How to unadopt a child in skyrim

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If you've been playing a decent amount of Skyrim, you may have noticed that children are annoying. Really annoying. However, while trying to bash one of the little snots into the ground to teach him some manners, I noticed that they're invulnerable to damage.

Obviously, they're witches, or at the very least cheaters. Is there a console command to make them less invincible? If not, is there one that will shut them up?

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Console commands are too much effort.

Fortunately for us, there's a mod. The Killable Children mod:

Allows the children of Skyrim to die. Affects the Breton, Imperial, Nord and Redguard children.

You can download it from Nexus Mods here. (Note that Nexus Mods requires you to sign up for a free account for age verification purposes, I believe.)

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Open the console (` by default).
Type in help <kidsNameGoesHere> 4. You'll see a list of ID's, one of them will say something like:
_NPC (somenumberswillbehere) kid'sname
Next type in SetEssential <thenumbersfrombefore> 0 at the console and hit ↲ Enter.
Replace with the kid's npcID, and he should be killable, unless Bethesda implemented their invulnerability in a unique way.

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The mods, Killable children V2 and Killable and Lootable Children allow killing of children, but at the same time, setting as unkillable or 'essential', certain quest-related children, preventing bugs and avoiding missing some quests, which is like the vanilla Skyrim behavior where certain quest-related NPCs can not be killed.

The Killable and Lootable Children mod also allows you to loot children, and makes the 'essential' children, 'non-essential' when their related quests are finished.

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Just click on the person or child while your console is open (~) then type SetEssential 0. Don't type npcid manually or you'll get errors most of the time. I have noticed that a lot of npcids are different between the 360 and PC version while some are still the same, so just click to target then type command without the need for the npcid specification.

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You can kill children in the PC version of skyrim by changing their races in the setrace commend. once you change them you can be able to kill them with the kill command to not get a bounty. this works if you want to kidnap a child WITHOUT teleporting. or you can download a mod that doesnt require doing this process.

Just dual wield the spell "Raise Zombie" and cast it on the kid, they just crumble into ash.

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Skyrim talk:Adoption - The Unofficial Elder Scrolls Pages (UESP)

Contents

• 1 Moving adopted children
• 2 Books as Gifts
• 3 Can't Adopt Child
• 4 Adopted Child Won't Accept Gift - Item is Too Heavy?
• 5 Moving Children on the PC?
• 6 Dead Parents Bug
• 7 Unadopting children?
• 8 just curius
• 9 The breezehome bug
• 10 Stalking adopted child Bug
• 11 clothes
• 12 Not being able to adopt
• 13 Gifting stolen items?
• 14 New orphans not moving to orphanage
• 15 Two?
• 16 Nekkid kids?!?
• 17 Other animals.
• 18 Additional Conversation
• 19 Barefoot Kid
• 20 Children not adopting Meeko (dog)

Moving adopted children[edit]

This may be a possible bug. My family currently lives in Lakeview Manor in Falkreath but I now wish to relocate them to Solitude. My spouse Revyn Sadri has the dialogue option to move to another house (Despite a bug occurring in which all he says is, "The sky is so dark! What can this mean?" over and over again from the Dawnguard add-on), but neither Sofie nor Runa Fair-Shield, my adoptive children have the option to move despite having the children's bedrooms in Proudspire Manor available. Has this happened to anyone else and is there a way of fixing it? Thelisaraptor (talk) 17:59, 14 May 2013 (GMT)

By having the option for them to move, do you mean they don't have the dialougue option? The way I'm reading this, you're asking your husband to move and then looking to ask your children to move. If so, don't worry about it. Your children will automatically move with your husband to Solitude. If your husband is moving without your children, then there may be a bug.--WoahBro (talk) 19:13, 14 May 2013 (GMT)

Books as Gifts[edit]

Children will also accept certain books as gifts. The ones I am aware of so far are "The Yellow Book of Riddles" and "A Children's Anuad". I edited the article accordingly. — Unsigned comment by 98.15.208.227 (talk) at 21:17 on 17 May 2013

Thanks for adding that. The full lists seem to be here and here for male and female children, respectively. Someone may want to look into verifying items on the lists and posting it somewhere in a short/neat way if possible. — ABCface^◥ 21:27, 17 May 2013 (GMT)

Yeah, I'd like to get them done, always feel responsible for this page~ Dreamshadow (talk) 23:07, 17 May 2013 (GMT)

Although I didn't find them in the list, you can still give your children DLC daggers(Dragonbone, Nodic, Stallrim...) as a gift. Special daggers not in the list can't be given(such as Blade of Woe, Mehrunes' Razor). Checked in game. Dreamshadow (talk) 00:01, 18 May 2013 (GMT)

Can't Adopt Child[edit]

I have Lakeview Manor, and i built a single bed and a dresser, but at Honorhall, i'm still told my house isn't suitable. Any suggestions? — Unsigned comment by 50.54.217.79 (talk) at 22:24 on 4 June 2013

Have you tried building a child's bedroom and furnishing it with at least a child's bed and chest? I know it says that you don't have to have one to adopt, but it's worth a try. --Xyzzy ^Talk 06:16, 4 July 2013 (GMT)

Adopted Child Won't Accept Gift - Item is Too Heavy?[edit]

I recently (and finally) adopted a child on one of my files. It was the flower girl from Windhelm. But whenever I try to give her an item, it always displays any item as grey and the message pops up in the top left telling me that the item is too heavy to carry. Is her inventory full or is this a bug?

(EDIT) I found the bug on Sofie's page. -Light-in-His-Eyes (talk) 01:39, 5 June 2013 (GMT)

Yeah, I'm sure you can get some help from that page. Dreamshadow (talk) 01:56, 5 June 2013 (GMT)

Theres a bugged script that keeps adding baskets without removing them, ergo she can't carry anymore, if you're on a PC you can use the console command

<select NPC>

removeitem d955a 9999

to remove them from her inventory — Unsigned comment by 5. 68.67.0 (talk) at 01:53 on 8 November 2013‎

Moving Children on the PC?[edit]

So I decided I wanted to move my kids from Windstad to Windhelm for a bit, but when I moved their father to the city they seemed to stay back at the manor, I waited a day, or two and they never really appeared at Hjerim. My husband is Deerkethus (I think I just screwed up his name.) So he's a follower or can be a follower right now I have him staying home. Is this some type of bug or was I just not patient?

99.59.172.157 20:53, 18 June 2013 (GMT)

It may be a bug, as there is a reported bug about your spouse not relocating with you. If you can verify that, at this time, they still haven't moved to your new home, then we should expand the existing bug listing to include the kids. --Xyzzy ^Talk 06:07, 4 July 2013 (GMT)

Same problem here. I've tried to move my family (Sylgja, Sofie and Lucia) from Lakeview to Solitude, my wife has moved but my daughters haven't. I have waited many days and tried every dialog option with them, to no avail. Strange thing is, when I speak to them they answer as if they actually were in Solitude ("Do you think I could be a Bard?" etc.), and my wife doesn't have the dialog option "How are the kids?". I play on the PC, latest patch installed. --82.60.53.14 08:35, 21 July 2013 (GMT)

Ok. I added the bug to the article. Can either of you try to move your spouse back to the old home, then ask him/her to move again to your desired home to see if that fixes it? --Xyzzy ^Talk 14:49, 21 July 2013 (GMT)

Dead Parents Bug[edit]

I have come across a rather nasty bug if adopting a child off the street whose parents have just been killed.(confirmed for Dorthe in Riverwood and Erith in Left Hand Mine and possibly Svari in Solitude) Instead of going to your home they sometimes go to the orphanage. The problem is the game thinks you have already used one adoption option so you will always be unable to adopt a 2nd child. (you can adopt them again but will count as 2nd adoption) — Unsigned comment by 94.9.177.164 (talk) at 04:39 on 7 July 2013

Not really a bug, they are supposed to go to the orphanage first, then you adopt them. Silence is Golden^{Break the Silence} 04:59, 7 July 2013 (GMT)

If the dialogue option to let you adopt the brand-new orphan appears and proceeds normally, but results in the supposedly-adopted child immediately leaving you and going to Honorhall, then I would call it a bug, with the fix being "make sure you let the kid go to Honorhall before attempting to adopt them." --Xyzzy ^Talk 05:29, 7 July 2013 (GMT)

I had a variation on this. I adopted Sissel in Rorikstead immediately after Lemkil's death, and at first she went to Proudspire Manor in Solitude as she was supposed to. Later (after killing Grelod), I wanted to move her to Lakeview Manor, but couldn't find her for love nor money; after giving up and moving directly to her location with the console, I found that she was in Honorhall. Her dialogue when I approached her was the same as if she hadn't been adopted, but when I actually spoke to her, I had all the usual options for an adopted child. First I told her that it was time to go home, then that we were moving to a new house; she was there waiting for me when I returned to Lakeview, and I was later able to adopt Sofie (so the game didn't consider me to have adopted Sissel twice). Shahrazad the Listener (talk) 16:38, 23 June 2018 (UTC)

Unadopting children?[edit]

Is there any way of undoing the adoption of a kid (as in, it returns to his or her previous state, and you have a free slot for adoption)? Guess I picked the wrong orphan for my current roleplay, so, yeah...

Thanks!

Erior (talk) 14:25, 31 August 2013 (GMT)

No, not in an unmodified game. So if you're on Xbox or PS3, you're out of luck. If you are on PC, there may be a way via console commands or through modding, though I wouldn't know how myself. — ABCface^◥ 17:26, 31 August 2013 (GMT)

I'd be intereted in knowing how to console command it, then; thanks for the answer in any case! Erior (talk) 18:46, 31 August 2013 (GMT)

You can try this series of console commands:

click on the child and type SetFactionRank xx004290 0 (xx being Hearthfires load order number) to remove the child from the faction allowing an open slot to adopt again

Then, to reset the adoption quest to gain another child you need to:

stopquest BYOHRelationshipAdoptable

resetquest BYOHRelationshipAdoptable

setstage BYOHRelationshipAdoptable 0

stopquest BYOHRelationshipAdoptableOrphanage

resetquest BYOHRelationshipAdoptableOrphanage

setstage BYOHRelationshipAdoptableOrphanage 0

setstage BYOHRelationshipAdoptableOrphanage 100

You will have to select the child and type SetFactionRank xx004290 1 again to make them adoptable.

Not sure if it exactly works (gathered this from another forums) as I have only ever adopted children from mods and do not have Multiple Adoptions mods installed. --Anubis Priest (talk) 15:59, 14 October 2018 (UTC)

I just did this to reset Francois's adoption status after he developed an extremely annoying bug (running up and forcing dialogue every time we made eye contact, and he did not stop after I dismissed my pet). I moved him back to the orphanage, but he doesn't have his usual unadopted dialogue; instead, he's switched to using the default newly-orphaned dialogue. It may have been just as well, because he's still running up to me every time we make eye contact, only he can no longer force dialogue. Also, I tried to use SetFactionRank to make Aventus Aretino adoptable, but it just disabled his dialogue entirely.

EDIT: And...when the rest of the family moved house, Francois still moved with us, even though I'd disowned him. --Shahrazad the Listener (talk) 22:47, 11 October 2019 (GMT)

All right, I just used this chain of commands to unadopt a child and allow myself to adopt a different one, but when the new child asked if I had a place for her to live, the only answer was "No, I don't", when I should have still had a bed free in Proudspire. Moving my family to Breezehome didn't help. And then I realized that resetting the adoption quest had removed the children's bedrooms from both houses. Once I re-purchased the bedrooms, I was able to go back and adopt her, but then she never showed up at Breezehome. When I went back to where I'd first found her, she only had generic child dialogue and I had to run through the full list of above console commands (including setfactionrank) to make her adoptable again...and the exact same thing happened. I tried "setfactionrank 25", to match the children I'd already adopted - nothing doing. I tried adopting a different child - the same thing happened. I've managed to setfactionrank him back to the usual orphan dialogue, but I don't get the dialogue options to adopt him. I think I've gotten locked out of ever adopting another child. --Shahrazad the Listener (talk) 02:10, 5 December 2019 (GMT)

Also, I think the above chain of events led to the game becoming unplayable/requiring a complete reinstall on my next save file. Right before all my save files were corrupted, my character was trying to talk to one of her children, and first only had two dialogue options and then had no dialogue options at all, only generic dialogue. So, uh, don't screw around with this stuff the way I did. --Shahrazad the Listener (talk) 17:45, 8 March 2020 (GMT)

just curius[edit]

If you kill braiths parents, adopt her, then move to whiterun, will she say that bit about braith being a bully? — Unsigned comment by 70.210.10.100 (talk) at 02:58 on 15 October 2013

No, one of the conditions for that line of dialogue is that it's not her saying it. — ABCface^◥ 03:23, 15 October 2013 (GMT)

The breezehome bug[edit]

I still get the bug where you can't build either the Alchemy Laboratory or the Child's bedroom (though Proventus will still take your money). I get around it by manually enabling and disabling the codes for the room, but it doesn't flag the house as being "adoption-ready" despite having the requisite items. What else do I need to do to make it move-in ready? Also, this bug extends to all the base houses, so the only way I'm able to adopt children is to build one of the three hearthfire houses. 68.196.61.47 14:46, 28 October 2013 (GMT)

According to the Breezehome article, it is fixed by the Unofficial Hearthfire Patch. That's probably going to be the best way to fix it. Barring that, there may be some other console commands that will make the house adoption ready, but I don't know what they are. --Xyzzy ^Talk 03:43, 29 October 2013 (GMT)

Stalking adopted child Bug[edit]

"Your child may follow you around, constantly forcing dialog with you", This has happened te me after i came home with a pet from kagrumez (DB dlc - dwarven spider or sphere), i dismissed the pet and things seem to be normal now. I also had a follower that i kept. — Unsigned comment by 82.66.200.28 (talk) at 17:33 on 9 January 2014

Try this: open the console click on her and type

setav variable06 0 <enter>

setav variable07 0 <enter> — Unsigned comment by H.L.Caerdic (talk • contribs) at 00:44 on 11 June 2015

clothes[edit]

If you give your kids new clothes, will they wear them? KaidaThyme (talk) 20:11, 14 January 2014 (GMT)

From what I've seen, yes. Every time I give my daughter a new dress, she changes to it immediately. --Xyzzy ^Talk 22:46, 14 January 2014 (GMT)

Not being able to adopt[edit]

So if I am reading it right, I may not be able to adopt children if my steward and bard sleep in their beds? Even if I adopt them with a different house and move them am I still unable to have them live in my first house? I0brendan0 (talk)

You can adopt up to two children as long as you have a children's bedroom in at least one house. Any of the three houses you build, you would need to have built the bedroom wing, or you can convert your alchemy lab room into a children's bedroom in any of the other cities, except Proudspire in Solitude, as you can ADD the children's bedroom as an extra room to the left of your bedroom, on the top floor here. To build or convert any of these alchemy rooms, speak to the steward in the Jarl's house/palace (the same as furnishing any room). Once you have adopted them you will only be able to ask your spouse to move to a house with a children's bedroom. So you would never be able to move your wife to Solsthreim for instance, as you can't build a children's bedroom there. Have fun with them, they can be fun if you interact with them. Biffa (talk) 03:31, 29 April 2014 (GMT)

I have Windstad Manor and I have Valdimar Sven and (Recently deceased Sonir) in my house when I tried to adopt. It said I couldn't so I looked at this page. I was like aw crap. So I killed sonir(I really didn't need her) and I don't know if I still can't adopt. I also can't make the bedrooms so that option is down the drain. What I'm asking is can I adopt children using another house as the one to get pass the check to see if I can adopt and then move them to Windstad manor? I0brendan0 (talk)

You can adopt by having a bedroom elsewhere, however if you don't have the bedroom wing at Windstad Manor, you won't be able to move them or your spouse there, once you adopt. Hope is helps. Biffa (talk) 02:23, 30 April 2014 (GMT)

Not really but I suppose that's how it's going to have to be. I0brendan0 (talk)

Marry your steward and don't hire a bard and the problem is solved. The steward will sleep in the master bed with you, leaving both the small beds free for your children. That said, this obviously won't work if you're already married. --Shahrazad the Listener (talk) 23:59, 2 July 2018 (UTC)

Gifting stolen items?[edit]

Can you do it? Or will they only accept legally acquired gifts? Obax (talk) 04:50, 12 January 2015 (GMT)

Simply yes they'll accept them. Biffa (talk) 12:33, 14 January 2015 (GMT)

New orphans not moving to orphanage[edit]

BACKGROUND: I have 2 adopted children living in Riften, Sofie and Lucia, though I needlessly asked the lady left at Honorhall for permission to adopt. She congratulates me about my adopting. I'm on ps3 so no unofficial patches installed. I installed the DLC after starting my current game. I also have Fjotra following me from Heart of Dibella quest. When I killed Lemkil (see below) I used my power as Thane to waive my crimes.

PROBLEM: I killed Lemkil in Rorikstead and his children Sissel and Britte are still running around the village after 2 game days. Should I wait longer? Or has one of the things noted above broken it? I tried killing Tormir in Darkwater Crossing and her child Hrefna won't leave either. kailomonkey

I read the adoption page again and realised "They will be moved to Honorhall Orphanage in Riften and can be adopted from there provided you haven't already adopted two children. " might not have been stating the obvious about not adopting more than 2 children, and may have been suggesting that new orphans aren't moved to Honorhall if you have filled both adoption slots. I'd suggest rewording if this is the case. However...

I started a new game and met all the possible requirements and still no new orphans are being moved for me. Perhaps it's because I killed the parent? I'm giving up. If it's not a condition I'm missing that's not yet recorded then it's an instance of a bug or something. kailomonkey

I may be talking to myself here but I read elsewhere that the children listed as possible new orphanage orphans won't move there if you are their parent's cause of death. It also read that paying a fine immediately and calming the child could fix the new orphan for adopting but I am yet to achieve this. If any of this can be confirmed it would be useful information I think. --Kailomonkey (talk) 15:31, 4 February 2015 (GMT)

I don't remember how long it took, but I have, on more than one occasion, killed Lemkil and later found Sissel and Britte in the orphanage. Then again, I wasn't caught killing Lemkil; I either killed him from ambush or cast Frenzy on him and let the guards kill him. Maybe being caught killing the parent(s) is an important part of the bug. Shahrazad the Listener (talk) 16:43, 23 June 2018 (UTC)

Is it two in total or two per house? – Dragon Guard  ^(talk) 20:21, 8 April 2015 (GMT)

Two total. You can have a family in more than one house. Jeancey (talk) 20:28, 8 April 2015 (GMT)

Nekkid kids?!?[edit]

Just thought I'd mention this, dunno if it would qualify as a bug or not, but I just got home to Breezehome after a long time away, and my kid had no clothes on! Though she was at least armed with the dagger I gave her... I had previously given her a dress of some sort, so I went and looked in her chest. It had two dresses, I assume the one she was wearing originally plus the one I gave her. I was able to re-give her a dress and she put it right on. I just found this a bit alarming. Then again, I guess kids will be kids... Obax (talk) 01:16, 10 May 2015 (GMT)

It's a bug that can happen to any child once Hearthfire is installed, so its listed on the Children page. Silence is Golden^{Break the Silence} 01:25, 10 May 2015 (GMT)

Other animals.[edit]

If I go to Ft. Dawnguard and buy an armored troll, is there a console command I can use to give it to an adopted kid?

For that matter, how about horses--an armored troll would be cooler, but what kid doesn't want a horse? — Unsigned comment by 121.159.60.241 (talk) at 09:15 on 31 August 2015

Additional Conversation[edit]

moving around the basement of Lakeview Manor, was standing on the grinding table and overheard daughter say "I'm not allowed to stand on furniture." unknown if confined to this house or girl script only. — Unsigned comment by 208.53.115.151 (talk) at 04:14 on 16 November 2018

I had this happen before I adopted any kids, so it is not confined to your daughters or Lakeview Manor. I think it was Dorthe in Riverwood, but can't swear to that.24.159.122.98 05:47, 27 January 2019 (UTC)

Barefoot Kid[edit]

I adopted Alesan and gave him a new tunic. He put it on immediately, and as soon as he did, he was barefoot. I reloaded and tried giving him a different color tunic, and it happened again. Someone in the talk pages said that when kids lose their shoes because of a new outfit, they'll get their shoes back after a few days. Is that true? And shouldn't this be in the bug list?24.159.122.98 05:44, 27 January 2019 (UTC)

I can confirm this. O-a11y ^Talk 21:04, 4 August 2020 (UTC)

Children not adopting Meeko (dog)[edit]

I had Meeko follow me to my house, then my kids didn't ask to adopt him. One of my kids has Cotton the bunny, maybe that is the problem? I've tried waiting, telling Meeko to go away, and leaving/entering the house. Anyone else had this problem? Help please! Btw, my family is currently living in Lakeview Manor. — Unsigned comment by 76.183.115.84 (talk) at 15:02 on 26 May 2019

I have the same situation. Sofie found a rabbit, but Alesan has no pet. When I take a husky or Meeko to my home (also Lakeview Manor), Alesan does not ask to adopt it. Is this a bug or expected behavior? The page makes it sound as though you can have two pets at your Hearthtfire home: a wild pet that a child found and a dog that you brought home. If the actual situation is that your kids can have a single pet between the two of them and your character can have an animal follower, that's something different, and the page should be clarified. Because if your animal follower is not a pet, then it has different behavior: namely, that it will return to its place of origin when released rather than remaining at your home. Valeria (talk) 20:34, 5 August 2020 (UTC)

The children will ask to adopt your follower pet if there isn't one in the house, but the child's personal pet is something they acquire on their own (had a daughter bring home an tiny white fox, it's very cute). I read somewhere you can move one child to a new home without a follower pet present, then they will ask about adopting the follower pet. And if you move them back, the pet should remain in that second home. 73.110.45.84 09:10, 1 February 2021 (UTC) -Mode7Ghost

Hearthfire. How to adopt a child in Skyrim (guide) - Elder Scrolls V: Skyrim, The - Games - Gamer.ru: social network for gamers The addition expanded the social capabilities of the hero. For example, it became possible to build your own house, adopt children and create your own orphanage.

This post is all about the children of Skyrim and their adoption.

First, a little information about children in general, then details about each child who can be adopted, and the bugs noticed in connection with this. nine0003

1. CHILDREN OF SKYRIM

In the Skyrim game, you can only find children of human races: Bretons, Nords, Imperials and Redguards. You won't find Altmer, Bosmer, Dunmer, Orc, Argonian, or Khajiit children anywhere.

Children have neither spells nor any abilities. But they are absolutely invulnerable and never participate in battles, running away at the first sounds of battle. Yes, in Skyrim you can talk and interact with children through quests and various games (for example, play tag or hide and seek), but it is impossible to kill. And yet there is no way to commit pickpocketing, although you can see, sneaking up, what things the child has with him. This is done so that the developers cannot be accused of creating a "simulation of killing children." For the same reason, mods that make it possible to kill children are not accepted on the Steam Workshop. However, there is a "death scream" sound in the game that the game plays if a child is killed using a mod. And no matter how the “fans of realism” ask, the developers will never introduce the murder of children, if only because there are countries where legal showdowns are a sport that brings a lot of fines to those game developers who follow their clients’ lead. nine0003

Also, the game does not provide the ability to create a child character, although of course with the help of console commands or mods this is feasible.

2. WHO CAN BE ADOPTED IN THE GAME

You can go to the "Noble Orphanage" in Riften, and contact Constance Michel in the orphanage. The latter, if anyone does not remember, as a result of completing the Innocence Lost quest - to help orphans get rid of the despot-educator - becomes the "manager" of the orphanage. If the quest has not yet been completed, or you have decided to win back the “good” Dovakin and abandoned the dark brotherly line, then you will not succeed in adopting children from the orphanage, since the mischievous old woman Grelod the Kind does not even want to discuss the issue of adoption. nine0003

In addition to the children who were previously in the orphanage, after installing the Hearthfire add-on, children who were orphaned during the passage of the game (i.e. whose parents were killed) are placed there, but only after the death of Grelod. From where and can be adopted/adopted by the player character.

Aventus Aretino cannot be adopted as he will never return to the orphanage.

The addition also introduces individual orphans, whom you can meet in different cities and villages.

Below I will list all the children, both from the shelter and the vagrants and hard workers that you can adopt, as well as known bugs and ways to fix them.

Boys.

- Alisan, redguard, dunstar.

Alisan is the only child you can meet in Dawnstar. His father was a sailor, and on his last voyage to Skyrim he took him with him. On the way, the father fell ill, and the captain ordered to land him ashore with his son. A few days later, his father died, and Alisan was left alone in a cold land. He earns his living by delivering food to miners from the Mercury and Iron mines. You can meet him at work cleaning baskets, while working in the garden for the Peak of the Wind Tavern, or in the city when he runs past you. nine0003

Advice against bugs: Don't put Alysan in the Warm Winds house in Whiterun. Otherwise, Lydia, who is your Whiterun Huscarl, will loop Alysan with her auto-actions, which will endlessly enter and exit through the front doors. This can be fixed by contacting the boy and telling him to take care of him, or by eliminating Lydia, but it is better not to settle him in Whiterun at all.

- Blaise, Breton, Cattle's farm near Solitude.

Blaze's parents served in the imperial army and were killed in an ambush by the Stormcloaks. Kattla, the owner of a farm near Solitude, said she would feed him if he was useful to her, so the boy takes care of horses and runs errands. He sleeps outside in a pile of hay in a stable and says he is “tired of sleeping outside next to horses. I wish I had a real home, real parents.” After finding out these details, you can adopt him, and the child will run on his own to the house you specified with a nursery and a chest. nine0003

- Francois Beaufort, Imperial, "Noble Orphanage" in Riften.

His parents left him at the orphanage about a year ago, and the boy believes that they will come back and take him away as promised. However, apparently, he was simply abandoned. After Grelod the Good is killed, he, along with other orphans, will rejoice and triumph. Like many children of Skyrim, the boy has a set of food and toys and a small amount of gold with him. His daily routine is no different from all children, and he can always be found inside the shelter. nine0003

No bugs were noticed during adoption.

- Samuel, Imperial, "Noble Orphanage" in Riften.

Nothing is known about his history. After Grelod the Good is killed, he, along with other orphans, will rejoice and triumph.

No bugs were noticed during adoption.

- Hroar, Nord, "Noble Orphanage" in Riften.

Nothing is known about his parents. He prides himself on the fact that his name is like a lion's roar. He is unhappy that Grelod the Good is preventing his adoption, although he says that he would be the "best son" in a new family. He approves of the plans of Aventus Aretino, and when Grelod the Good is killed, he triumphs along with the other orphans of the orphanage. nine0003

No bugs were noticed during adoption.

Girls.

- Lucia, Imperial, Whiterun.

Lucia can be found after installing the DLC in Whiterun, most often near the Temple of Kynareth, under the Goldenleaf tree, where she sits on one of the benches.

You can find her from 8.00 to 20.00 near Golden Leaf, from 20.00 to 00 in the Prancing Mare tavern, at midnight she goes to the backyard of the hotel and sleeps on the ground until 8.00.

She has a Beggar's Quest associated with her, so you can give her a gold coin and get a Gift of Mercy. nine0003

No bugs found.

- Sophie, Nord, Windhelm.

A girl wanders the streets of Windhelm selling flowers in flower baskets. She is an orphan, her mother died when she was very young, and her father disappeared in the civil war between the Stormcloaks and the Imperial Legion. From 8 am to 5 pm, she will sell flowers at the back gate of Windhelm. After 5:00 p.m., she can usually be found sitting at the New Gnisis Club. At 8:00 pm, she heads to the room at the back of the Niraniya House and sleeps until 8:00 am. nine0003

Sophie, like the rest of Windhelm, has a lot of bugs.

- If you do not buy all the items she sells from her before adoption, you will not be able to give her gifts and change clothes later, as all her flower baskets will remain in the inventory.

- If all the other children, after the adoption dialogue, run on their own to your house, which has a children's room, then Sophie will remain standing even if you approach her many times. However, she will be considered adopted, and you will not be able to take another child instead. nine0003

- If you adopted Sophie before the capture of Windhelm for the Imperials, then after the capture, she may disappear from your home. In this case, you need to select the option "let's move to another house" in a conversation with another child or spouse. After the move, Sophie should appear in a new place.

- If you have lost Sophie, you can call her through the console. To do this, type prid xx004031 (where xx is the sequence number in which you installed the Hearthfire DLC), then moveto player to move it to the estate. nine0003

- Rune Strong Shield (English "Runa Fair-Shield"), Nord, "Noble Orphanage" in Riften.

Nothing is known about her parents. At the orphanage, when you first meet, she tells you in detail about a boy named Aventus Aretino, who ran away from the orphanage. After the murder of Grelod the Good, she rejoices along with other children, and says to the hero: “By killing one person, you immediately solved so many problems for others. It’s very interesting what awaits you ahead”, as if hinting at the “dark brotherly” future of the hero. nine0003

Unfortunately, the skins of children are very uniform, and it is impossible to find any individuality in them, except that the Bretons and Imperials are brunettes, and the Nord girls are blondes. Even Retgard Alisan is a copy of any Imperial boy.

3. TERMS OF ADOPTION

Once Hearthfire is installed, a messenger may send you an adoption letter.

In order to adopt a child, you must, firstly, have your own house, and, secondly, this house must have a children's room. If this is a house you built, then you cannot move the child into it until a chest appears in the nursery in which the child will store his things. nine0003

The easiest way, in my opinion, is to create a nursery in your house in Solitude: after contacting the Jarl's assistant, the door to the new room simply appears on the third floor next to your bedroom. In most other houses, you are offered to replace the alchemy laboratory with a nursery.

It is not necessary to be married.

If you decide to adopt a child from an orphanage, you should contact Constance Michel. She will be delighted and will answer: “Yes, of course! What a wonderful surprise!” If you ask her what needs to be done for this, she will ask the name and occupation of the character. Interestingly, if you call yourself an assassin or a thief, then she will be outraged by "such jokes", and if you are an adventurer or a mercenary, then she will only say "Hmm ...". Obviously, the title of Archmage of Winterhold, Harbinger of the Companions or Dragonborn will inspire more confidence in you. nine0003

If you have houses equipped with a children's room, then a list of these houses will appear during the conversation. The same option will appear on the first adoption dialogue with any orphan in Skyrim. After you select one of the houses, there will be no choice, and the second child will automatically be sent there. However, later you can move your family to any house with an equipped children's room.

After that, Constance Michele will congratulate you and send you to choose a child: “Go meet the children and choose the one you would like to adopt. After you make a decision, I will pack their things and make sure they are in your house.” nine0003

However, if you don't have a suitable place to live, she will say, “. ..Let's be objective... You are an adventurer. This is not the safest and most reliable profession. I need to be sure that the child will grow up in a safe and secure home. Show me that you can take care of a child. Buy a house. Furnish it with furniture. Then come back and we'll talk."

After her consent, you can talk to the orphans living in the orphanage and ask them to tell about themselves, or offer them adoption. If you don't have your own home, then the adoption dialog for foster children won't even appear. If you talk to an orphan from the street, then the dialogue will take the form: "I have a house, but there is no room for you" - "Oh, okay ... Thanks anyway, I'll think about it." nine0003

4. COMMUNICATION WITH ADOPTED CHILDREN

- Gifts. When the child settles in your house, you will have the opportunity to give him gifts and play with him. You can give him "boy/girl clothes" and then he will change into it. You can give him sweets like honey, sweet roll or cakes. Girls can be given a doll, boys - a wooden sword.

- Magic. If you use magic next to a child, he will ask you to make him invisible, but since there is no way in the game to impose invisibility on another character, you cannot do this, and the child will be upset. nine0003

- Games. In the dialogue with the child, the options “let's play” appear (then you can play hide and seek or tag) and “go play outside”. If it is dark outside, then the child, although he will go out through the front door, will not appear on the street, and may disappear until the morning. In Solitude, he never joins children running down the street to play tag or hide and seek with them.

- You can ask your child to "get busy".

- Pets. Foster children can bring into your home and keep as pets different creatures. It can be rabbits, foxes, mud crabs, skeevers and even frost spiders. If you want to kill a pet, the child will try to stop you and say “Leave me / him alone!”, And if you kill him, he will be offended and say “I will not talk to you anymore!”. nine0003

5. BLESSINGS

Embrace of Love: Your skills grow by 15% faster for 8 hours (same as Lover's Stone, but with a time limit). nine0003

"Mother's Love": Healing spells and potions restore more health by 25% for 8 hours.

When you give a child any gift, you get the blessing "Gift of mercy" (+10 to eloquence for 1 hour).

6. ACHIEVEMENTS

When you adopt your first child, you get the achievement:

What to do if the child does not come home before night

When this happens for the first time, parents usually panic: the news channels are full of reports of kidnapped, taken away, attacked children. Practicing family psychologist Katerina Demina tells how not to lose self-control in situations where the child does not sleep at home, and what to do so that they do not happen again. nine0003

Instead of calmly and moderately annoyedly thinking: “Again, this dunce played with a friend until he lost his sense of time,” we immediately imagine his mangled body on the table in the dissecting room. We are so arranged, nothing can be done. Maybe if we had lived for 25 years without social upheavals, the ability to reason sensibly would have taken root in our minds, but we live by what we have.

So, your child did not appear at the threshold of his home at ten in the evening and does not answer calls. Your actions? nine0003

9-12 years old. If you know who your child has been friends with lately, call him, or better, his parents. It may very well be that the phone is in the briefcase on silent mode, and the children really got carried away with the game. To do this, you must maintain good neighborly relations with the parents of classmates, class teachers and the school secretary from the very first grade. I had several pre-infarction conditions when the youngest did not come on time from lessons. The last chain of calls looked like this: a cool lady - the chairman of the parent committee - the mother of the girl with whom my daughter left school - the grandfather of this girl, who took both of them to the park for a walk. A kind soul, this grandfather, first took them to a pizzeria, then to the park for two hours, then they went to Katya's house, and for all these five hours the adult never once thought to ask if mother knew where her daughter was. But Lizka did not think to call me, because she was "accompanied". The detection time of the object is 21. 00, the number of burned nerve cells is approximately five billion. nine0003

12-14 years old. If the child is already so old that he goes everywhere by himself, he stopped bringing friends home two years ago, and he is in a “everything is complicated” relationship with you, then prevention. Choose a quiet moment, ask if he understands how much you are worried. If the answer is “yes”, then you can draw up an agreement: we trust you, we don’t get to the bottom of where you are and with whom (in fact, we get to the bottom, only in more cunning ways), in Moscow, in fact, there is a curfew for minors ( yes, did you know about it? It works, how else!), so let's call you back if you are late. Well, talk about what sanctions will be applied for being late. For example, someone who did not come home on time and did not warn about it will stay at home all next week. nine0003

If the answer is no, well, tell him again how much you love him, how much you don't want to lose him, how important he is to you.

Perhaps everything was started in order to get confirmation again: I am the most valuable thing parents have

Considering that during this period children feel like monstrous monsters, hearing “you are my treasure” will be very therapeutic.

At this age, it is important to identify new norms and rules. Until now, you have accompanied the child almost everywhere, but now he is becoming more independent, but still poorly oriented in the world around him. And he thinks a lot and, as it were, slightly twists in his favor. In general, you can’t be late, but if not much, then you can. Mom is waiting for me after class at home with dinner, but could they have detained us? Right now, the balance of power is being reconfigured: whose power is in the family? Who has control? Who is more important? In this context, “not coming home” by night is nothing more than a banal border check. What will you do to me if I defiantly disobey? nine0003

Why don't you really hit them? I would look at a specific criminal. Really, did you play too much, and then was already afraid to call, because you would scold very much? Is he trying to tell you something? (“I’m already big”, “Here I’ll die, and you will all cry”, “I don’t care what you feel, because I am disappointed in you and don’t believe you anymore”). Or is it a blatant protest?

If you accept the idea that every action is a message, you can make the right decision

"We were 15 years old when my friend decided to 'leave home'. It seemed to us then that no one understands us, our parents are tyrants, they force and torture us, they forbid us to meet, they take away the phone, they yell because of some unfortunate cup on the table. “It’s unbearable, unbearable!” sobbed pained Theophilus, the son of Baron Munchausen. We agreed with our older friends, who had their own apartment, and Dimka went there. And I walked and walked, suffered, the secret burned my mouth, but I was afraid to betray him ... It seemed to us that we were doing something supernatural, heroic, lofty.

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