Epidural: You can request an epidural at any time you are in pain in labor. Some women request an epidural almost immediately, while others choose to have it done later. Medication from an epidural does not transfer to the baby. Learn more FAQs about epidurals for labor pain.
Tip: Each woman has different anatomy and experiences pain differently, so please be careful not to put pressure on yourself to make decisions about your labor based on others experiences. Women who give birth with an epidural have no less of a “natural birth” than someone who did not use pain medication. Each birth is equally as beautiful!
Special Circumstances & Preparing for Unexpected
What about giving birth to twins? How is labor different?
If you’re pregnant with twins, we recommend that you deliver in an operating room instead of the birth room, even if delivered vaginally. While it may not feel as cozy as a birth room, an operating room allows for more room to meet these babies safely. Your OBGYN will counsel prenatally on the safest way to meet your twins, as having two babies at one time comes with more risk than one.
In the United States, the primary Cesarean section (C-section) rate is just over 30%. At Madison Women’s Health, the C-section rate for first-time moms is well under 20%.
What is the likelihood I will need a C-Section?
In the United States, the primary Cesarean section (C-section) rate is just over 30%. At Madison Women’s Health, the C-section rate for first-time moms is well under 20%.
In the United States, the most common reason a woman delivers by C-section is that labor does not progress. In most cases, this is due to cephalopelvic disproportion (when a baby does not fit). The second most common reason is because we see signs a baby is in distress in labor. The recommendation for C-section is made when the benefit of meeting a baby by surgery outweighs the risks.
Tip: Our primary goal in caring for you is a healthy mom and a healthy baby and we will explain our recommendations for that each step of the way. We also want you to have a vaginal birth! We only recommend C-sections if we think the benefit is greater than the risk.
What is an episiotomy? Will I need one?
An episiotomy is a rarely performed medical procedure that involves cutting the perineum to help the baby deliver. Historically, an episiotomy was thought to decrease severity of tearing with delivery. We know through research that letting tearing happen naturally is more beneficial to the mom.
Tip: Episiotomies are only performed in emergency situations, with your consent, when it will help the baby deliver more quickly (a rare occurrence).
Will I tear? How is it treated?
Approximately 90% of women have a vaginal/perineal tear with delivery. Tears are graded as 1st through 4th degree, with 1st as the least amount of tearing. We recommend suturing tears to help them heal appropriately. We do this with stitches that dissolve.
Tip: A new technique, called perineal massage, has been proven to decrease the amount of tearing with delivery.
What about the embarrassing things….like pooping and pubic hair?
Most worry or feel embarrassed about these things, but we don’t even notice!
If you like to wax, I don’t recommend this past the 37th week. We don’t recommend shaving before delivery because it increases your risk of infection. Trust us, we are not paying attention to grooming!
Most women will have a bowel movement in labor or with pushing. This is good! it means you are pushing correctly.
Tip: Trust us. We really don’t care or remember!
Recovery
How long does it take to recover from giving birth?
Every woman is different in how she recovers, too. Postpartum is an awesome time, but also stressful! It is often referred to as the 4th trimester. Your sleep schedule changes, your body changes, and your interpersonal relationships change. If you choose to breastfeed, read up on our breastfeeding tips for new moms.
Vaginal Birth:
Many moms are surprised to know there is still a recovery period. You may have cramping, tailbone pain, and pain as a tear heals. Sometimes sitting and walking are tricky! There are no true lifting restrictions after a vaginal delivery, but I recommend avoiding heavy lifting for about two weeks, especially from the ground. This puts a lot of stress on your pelvic floor as it heals. Helpful tips for going home include sitting on soft surfaces, using a spray bottle after you void, using ice pads, taking ibuprofen and Tylenol, and keeping an area of all the things you will need most to care for you and baby in your home.
C-section:
The recovery from a C-section is longer because it is a major surgery. Wait six weeks before lifting anything greater than 10-15 lbs. We will teach you how to care for your incision in the hospital and will send you home with pain medication.
Final Recommendations
What are your recommendations about giving birth at home?
Home births double your risk of complications, with two times the risk of perinatal mortality and three times the risk of neonatal seizures. We, along with the American Academy of Pediatrics and ACOG, believe the hospital is the safest place to give birth. If you decide to give birth at home, you should have a low-risk pregnancy, the help of a certified midwife, and be reasonably close to a hospital.
Tip: Our first priorities are the health and safety of you and your baby. We will give you information and recommendations about safety and labor so you can make informed decisions throughout the process.
Bring a list of questions to your next OB visit!
Dr. Ashley Durward has been providing healthcare to women in Madison since 2015 and joined Madison Women’s Health in 2019, specializing in high and low risk obstetrics, contraception and preconception counseling, management of abnormal uterine bleeding, pelvic floor disorders, and minimally invasive gynecologic surgery.
I give birth! (9 months // 40 weeks), reviews, schedule and tickets for the performance, production Theatre.doc, Moscow - Afisha-Teatry
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"Male" performance about the most feminine! Sergei Shevchenko, director of the play: “Alexey Kulichkov and I wrote a documentary play – verbatim “9 months//40 weeks”. The play was first performed in the out-of-competition program "Lubimovki" in 2012 and made a splash! Pregnant women were voiced by male actors, it was a risky experiment, but the audience at the discussion was delighted. On the same day, the founders of Theatre.doc, Elena Gremina and Mikhail Ugarov, offered to put on a performance based on our play. The premiere took place on October 20, 2012. Pregnant women, those who gave birth, those who were planning, and those who had doubts came to us. The performance was played for almost 3 seasons with great success. After 4 years, a performance based on the play by Sergei Shevchenko and Alexei Kulichkov "9months//40 weeks”, returns to the stage of the Theatre.doc in an updated version and with a new name “9//40”. The text, scenography, music, team, finale, time have changed, but the theme has remained the same. There are no male roles in the play. The dialogue is between women. But all the roles are played by men. Together with the heroines of the play - pregnant, giving birth, women who have given birth - the authors of the play invite the viewer to go through a path that lasts nine months: the path from the first news of pregnancy to the birth of a child. And at the end try to answer the question that each of us has thought about at least once. Why do we have children? What is it for? The material for the performance was collected from interviews and conversations with pregnant and giving birth women. And also from Internet sites and forums dedicated to childbearing. nine0003
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Duration 11 minutes 20 minutes
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8Sergey Shevchenko
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Dmosov
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Sergei Fisher
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Sergei Shevchenko
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Petr Korolev
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Alexander Userdin
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1 review, 1 rating, rating 0
10
Laughed to tears! Many familiar everyday situations from clinics and hospitals. The emotions of waiting for a child are conveyed in a funny and understandable way. Thank you so much for the emotions, laughter and play👏
August 7, 2022
Nikolai Golenkin
187 reviews, 194 ratings, rating 31
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Was at the performance on 10/08/2021.
Recommended for viewing.
To call this performance exploring the question "why do we give birth to children?", as indicated in the description on the theater's website, in my opinion, is impossible. Rather, he considers the various life situations that develop in the lives of women in the prenatal period. nine0095 It was interesting to watch the play. The action dragged on completely. Unless, the beginning, in my opinion, looked at the level of "consumer goods". It's just that the actors started the performance by flirting with the audience (which, by the way, is very typical for this theater). It is clear that everyone is in a good mood, expecting a small miracle from the performance. But when the actors begin to demand applause in response to their every move or line, I personally find it perplexing.
It is difficult to judge how much the performance was able to touch the hearts of the women present in the hall, and, in particular, women giving birth. It seemed to me that the male actors played very honestly. At least to the small extent that men can feel and understand what mother nature has not given them to feel and understand. nine0003
As the most successful episode of the performance, I would note the remark that pregnant women really want to be able to lie on their stomach, which caused a friendly applause of those who gave birth))! October 12, 2021 It was very interesting to watch the actors play as women in labor😅 Interesting color scheme, all the props and different attributes are made in the same style😉 Look, I highly recommend! Experience the full spectrum of emotions☺️
May 27, 2021
Daria Korbankova
1 review, 1 rating, rating 0
10Brilliant!
It is incredible that such a complex subject can be spoken about so easily. Very concise, funny and at the same time insanely subtle and touching. Excellent actors have done a great job, which causes endless admiration. I want to return to this story again and again❤
May 23, 2021
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1 review, 1 rating, rating 0
10
Insanely funny and touching performance🙌🏻
This feeling when everything is so simple, free and natural, as if you yourself are a part of this story)
Absolutely organic and wonderful acting♥️
Korolev is the best😂
May 21 2021
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Preparing for pregnancy
I started preparing for pregnancy three months before I stopped taking birth control. Together with my husband, we also stopped drinking alcohol, not that we would drink, but we liked to drink cider and cheese on Friday evening. nine0003
Three months passed, and everything worked out on the first try. I really hoped that this would be the case, because two weeks before the positive test, I wrote a letter of resignation (I worked as a doctor in covid).
She quit her job, enrolled in advanced training courses, driving courses. I wanted to spend this time productively.
Also, before pregnancy, I passed only the most necessary tests - iron, TSH, complete blood count, torch infections. I rented it for a fee, on my own, because in general I know the procedure. nine0003
What about the money - I didn’t save money especially for pregnancy, but I had savings, and my husband works.
How the pregnancy went
Was observed in an ordinary city residential complex, free of charge. In the same clinic where I worked, but I didn’t have any privileges from this.
In general, in Moscow, pregnancy management according to CHI includes everything you need, of course, if there is no pregnancy pathology. In this case, I don’t know, maybe more careful control (paid) makes sense. nine0003
My pregnancy went smoothly, there were no problems. I went to school, driving classes. I tried yoga for the first time in my life, started going to the pool and just tried to walk a lot. Plus, I tried to count calories so as not to gain too much. As a result, I gained 9.5 kg, and after 10 days I already weighed as before pregnancy. After 4 months, I weigh another 5 kg less (GW miracles).
Information search
My main knowledge base was from the medical institute. And at the very beginning I read Olga Belokon's book "I'm pregnant, what should I do?" I watched a video on YouTube about breathing in childbirth, newborn care, breastfeeding. The best and most useful videos are on the Comfort baby channel, and Nina Zaichenko has everything about breastfeeding. I tried to start reading another book, but the hair on my head stood on end from the nonsense that was written there and I didn’t read anything else. nine0003
Positive and negative points
Since the pregnancy took place in autumn and winter, due to the loose outer clothing, the obvious belly was not visible until almost the last month. Therefore, I rode the subway standing up, no one yielded. But I rarely used the metro, so it's not scary. The driving instructor was very kind.
Naturally, the first ultrasound images are something unrealistic, to watch how a small dot at the fifth week turns into a little man at the 11th, and then ceases to fit in the sensor field at all. nine0003
I liked being pregnant, watching my belly grow, feeling kicks. Yes, sleeping late is uncomfortable, but tolerable.
Preparing for childbirth
I chose the maternity hospital a long time ago - the 29th name of Bauman, I heard a lot of reviews about him, I was subscribed to their page on a banned social network. She also gave birth according to OMS, they chose partner childbirth.
I thought for a long time whether it was worth taking my husband with me, he also doubted, but I really wanted to have a person nearby who was interested in my comfort. But even more I wanted to share with him the moment of the birth of our child, so that he would get to know her right away, and not at discharge. nine0003
This maternity hospital has courses on preparing for childbirth, in my time these courses were online - 3 days of consultations in zoom - with a psychologist, gynecologist and pediatrician. I practically didn’t learn anything new, but it will be useful for people who are not familiar with medicine.
I started buying clothes at 30 weeks. We bought a crib, a stroller (used at Avito), a chest of drawers, a bath and a changing table from beaba, they have one delivery for both items. I am satisfied with the table, the bath is not the most comfortable. Of the things I bought everything at a minimum: 3-4 slips, bodysuits, sliders; warm overalls, socks, hats, scratches (I wore it only in the maternity hospital), a blanket, diapers. The most useless purchases are vests and scratches. Even bonnets, it is enough for a newborn to wear one under a hat in winter. nine0003
And another big mistake of mine - I immediately bought large packs of diapers. Everything is individual here, so I won’t recommend the brand, but it’s better to take a small pack first to check whether they fit or not.
How was the birth
I gave birth at 38.5 weeks. I started sipping in the morning, I thought it was training. I walked around the house, washed the floors, tidied up, ordered delicious food, ate. In the meantime, the contractions did not go on. I read that if you go to bed or start watching a series, then if these are training contractions, then they will pass. But nothing happened. I was embarrassed that the intervals were different, then 5 minutes, then 10, so I was sure that this was not it. nine0003
But by one in the afternoon, my husband began to worry that I was writhing every 5-8 minutes. He offered to drive to the antenatal clinic. And how will they help if I really give birth? Nothing. Therefore, we went to the maternity hospital, although I was sure that we would be sent home. But by the time they looked at me (it was about three in the afternoon), the dilatation was 2 cm.
My first birth, so no one was in a hurry to put me in the delivery room. I went for an ultrasound scan, they took me to the floor where the delivery rooms are located, the contractions were already every 3 minutes. I sat there in the corridor for another half an hour, then I lay on CTG for about 40 minutes, the contractions were already painful. I tried to breathe, as taught in the video, and this probably helped me. I was transferred to the delivery room, my husband got up to me (for this he passed all the necessary tests in advance, and sat waiting in the car). The contractions were already very strong, I could not stand, my legs were trembling, the interval was a minute. Then I thought that if it hurts so much at two cm, then what will happen at ten? nine0003
But then I started to struggle. The water did not pour out, the bubble was almost whole to the end. My husband ran to call at least someone (everyone was sure that I still had a long time to give birth, and I just panicked, so the midwife came very rarely). The doctor came, looked, said that full disclosure, giving birth. And at 18:36, in three and a half hours, I gave birth.
Expenses
Pregnancy and childbirth - free of charge, only tests at the very beginning and the very first ultrasound were paid - 5-7 thousand. nine0003
I spent a maximum of 10 thousand on things for myself, bought several pairs of maternity leggings, one pair of jeans and nursing bras. I didn’t buy clothes, because I wear oversized clothes and fit into my usual clothes.
For a child, all purchases before birth came out to about 120 thousand, then I bought more along the way and still buy more. We switched to 62 clothing sizes at 2 months, to 68 at 4 months. About 4,000 thousand per month are spent on diapers, the rest of the expenses are insignificant.