Muddled and Messy

I hurriedly walked into the grocery store, itemized list in hand, grabbing the first cart I laid eyes on. Of course it was stuck. I wrestled with three more carts until one finally broke loose. I shifted my mommy speed-shopping skills into fast-forward and started down the list. Apples, bananas, carrots.

Being real with one another takes humility. And being authentic, means allowing others to see inside the messiness of our daily lives. The moments that make up who we really are. The victories, the hurts, the uncomfortable. But as we share our hearts, we need a filter. The Holy Spirit can help us sort through what things are true and good, sifting out the yuck. And if we’re still uncertain, the book of Philippians contains a pretty thorough checklist for us:

So let’s do a little experiment. Let’s work toward being more authentic with one another. Whether put-together or messy (with our Spirit filter in place of course). Here’s how it works: The next time you run into someone and are tempted to start the ping-pong game of “I’m fine–How are you”… Don’t do it! Remind yourself that God doesn’t want you to be anyone other than who He created you to be. And a true friend won’t mind a little mess.



What are some ways we can be sincere and honest with our fellow mom friends without turning conversations into royal gripe sessions? We would love to hear your ideas.



Anne-Renee Gumley

Anne-Renee is a full-time mom who works part-time at her family's party store. She has two children who keep her laughing, a husband who keeps her smiling, and an itch for writing that just won't go away.

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  1. Kristina says

    Wow!!! Just what I needed to hear!!! Thank you so much for this new blog! I am LOVING everything about it!!! You are speaking right to this mama’s heart! Thanks! The Lord sure knows when we need to hear something.:)

  2. says

    Thank you for your kind words, Kristina! Just what this mama needed to hear as well. This was my very first official blog post (I’ve only written online articles up to this point), so I was feeling quite nervous pushing that little “publish” button last night. I even dreamed that I had accidentally erased the whole site editing my post. Ha ha. But as my mom encouraged me recently, “A message prepared in the heart, reaches a heart.” Thank you for allowing me to share my heart message with you!
    ~ Anne-Renee

    • Kristin says

      I am soo glad that you DID push the publish button! You can keep posting more posts like these! Even tho you may not feel that what you write is worth while, it is helping a mom somewhere who needed to hear that very thing at that very time! God is AMAZING with that! It seems that when I need to be told something or am just having a bad day that is when I come across a blog post like this and it just gives me the boost that I needed to point me to the LORD! :) Your mom is very right in her saying! I really like that a LOT!:)
      Hope you are having an amazing day! Looking forward to more of your posts!

  3. Jane says

    You hit the nail on the head — so true, my friend, and thanks for the encouragement! P.s. Your mama gave me the same wise encouragement once (about a message from the heart) and I’ve never forgotten it!

    • says

      Well my friend Jane, sometimes the nail has to hit me on the head to get through to my heart. I tend to have a pretty tough skull. I’m sure this is a topic we’ll come back to address again. Appreciate the feedback! My heart rate has finally settled down to a somewhat normal pace now that this first post is out. Thrilled to see what God is doing and is going to do through this little project of ours. And yes, my mama is amazing at passing along pearls of wisdom. She’s a keeper! HUGS to you, friend!!!

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