How does authoritative parenting affect the child

The authoritative parenting style: An evidence-based guide

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What is authoritative parenting?

The authoritative parenting style is an approach to child-rearing that combines warmth, sensitivity, and the setting of limits. Parents use positive reinforcement and reasoning to guide children. They avoid resorting to threats or punishments.

This approach is common in educated, middle class families, and linked with superior child outcomes throughout the world.

Kids raised by authoritative parents are more likely to become independent, self-reliant, socially accepted, academically successful, and well-behaved. They are also less likely to report depression and anxiety, and less likely to engage in antisocial behavior like delinquency and drug use.

And research suggests that having at least one authoritative parent can make a big difference (Fletcher et al 1999).

But what exactly sets the authoritative parenting style apart? How is it different from authoritarian parenting? How do experts decide if you’re an authoritative parent, or practicing some other parenting style?  And why, exactly, do researchers think authoritativeness breeds success?

Here is an overview.

The authoritative parenting style: The original definition

The authoritative parenting style was first defined by Diane Baumrind, who proposed a new system for classifying parents. Her idea was to focus on the way parents attempted to control their kids (Baumrind 1966).

She recognized three major approaches to parental control:

• Permissive parents are reluctant to impose rules and standards, preferring to let their kids regulate themselves.

• Authoritarian parents demand a sort of blind obedience from their children.

• Authoritative parents take a different, more moderate approach that emphasizes setting high standards, being nurturing and responsive, and showing respect for children as independent, rational beings. The authoritative parent expects maturity and cooperation, and offers children lots of emotional support.

So what’s the main difference between authoritative parenting from permissive parenting?

Limit-setting.  

Like permissive parents, authoritative parents are responsive, nurturing, and involved. But unlike permissive parents, authoritative parents don’t let their kids get away with bad behavior. Authoritative parents take a firm stand, expecting their kids to behave responsibly.

And what’s the difference between authoritative and authoritarian parenting?

It’s all about the exercise of power. Think of the authoritarian parent as a drill sergeant. Do it now, or else! The drill sergeant tries to get his way through threats and coercion. 

By contrast, the authoritative parent aims to inspire cooperation by fostering positive feelings, and teaching kids the reasons for the rules. 

Authoritative parents communicate lots of warmth to their kids. They avoid using harsh or arbitrary punishments. They are less likely to shame their kids, or attempt to control kids by withdrawing love. 

And when their children make mistakes or misbehave, they talk with them about it. They listen to their children’s concerns, and take them into account. They help kids figure out what went wrong, and explain the consequences of good and bad behavior. 

So while they have similar-looking names, there is a big difference between authoritative and authoritarian parenting.

Authoritative parents aren’t just trying to enforce compliance. They recognize and encourage a child’s sense of autonomy. They want kids to develop self-discipline, maturity, and a respect for others. And they approach these goals by offering concrete advice and emotional support.

Summed up, some researchers have described it this way: Authoritative parents are highly demanding (like authoritarian parents), but they are also very responsive to their children’s needs (Maccoby and Martin 1983).

That’s the classic definition of the authoritative parenting style, and, using this definition, researchers have identified the authoritative parents throughout the world.

But not every authoritative parent runs his or her family the same way. There is some important variation, particularly when it comes to how much of a “vote” children get during family decision-making.

It’s one thing to read a definition, and another to put it into practice. How can you tell if you are acting like an authoritative parent?

When researchers want to identify an individual’s parenting style, they often use a kind of rubric or questionnaire. For example, they may present a parent with a series of statements, and ask the parent to rate his or her agreement on a four-point scale (1= “almost never true”, 4 = “almost always true”).

Authoritative parents tend to agree with statements like these:

• I take my child’s wishes and feelings into consideration before I ask her to do something
• I encourage my child to talk about his feelings
• I try to help when my child is scared or upset
• I provide my child with reasons for the expectations I have for her
• I respect my child’s opinion and encourage him or her to express them…even if they are different from my own

And parents are judged to be less authoritative if they agree with these statements:

• I let my child get away with leaving chores unfinished
• I bribe my child to get him to comply with my wishes
• I explode in anger toward my child
• I punish my child by withdrawing affection

So this is a good guide to follow. But authoritative parents are also good psychologists and problem-solvers. How do they talk with their kids? What tactics do they use to reason with children? How do they address their children’s emotional issues?

For help, see these evidence-based tips for implementing positive parenting practices.

But there isn’t any one, universally-accepted litmus test.

For example, the statements above might make it seem that you have to run your family like a mini-democracy in order to be authoritative. But that isn’t the case.

Or maybe you think that authoritative parenting sounds very strict. You might regard the statement about letting kids “get away with leaving chores unfinished” as evidence that authoritative parents must respond to every infraction by imposing a punishment.

Again, that’s not necessarily true.

As we’ll see below, the classic definition of authoritative parenting allows for variation in these areas. And different researchers have used different screening tools to decide who’s “authoritative. ”  

For instance, researchers in Spain have reported that adolescents from permissive families are as well-behaved and academically successful as are teens from authoritative homes. The results contradict studies that link permissive parenting with inferior child outcomes. Could cultural differences account for the mixed results? Are some studies just wrong? 

Maybe. But as I’ve argued elsewhere, it seems likely that the disagreement reflects differences in the wording of the questionnaires used to identify a parent’s style.

Alfonso Osario and his colleagues recently tested this idea, and found support for it. Once Spanish adolescents were evaluated with the same questionnaire used in the United States, authoritative care-giving was linked with the best child outcomes (Osario et al 2016).

Does authoritative parenting look the same in every family?

Not necessarily. For example, when researchers surveyed parents in four different countries — China, the United States, Russia, and Australia– they found an interesting pattern.  

In the U.S. and Australia, authoritative parents were very likely to emphasize certain democratic practices, like taking a child’s preferences into account when making family plans, or encouraging a child to express his or her own opinions (Robinson et al 1997).

But in China and Russia, authoritative parents didn’t take their children’s preferences into account when making family plans. And most authoritative parents from China didn’t encourage kids to voice their own opinions — not if those opinions were in conflict with a parent’s views (Robinson et al 1996).

What, then, did authoritative parents have in common across all four countries?

One of the biggest common denominators concerned discipline.

Authoritative parents everywhere made it a point to reason with their children (Robinson et al 1997). When their children misbehaved, they talked with them, and explained the reasons for the rules. Let’s take a closer look.

How do authoritative parents discipline their kids?

It’s called “inductive discipline,” and there is evidence that it helps kids become more empathic, helpful, conscientious, and kind to others (Krevans and Gibbs 1996; Knafo and Plomin 2006).  

It may also help prevent children from developing aggressive or defiant behavior problems (Choe et al 2013; Arsenio and Ramos-Marcuse 2014).

And inductive discipline may promote the development of morality (Patrick and Gibbs 2016).

But what is it, really? Inductive discipline is about teaching your child to think — constructively and non-selfishly — about how their behavior affects others.

The idea is that instead of trying to enforce good behavior through threats and punishments, you provide kids with the internal tools to regulate themselves:

Shaping behavior through reasoning.

For a very young child, this might mean simply explaining why she can’t touch something. That’s not for you! It’s too hot! It could burn you! But for older kids, it means talking with them — not at them — about the reasons for our policies and rules.  

Emotion coaching.

What should your child do when he feels angry? Or sad? Or scared? Inductive discipline depends on your child’s ability to cope with strong emotions, so one facet of inductive discipline is being a good “emotion coach. ”  Read tips about that here.

Emphasizing empathy and concern for others.

Inductive discipline focuses on the consequences of a child’s behavior for others. What happens when you shove your brother? How does it make him feel?

The goal of inductive discipline is to nurture a child’s intrinsic motivation to cooperate and behave with kindness (Xiao et al 2018; Xiao 2016). 

Studies show that even very young children feel empathy, and want to be helpful. So we can help kids develop moral reasoning skills by talking with them about how our behavior impacts others. For more information, see these tips for fostering empathy in children.

Why do kids from authoritative families turn out so well?

Each component of the authoritative parenting style seems to have its own benefits.

As noted above, inductive discipline—explaining the reasons for rules—has been linked with more advanced moral reasoning skills (Krevans and Gibb 1996; Kerr et al 2004).

In addition, research suggests the following points.

1. Warm, responsive parenting promotes secure attachments, and protects kids from developing internalizing problems.

2. The children of authoritative parents are less likely than the children of authoritarian parents to engage in drug and alcohol use, juvenile delinquency, or other antisocial behavior (e.g., Lamborn et al 1991; Steinberg et al 1992; Querido et al 2002; Benchaya et al 2011; Luyckx et al 2011).

3. Talking with kids about thoughts and feelings may strengthen attachment relationships and make kids into better “mind readers.”

4. Parents who avoid reprimanding kids for intellectual mistakes (e.g., “I’m disappointed in you”) may have kids who are more resilient problem-solvers and better learners (Kamins and Dweck 1999; Schmittmann et al 2006; van Duijvenvoorde et al 2008).

5. Encouraging independence in kids is linked with more self-reliance, better problem solving, and improved emotional health (e. g., Turkel and Tezer 2008; Rothrauff et al 2009; Lamborn et al 1991; Pratt et al 1988; Kamins and Dweck 1999; Luyckx et al 2011).

6. An authoritative approach to discipline may help prevent aggression and reduce peer problems in preschoolers (e.g., Choe et al 2013; Yamagata 2013).

7. Kids with warm, responsive parents are more likely to be helpful, kind, and popular.

The last point is illustrated by research conducted in the Netherlands. In this study, school kids were observed at home as they worked with their parents on a couple of puzzle tasks. Then researchers

• recorded how often parents uttered their disapproval or tried to take over the task,

• rated how often parents showed warmth, made suggestions, used induction (“What would happen if we tried this?”), or demanded mature behavior from their kids, and

• asked teachers and peers to rate each child’s social behavior.

The results are compelling. Parents who behaved more authoritatively during the puzzle task had kids who were rated as more prosocial—helpful and kind—by their teachers and peers. The kids with authoritative parents were also more popular (Dekovic and Janssens 1992).

There is even evidence that kids from authoritative homes are more attuned with their parents and less influenced by their peers.

In a study of American students, undergraduates were presented with a series of moral problems and asked how they would solve them. Students from authoritative families were more likely than others to say that their parents–not their peers–would influence their decisions (Bednar and Fisher 2003).

But there are other factors, too.

It’s likely that the benefits of authoritative child-rearing are maximized when the whole community is organized along authoritative principles. For instance, when the school climate is authoritative, kids from authoritative families may find it easier to fit in (Pellerin 2004).

In addition, some studies have reported ethnic differences–that for African-American and Chinese-Americans, there is sometimes little or no difference in academic performance between kids from authoritarian and authoritative homes.

Why? Researchers have posed several different explanations, which you can read about in this article that contrasts the effects of authoritarian parenting with the effects of authoritative parenting.

Nevertheless, there is remarkable agreement across studies. From Argentina to China, from the United States to Pakistan, the authoritative parenting style is consistently associated with superior outcomes (Steinberg 2001).

As researcher Laurence Steinberg has stated, “I know of no study that indicates that adolescents fare better when they are reared with some other parenting style” (Steinberg 2001).

As of 2017, that still seems to be the case. In a recent analysis of 428 published studies, researchers compared child outcomes throughout the world.

For every region of the globe, they found that the authoritative parenting style was associated with at least one positive child outcome (Pinquart and Kauser 2017). By contrast, authoritarian parenting was linked with at least one negative child outcome (Pinquart and Kauser 2017). The authors conclude that the authoritative approach is worth recommending everywhere.

Looking for practical advice? See my evidence-based positive parenting techniques, as well as these tips for acting as your child’s “emotion coach.”

If you’re interested in reading more about how researchers identify parenting styles, check out this Parenting Science overview, which includes a discussion of Diane Baumrind’s original model.

For more information about the difference between authoritarianism and the authoritative parenting style, see my article, “Authoritarian parenting: What happens to the kids?”

And for help drawing the line between permissiveness and authoritative parenting, see this Parenting Science article about the permissive parenting style.

Interested in the research supporting responsive, sensitive parenting? See my article about the health benefits, as well as my overview of the science of attachment parenting.

In addition, read more about the importance of treating children as independent, thinking beings, and the possibility of friendship between parents and children.

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Authoritative parenting style - MSU Extension

Tracy Trautner, Michigan State University Extension - January 19, 2017

These parents carefully define limits for children, are good role models and praise children for their efforts.

Parents in this style have high expectations, but also know the importance of open communication and provide the support their kids need to be successful. They offer consistent discipline, considering the situation. They also are role models of the behavior they expect from their children.

This parenting style involves:

• Having reasonable expectations of their children. They realize their children need meaningful experiences and freedom to be young to learn new skills.
• Understanding every stressful situation does not require parental intervention. Minor frustrations that confront a child can be an opportunity to develop coping skills.
• Learning that falling is normal while kids are young, just like teens need to break up with a girlfriend or boyfriend to appreciate the emotional maturity that lasting relationships require.
• Learning how to handle and manage frustrations and hurtful experiences when a child is young, as it gives them the tools necessary to handle situations as teenagers when they become more independent of their parents and turn to peers and others for advice.
• Encouraging independence, which teaches a child they are capable of accomplishing things on their own.

This parenting style has many positive side effects:

• Parents in this category tend to develop close, nurturing relationships with their children as they provide clear, firm and consistent guidelines.
• Children in this category are responsible, able to manage their aggression, have high self-esteem and are very self-confident.
• Parents are highly responsive, expect age-appropriate behavior and boundaries are clear and firm. Therefore, children are assertive, socially responsible, self-regulated and cooperative.
• Children are also happy, capable and successful.

Authoritative parents do not let their children get away with bad behavior.

To summarize, these parents provide:

• Consistent boundaries.
• Clear expectations.
• Appropriate expectations.
• Good communication, including listening to their children.
• Adaptations to different circumstances.

For more information on each parenting style, click on one of the styles below:

• The authoritarian parent.  This is the "because I told you so" parent who is likely to degrade a child and ignore the child’s point of view.
• The authoritative parent. This is a mom or dad who sets carefully defined limits for children, the one who is a good role model and praises children for their efforts.
• The permissive parent. This is the parent who is afraid to set limits on children or believes a child has to be true to his or her own nature.
• The overprotective parent. This is the parent who wants to protect their children from harm, hurt and pain, unhappiness, bad experiences and rejection, hurt feelings, failure and disappointments.

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How does parenting style affect a child?

What kind of parent are you? Is there a certain “general line” in your family, or are you an adherent of a free upbringing? What impact do the principles that govern parent-child relationships have on a child's life? If you want to get at least partially predictable results of parenting, it is better to ask yourself these questions as early as possible.

Parents choose their parenting style depending on many circumstances. The nature and characteristics of the personality of the parents, family history and the number of family members, the presence or absence of education, socio-economic status, cultural landscape and national traditions affect the life of the family and the growing up of children. nine0005

Parents, as a rule, repeat the style of upbringing in which they themselves were raised, or vice versa - they try with all their might to get away from it and not repeat the mistakes of their own parents. But all mothers and fathers always have the opportunity to consciously approach the solution of the problem and choose the way of raising children that will bring the greatest benefit to the child.

What's the difference?

Parenting styles can be distinguished from one another by the distribution of two criteria: control over the child's behavior and attention to him, as well as by the feelings that adults experience in relation to their son or daughter. For example, parents can love a child very much, allow him to do anything, that is, not control at all, or vice versa - closely monitor all his actions. nine0005

Usually there are 4 main styles of parenting.

Authoritarian style

Parents dominate in such families. They set authoritarian rules and never change them. The child does not participate in discussions, as he does not have the right to vote. Parents demand complete submission from him. The main thing in the family is the power of the parents, both or, more often, one of them.

At the same time, such parents love their child. They try to give him the best and do everything for him. But in relations between family members there is a lack of warmth, closeness, affection, sensitive acceptance and tender attitude towards the needs of the child. Often the desires and feelings of the child himself are not accepted and even rejected. His opinion is not taken into account. nine0005

Anxious parents tend to prefer this parenting style. They seek to reduce their inner anxiety, therefore they want to control and subordinate everything to themselves. Often, this style of parenting is resorted to by parents who had a difficult childhood, they themselves were brought up harshly. They usually have a dominant and domineering nature.

With this style of upbringing, a child can grow up without initiative, passive. He will not be able to make decisions on his own without relying on someone else's authority. In families with an authoritarian parenting style, any leadership qualities of a child are suppressed. These children are at high risk of developing addictive behavior. nine0005

Liberal style

In a family that uses a liberal parenting style, the child is the center of attention. Parents fulfill all his desires, completely trust him, while freeing themselves from responsibility for the result. The child grows up in an atmosphere of permissiveness and complete freedom of action. Parents treat him with extraordinary warmth and accept all his emotions.

The level of control in such a family is very low. Parents cannot develop certain requirements and organize the control process. Under such conditions, the child does not know what "should" means and does not fulfill almost any requirements when they arise. He often commands parents and other relatives, manipulates them and subjugates them. nine0005

Such children almost always have problems in groups, in kindergarten and at school. They often cause conflicts with peers and teachers. These children do not have a system of guidelines and values. With this style of parenting, children grow up anxious because they do not have a stable sphere of rules and norms - they do not know what is right. Basically, such children are impulsive, they are prone to disobedience, aggressiveness. They can be easily influenced by antisocial groups. nine0005

Indifferent style

With the indifferent style, parents are practically indifferent to the child, the main thing in their attitude is indifference. No one thinks about accepting the feelings and emotions of a child. There is also no control over behavior. In such a family, everyone has their own life. Parents are busy with personal problems. No attention is paid to the child and his needs. At the same time, such parents are very demanding, finding fault with the observance of order and the fulfillment of requirements. A child from an early age gets used to loneliness. He often prefers a virtual "company" to his real family. nine0005

Due to the fact that such parents neglect education and do not participate in the life of the child, his personal development is hindered. The most painful feeling of a child in such a situation is the absence of love. The child feels unworthy. He gets the feeling that he is a hindrance both for his family and for society as a whole.

Children from such families are potential owners of deviant (deviant) behavior. Often among young offenders you can meet pupils of such families. A child from such families is waiting for bleak prospects: he can grow up very aggressive and impulsive, or maybe anxious and insecure. nine0005

Authoritative style

In such families, the authority belongs to the parents, while they prefer equal relations with children. Using reasonable exactingness in education, parents set all the rules for the child, taking into account his needs and interests. The feelings and emotions of the child are always accepted, he has autonomy in resolving those issues that he is already capable of. The system of norms and rules in such a family changes depending on the age and skills of the child.

The level of adult control is high, and there is no physical or verbal aggression.

The main feature of an authoritative parenting style is respect for the personality of the child. Parents use their power depending on the situation and within reasonable limits, being strict when necessary.

Authoritative style is otherwise called democratic. Such parents strive to create a harmonious combination of independence, responsibility and discipline. The point of view, wishes and needs of the child are always taken into account. Reasonable dialogue and discussion of the problem are always used to resolve disputes. nine0005

The child is surrounded by unconditional love that does not require anything in return. He does not need to strive for good grades or absolute obedience in order to gain parental approval. It is accepted always and without any conditions. A child in such a family is loved, understood and respected. He always receives emotional support and feels secure, has adequate self-esteem and is little influenced from outside.

A child brought up in a family with an authoritative style of upbringing has purposefulness, willpower, and a developed sense of responsibility. Such children are confident in themselves and their abilities, they know what they are striving for, they are open to the world and are friendly towards it. They have no difficulty complying with social norms, they have a high level of self-control. nine0005

Choose your style

Families with a pure parenting style are rare. But the predominance of one direction can be seen in every family. It also happens that in relation to different children, parents act differently or the parenting style of the mother and father differ markedly.

From the above description it is obvious that the most harmonious personalities grow up with an authoritative style of upbringing, but it is better to avoid an authoritarian and indifferent style. In any case, it is important for parents to cooperate with each other, discuss and combine positive methods in order to create their own unique style of parenting. nine0005

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Parenting styles can be divided into four groups according to two of their characteristics. nine0005

On the one hand, exactingness or discipline towards the child. They are characterized by the ability to set boundaries, stay true to their requirements and expect from the child behavior appropriate for his age. On the other hand, support or warmth that a parent offers to his child. This is the ability to encourage a child, give him a sense of security and care. A supportive parent is able to notice the true needs of the child and respond to them with support. nine0005

In the next graph, you can see all four styles of parenting.

Each style of parenting and how it affects a child's behavior will be presented next.

Authoritative parenting style

The authoritative style combines discipline on the one hand and warmth and responsiveness on the other. According to scientific research, it is considered the most effective parenting style.

In case of authoritative parenting style:

• the parent makes high demands on the child;
• explain to the child the reasons for the established requirements;
• the parent is able to set clear boundaries while at the same time encouraging and supporting the child;
• the child's skills and independent development are supported;
• there is a balance between the satisfaction of their needs and the needs of the child, which provides the child with a sense of security.

An authoritative parent sets boundaries, clarifies what is happening, and demands age-appropriate behavior from their child, as well as inspires and helps them. The requirements are reasonable, the boundaries are set. In order to achieve obedience, the parent does not use force, but applies flexible control. If the child makes an effort to achieve his goal, this is followed by praise from the parent.

• satisfied;
• has a high degree of self-control;
• has good social skills;
• is confident that he is able to learn new things;
• is less likely to develop risky behavior.

• the parent provides little support to the child;
• the requirements are not always appropriate for the age of the child; nine0106
• the parent believes that the child must obey him, and only he knows what the child needs;
• The child is not explained why the established rules are good - it just has to be so, period!
• in order for the child to obey the parent, punishments are used (causing discomfort or pain to the child), under the influence of which the child himself may show aggression towards others.

• obedient, and, as a rule, he is doing well at school;
• does not feel parental support;
• is afraid to address his parents with his problems;
• more dissatisfied, anxious;
• has lower communication skills;
• less creative, more passive and closed;
• has lower self-esteem. nine0106

Permissive parenting style

The permissive, permissive parent gives the child a lot of support but fails to set boundaries. In the family, the child determines how things should be.

In the case of a permissive parenting style:

• the parent suppresses his needs because the needs of the child are in the first place for him; nine0106
• the parent lives for the sake of the child and fulfills almost all his desires - even those that in reality do not suit the parent at all;
• parental instructions leave much to be desired, so the child must decide for himself what he will do and what will not.

What effect does a permissive parenting style have on a child? Child:

• gets used to getting everything he wants;
• he has a heavy workload because he has to make his own decisions; nine0106
• does not know how to take into account the interests of others;
• does not learn to regulate itself;
• may feel unloved.

Indifferent parenting style

An indifferent parenting style that leaves the child without proper attention is characterized by both low discipline and support. Although the parent exists in the life of the child, satisfying his primary needs, there is no close connection between him. nine0005

In case of indifferent parenting style:

• the parent does not have the time or ability to spend time with the child;
• the parent is not interested in the life of the child;
• the parent does not set boundaries necessary for the life of the child;
• communication between parent and child is superficial.

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